Smart is hot?

[Beholders_Eye]

The reality is that the time people spend together is not solely one of continuous sexual action(s). So, what do you talk about when you are not actively (physically) engaged in wanton, lusty playtime? America's Got Talent? The Kardashians? Cat videos? My own preference is something deeper than those. Intelligent conversation, educated, humorous, perhaps well-read. Sharing experiences, life lessons, rational views.... So, yes, if that means that the lovers are also smart, that could make for something rich and fulfilling. Then, after the exchange of enlightened discourse...fuck again. Rinse and repeat....

(of course, if watching America's Got Talent gets a fellow laid, then just tell me what channel it is on...)

 

[EDZ314]

Yes, this thread has gone to some fascinating places and I’m thoroughly entertained by the diversity of perspectives offered! I hope it continues!!

And I agree with you @stickygirl about the puzzle piece people analogy. What I find interesting is completely unique to me.

I think this thread still has legs so, going back to the OP's statement, many of the stories you read are written by men and are of course entirely fantasy. I'll take your word for the way you find women portrayed because tbh, I don't read many of the stories at Lit, but if these male writers are turned on by either bimbos or doms it says more about the authors than real women.

In the case of bimbos, the fantasy is they can be easily manipulated for fast, guilt-free sex. Men writing about doms have a mummy complex, want to have their botty spanked, but overall seek to have the responsibilities of being a man taken from them for a short time ( as long as they have change for the meter ).

Then there's the question of what smart means. Discussing covalent bonds and up and down quarks must be niche porn and who knows, it might get you laid? Looks like it's worked for Estaccato con brio ! For me it was lasers and sail boats, but each to their own. The whole issue of nuclear forces can be avoided by using condoms btw.

So are we talking hooking up with geeks or someone who is emotionally intelligent? Does one preclude the other? The autistic spectrum includes many in the geekosphere who may struggle with EI. Quite often super intelligent people have an understanding of what a good relationship ought to be but have no idea how to get there, or if they have even arrived at Happy Sex Central. There will always be exceptions of course - where does Lizbeth from Dragon Tattoo fit ( smart, hot but totally fucked up ) ?

My own experience leads me to visualise people shaped like jigsaw pieces from a 7 billion-sized puzzle. Some pieces will fit if you mash them down hard enough; others can fit their bulb perfectly into another person's hollow but then their colours don't match. Hopefully people can find a close match and, if it's not stretching the analogy too far, find they fit with others pairings that go to make up the whole weird frigging picture that is our world.

Natalie Portman mentioned "I'd rather be smart than a movie star" but I'm just glad she's both

 

[MasterDaddySir]

I’ve never been able to stay interested in women who aren’t intelligent, driven, career-oriented, etc.

Even in college, I couldn’t stay interested in women who weren’t already planning their careers. I dated a gorgeous Irish brunette during my sophomore year. She was tall, attractive, fun, adventurous, loved sex, etc. but she didn’t read, didn’t watch the news, didn’t really want a career in her field of study. i stopped seeing her after a friend made a Jimmy Olsen joke (Superman’s pal, Jimmy Olsen) and she didn’t get it. When i started to explain, she cut me off and said “oh, I don’t like classic literature”. Ugh. We broke up the next day,

Totally agree. If I ever see "I don't read much" in a bio I'm outta there in a flash.

 

[yowser]

I imagine many of you are aware of the term 'sapiosexual' - the notion that intelligence in another has a high erotic charge. Those who like stories for which this is a theme might want to check out either the Geek Pride challenges or the sapiosexual tag.