so how do i broach this?

[SweetThickLips]

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Because I'm not shy and I love my pussy...here you go.

Hope this works.

 

[preacher72]

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Because I'm not shy and I love my pussy...here you go.

Hope this works.

It definatley is fuckable looks delicious too. Wow how does he not want that?

 

[30bandits]

mmmm....looks great...may I have a lick(s)?

 

[SweetThickLips]

It definatley is fuckable looks delicious too. Wow how does he not want that?

That's my question.. How not?

 

[SweetThickLips]

mmmm....looks great...may I have a lick(s)?

Please take several

 

[preacher72]

That's my question.. How not?

I dont know thats so crazy. It gets me so hard id be diving right into that face first get a nice long taste of it before i ravage it!

 

[30bandits]

Please take several

I planned on it...it's why I added the (s).......c'mon over or i'll be right there.

 

[Aphro]

I'm a stay at home mom right now, so money is tight, but we don't fight about it all the time though it can get stressful. I find his cum rags half under the bed most mornings when I go around collecting laundry. It pisses me off because I'm right in the other room, wanting and he ignores me. It's all bullshit and I'm not pissed at myself, I'm mad at him.

Why are you in the other room? You don't sleep together?

 

[SweetThickLips]

Yes we sleep together, I mean when I'm in the living room/kitchen/laundry room he's in the bedroom.

 

[ForHerToUse]

That sounds like a fantastic idea!

Did you try this?

 

[SweetThickLips]

I'm not sure what you mean

 

[preacher72]

Yes we sleep together, I mean when I'm in the living room/kitchen/laundry room he's in the bedroom.

Have you tried dominating him?

 

[DVS]

It was gradual until 6 months ago and then it was an abrupt stop. He used to satisfy me almost all the time (you can't expect everything to be great all the time), but then he just stopped. As far as a sexual awakening...I've always been kinky but ever since he's been rejecting me, for lack of a better phrase, I've gone into a hyperdrive. I'm craving sex all the time, and it's not soft love making i'm looking for. He's getting what he wants and I'm left hanging unless I being myself to O during sex.

When you say he used to satisfy you, do you mean in the dom/sub sense or just sexual sense? People can change over time, but I don't know why he would change from something I'd see as pleasure. There's nothing more I'd like than to have kinky sex with a willing woman. It seems he's lost interest, or has just found a good thing and he doesn't have to do any work.

If the sexual satisfaction from before wasn't of the kinky nature, maybe he's just not into being a dom? Not all men are. And maybe he knows this, and just doesn't know how to tell you. Or maybe he's tried and has just lost interest, because he doesn't have the dom gene inside. Yes, I'm giving him a pass by saying that, but if he has communication issues, he just might not be able to say it. And speaking of hyperdrive...you know, when you want something you can't have, it tends to eat at you, hence the hyperdrive.

Seriously, I don't understand this from him. Without knowing more about any personal issues such as overbearing stress at work or financial issues that could be eating at him, etc. If it were me, I'd be all over you. What you are craving should be any dom's desire.

 

[Heatseekher]

i can't see that there's 1 simple answer to this so here's my 2 penneth.....

1/ Porn has been shown not to be healthy for many guys. Irrespective of whether he gets something out of it/jacks off it potentially has a mental and physical effect.
So assuming that he knows you know he watches it, why can't you watch it together - even if that means you prepping the viewing/room to start with?

2/ The timeline you mentioned is fairly long if the decline goes back 2 kids worth?
Aside from talking aboiut what you like/need - did you ask 'why' ? I can understand not having the extra people in your lives, but why not the toys, why not some of the other things you'd have got up to?
Knowing the answer to that i'd think is key?

3/ He isn't having a sexual relationship with you. By the sounds of it you're a living masturbatory device. Sorry, but think that's clear if he really does just lie back and do bugger all.

