smoker

[stageleft]

im having fantastic raunchy sex with a girl i work with.thing is she is a heavy smoker and when she kisses me its like licking the bottom of a dirty old ash tray..it really is awful and horrible..the sex is mindblowing but i dread kissing her because of the nasty stale cigarette taste!!YUK!!is this a common problem with others?

 

[Suzins]

I'm a smoker. And I really wish I wasn't. But I do know EXACTLY what you mean. It stinks and it has to taste terrible kissing somebody who smokes.

My current partner is a non-smoker, and he hates it. But doesn't complain about it at all.

One day I said to him, my pussy has had more kisses than my mouth. That is when he brought it up and said basically the same thing that you think about the awful taste.

So I obliged by saying that I would always brush my teeth first before getting all kissy kissy. Odly enough, I kinda figured it was that and the night before had brushed a couple of times, but I didn't bring it up and he didn't go in to check it out LOL Because he just figured.

I'd say you could tactfuly bring it up outside of the bedroom saying you know I'd really spend more time kissing you than I have, but I really don't like the taste the cigarettes leave in your mouth. And then appologize either before or after you say that.

Us smokers know we smell. For all the literature out today about it all. I'm actually sometimes embarassed about the fact that I smoke.

Hopefully one day your friend and me won't taste so bad LOL But until then I'd say Crest and Dentyne!!

 

[silverwhisper]

i too smoke. i try not to for a few hours before being intimate w/ the mrs (IOW, i only do it during work hours) and that seems to help. brushing more often and mouthwash are probably good. getting her not to smoke after eating would probably help as well. those are the second toughest cigarettes to kick (first hardest: while drinking alcohol) but if she cares about you, she could try.

try not attacking the smoking head-on. she spends a lot of money on this.

how serious is your relationship?

ed

 

[bisexplicit]

My boyfriend smokes, and I also don't enjoy kissing him right after. But gum, mouthwash, or brushing his teeth pretty much seems to mask it.
The thing that I hate, though, is the fact that he'll still smell like cigarettes (his hair, his body...), so most of the time as soon as he gets to my place he takes a shower.
Hes working on quitting, though, and obviously that is a preferable thing health-wise...but its difficult, and its taking a while.

 

[stageleft]

hi suzins.xx.im very grateful for your helpful post.the girl im having sex with at work is also a cherished close friend.she has offered me the most wonderful affectionate sex and i dare not mention her smoking for fear of offending her in anyway.i really wish it wasnt spoiling it so much for me as i dearly love nothing more than to kiss a girl very affectionately.once again thanks for your post suzins.xx.take care.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

I always thought that if one member of a couple smoked, and the other used chewing tabacco, then when they kissed it would be like a spitoon kissing an ashtray. But that's just a thought.

My wife smokes, despite many attempts to quit. I don't have sex with her unless she's brushed her teeth and used mouthwash. One of my exes smoked like a freight train and I promised myself that though they're her lungs that she's destroying, it's my mouth that she's kissing and I won't have that taste in my mouth.

Ya gotta tell her that you can't do that anymore. Hopefully she's not one of those militant smokers that'll jump your shit for a stupid-ass reason, like her right to inflict all the mouth cancer she can handle as long as she can have her smokes.

Good luck.

 

[bisexplicit]

hi suzins.xx.im very grateful for your helpful post.the girl im having sex with at work is also a cherished close friend.she has offered me the most wonderful affectionate sex and i dare not mention her smoking for fear of offending her in anyway.i really wish it wasnt spoiling it so much for me as i dearly love nothing more than to kiss a girl very affectionately.once again thanks for your post suzins.xx.take care.

Considering shes a "friends with benefits" type, while you still can mention the smoking thing, it seems a lot less likely that she'll be interested in quitting for your relationships sake.
However, if you're worried about offending her...talk to her about your health concerns.
If you're not concerned about her health, and instead just concerned about her breath - and yet still too embarassed to say anything - start carrying around mints and/or gum and offer them to her subtly (after taking one yourself).

 

[DevilsAngel369]

From my experience, non-smokers do not like kissing smokers. If you're the smoker the best thing is to be curteous and brush/use mouthwash or chew gum.

 

[SweetErika]

I think most smokers (especially if they've dated other smokers) understand the taste after a cigarette is icky, and would understand if you said something like, "I really love kissing you, but sometimes the smell and taste after you've had a cigarette take away from the experience. Maybe we could keep a toothbrush, mouthwash, or even some mints on hand at my place?"

I wouldn't launch into the 'I'm concerned about your health...' or any other anti-smoking speech...it'll likely get her defensive and won't help the kissing problem. Be situation-specific, and I'm guessing she'll be happy to do whatever she can to taste good for you.

 

[stageleft]

what to say?

i wish i had the confidence to say the right thing about the(smoking after taste)shes very sensitive and self-concious and i wouldnt be able to forgive myself if i offended her in anyway.i may just try the suggestion to offer her some freshmint gum casualy in conversation.(thanks to all who have posted)

 

[Guest]

im having fantastic raunchy sex with a girl i work with.thing is she is a heavy smoker and when she kisses me its like licking the bottom of a dirty old ash tray..it really is awful and horrible..the sex is mindblowing but i dread kissing her because of the nasty stale cigarette taste!!YUK!!is this a common problem with others?

I'm a smoker as well, and so is my S.O. I brush my teeth constantly, and always have tic tacs. Why don't you ask her to brush your teeth together? It can be fun watching each other make faces with a mouth fool of toothpaste.

Or be kind by telling her how you feel.

 

[Sensual Man 05]

Try offering a mint beforehand. Pop one in your mouth too. Then it seems you're both trying to freshen up the breath. Doesn't seem targeted at him/her at that point.

 

[Sensual Man 05]

oh and Stageleft I know this is a late answer but I was just responding to your thread since you were kind enough to respond to mine!

 

[boston_bbw]

I actually spend some time kissing a smoker.. even right after he finishes a cigerette. I am a non-smokler and swore I would never kiss a smoker. Surprisingly it's not nearly as bad as I anticipated it would be.. or maybe kissing him is so good I don't care ...

 

[Eilan]

My husband smokes cigars and the occasional pipe, and to be honest, I don't really notice any taste issues. He doesn't smoke every day, though, so that might make a difference.

 

[covariant]

I used to have a girlfriend that smoked, and I really didn't notice that much. I've always thought that it was because we were so young, that our bodies were less sensitive to it (or maybe it was just that she was such a hot fuck). I don't think I could tolerate it now, I've become more sensitive to smoking over the years.

 

[firefighter02]

I agree with Halo...

I've always found that a big dip of Copenhagen tween my cheek and gum is enough to cure any woman of smoking and then kissing me.

 

[Momma of Fire]

Just tell her you have a fetish for a foamy mouth, and hand her the Colgate and a tooth brush