4/ personally i couldn't countenance the ' if i don't get it with you can i go elsewhere' conversation, that can of worms could have massive consequences.
However, what is his reaction to the statement ' i really miss, i'd really like etc' - total disinterest or?

5/ poss not applicable, but hey, you never know. How'd he react if you tied him up and then proceeded to watch porn, take care of yourself - would that likely raise his blood pressure and get a reaction when untied? or tell him what you wnat/need in parallel to whatever is on the dvd - ' i remember when you used to....i love that...ya de ya

6/ does he acknowledge that something isn't right?
How about playing the yes/no/urrgh game?
basically away from the bedroom but in a quiet shared moment raise something like ' i was reading in a magazine about ....' and then throw out a few things to gauge his reaction. Such as ' i read that 40% of couples do xyz - would that be hot or not?
i did this with wifey a few years back and was surprised at some of teh answers - moreover, when there was a 'no or an urrgh - it gave the chance to ask 'why'....and in our case often the 'no' was a gut reaction.
This is only applicable if he won't really communicate normally.

7/ Beware the smokescreen - the answer/statement that says nothing yet covers all; we don't get time ( make time), sometimes i don't think you're up for it ( ok i'll wear a bell and a sign round my neck)...cut through smokescreens by digging deeper.

Bottom line. Sounds like sex for him has become focused on ejaculation, time to try to educate him that there's way more out there and a 3 minute wank doesn't scratch the surface. Life does get in the way sometimes and sex lives do ebb and flow, especially when there are kids around. Habits are easy to form and harder to break - and in truth we can all feel up for it 1 moment only to flag by the time the opportunity arises. So, i hope that you can delve deeper, and lead him down the path - that being the case he could well wake up and make his own way without your lead.

Good luck.

 

[midwestyankee]

How do I add a pic? I want to know if anyone here thinks my pussy isn't fuckable.

Unless it's missing or diseased, every pussy is fuckable. Clearly this problem has messed with your self-confidence.

I'm not so sure that you have a sex problem as much as you have a relationship problem that's being manifested through your sex life. I strongly urge the two of you to do some serious marriage counseling together if you want to save the marriage.

 

[tasteyourthighs]

Yes ..

Your a woman with needs , we as people need love and attention , let him know

 

[subwannabe]

Hmmmmmmmmm. To think of something that nobody else has brought up yet. There's obviously more going on here than meets the eye. They say that many problems in the bedroom have their roots elsewhere and I think that is definitely the case here. Tracing the root cause isn't always easy though. It could be the kids. It could be money being tight. Could be anything. Maybe instead of talking about sex you need to first have a heart to heart about the rest of your lives. Would he let you tie him up? If so, I would tie him up and tease him mercilessly until he started talking.

 

[FantasyGir1]

I commented early on in this thread but I wanted to say I'm so glad you're getting such great advice. I haven't posted much on this board yet, but there are obviously some FANTASTIC people here!!! I'm anxious to hear how things progress for you, sweet girl. (((Hugs)))

 

[Living_Voice]

Go to a fetish club together and show him what he is missing

 

[rhod101]

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Because I'm not shy and I love my pussy...here you go.

Hope this works.

It looks good enough to eat.

I'm in a similar situation to you with my wife. It's not easy and it sure as hell isn't fun. You have my sympathy. I've tried suggesting coming on here, reading stories, watching porn, talking about fantasies but nothing works.

You have a major advantage though in that he has a sex drive and has previously been up to muster. You just need to get him back there with some tweaks. I think the advice above is good. Have an open, honest conversation with him and tell him how you feel and how his lack of action is making you feel. No ultimatums, just a grown up conversation.

If that doesn't work, then maybe suggest counselling and the medical tests to see if it is something physical that's causing a lack of energy or vitality. It could be that he's tired/exhausted/depressed about something else and doesn't want to worry you. Us men can be like that.

Good luck with everything anyway. And yes, again, your pussy is very, very fuckable.

 

[rhod101]

Just out of interest, but do you think that this could be because he now sees you as a mother of his children as opposed to a sexual being and is having a hard time separating that in his head? I know a few guys that saw their wife in labour and from that moment thought of their wives' pussies as being for kids, not for enjoyment.

Especially considering you want him to cause you physical pain (admittedly in a sexual and consensual way) and you're now more than a wife/girlfriend/partner to him now.

 

[SweetThickLips]

Well had to talk to him sooner than I anticipated. We got into an argument about something stupid, I asked him why he was so angry and cold and his answer..."I recent you".

BAM! There it is.

His reason? I stay at home with our kids (agreed upon before we even got pregnant with the first). Because he has to work and I get to stay home and sit on my ass. RIIIIGGGHHHHTTTTT! Though his wording was a little more in depth, that was what I retained. So I had told him that we need to talk about things and since we are unable to communicate...we should seek a therapist, if not then we need to think about separating because this relationship is no good for any of us (he and I and our kids).

His response? "Fine I'll start making arrangements to move out, I'm not wasting my time on a therapist". So, I guess that's it. I'm going to be divorced at the same age as parents. Another statistic. Just another crushing blow.

Thanks everyone who offered sound advice, I'm willing to try anything to save my marriage, but I can't do it alone. He's checked out.

 

[DVS]

Well had to talk to him sooner than I anticipated. We got into an argument about something stupid, I asked him why he was so angry and cold and his answer..."I recent you".

BAM! There it is.

His reason? I stay at home with our kids (agreed upon before we even got pregnant with the first). Because he has to work and I get to stay home and sit on my ass. RIIIIGGGHHHHTTTTT! Though his wording was a little more in depth, that was what I retained. So I had told him that we need to talk about things and since we are unable to communicate...we should seek a therapist, if not then we need to think about separating because this relationship is no good for any of us (he and I and our kids).

His response? "Fine I'll start making arrangements to move out, I'm not wasting my time on a therapist". So, I guess that's it. I'm going to be divorced at the same age as parents. Another statistic. Just another crushing blow.

Thanks everyone who offered sound advice, I'm willing to try anything to save my marriage, but I can't do it alone. He's checked out.

Do you have any way to get him to listen? Do you know any of his friends who could get him to listen to reason? Why jeopardize a marriage, if it's possible to save it...if for nothing else, for your kids.

He said he's not wasting his time on a therapist. That can mean he feels he's at fault and doesn't want to fess up to it or be outed as the cause. And he could have wanted a way out and sees this as a way. If he wants out, he's not going to want to try and save the marriage.

He resents you? He has a warped sense of what a housewife does while at home all day. It's a tough job. Maybe he doesn't like his job or something and sees your position as better than his crappy job. Someone in a crappy job might see any other position as better.

If he feels trapped by something, in his job or in the marriage, he can say he resents you and use that as a way to cope. He points his anger at something he can get a reaction from. If he has something else in his life that isn't working like he thinks it should be, he could be under stress because of that.

But, if he really resents you and really wants out of the marriage, and he refuses to seek counseling, it's on him. You can't do it for him. He has to want it. Maybe he'll calm down and you can reason with him. I don't know how long you've been married, but you have kids. He should think of how this will affect the kids.

They look up to him as dad. He needs to think about how they will feel if dad moves out of the house. It would be very strange and difficult to understand at a young age. They will also think it's their fault. That's how kids are.

 

[SweetThickLips]

They are almost 5yr old boy and almost 2yr old girl. They are going to be just as fucked up over this as I when when my parents split. I really don't want them to go through this.

 

[FantasyGir1]

They are almost 5yr old boy and almost 2yr old girl. They are going to be just as fucked up over this as I when when my parents split. I really don't want them to go through this.

I'm really sorry it's coming to this. It took me a long time to realize my kids were better off having two happy parents living apart, than two miserable parents living together. I truly believe if this is handled correctly, they will be more than ok. Feel free to PM me if you need a listening ear.