Small mouth and oral sex

[PoisonBeauty]

Hello all...

I have got a problem that's been bugging me for a while. I have a very small mouth... i can barely open it up to the width of my two fingers (and i have small hands). Oral sex has always been difficult with average sized men and my lover is above average in size, so oral sex when he is fully erect is nearly impossible. Sometimes I can get my jaw to stretch for a minute or two to take him just enough to tease him, but sucking long enough to make him cum is absolutely impossible. I tried once, pushed myself past my limits and my jaw popped and snaped closed on its own. Needless to say that RUINED our sex that night. I still feel horrible about the pain it caused him.

Does anyone know of anyway to stretch one's jaw to be able to open it wider? Aside from oral sex, dental work is painful, too. This is a real nuisance. Not only do I feel very inadequate because of this, but I love giving him blow jobs (I think his penis is absolutely beautiful) and it kills me not to be able to bring him to orgasm like that. He doesn't care for hand jobs, so that isn't really a good alternative.

*sigh*

Poison

PS. I apologize if this has been brought up before.

 

[Nicole]

Poison, even if the topic has been breached before, it hasn't been breached by you and if we all stopped asking questions because they've "been asked before" then you wouldn't have any new question's posted at all. Sorry but that needed to be said first up.

Secondly, I'm sorry for your problem, I've never been there so wouldn't know how that must make you feel, it'd kill me if I couldn't take my man's cock into my mouth (Like you, I think his cock is gorgeous).

Have you tried things like making your own ice popsicle (sorry I'm not sure what there called in The States) and making use of that to stretch your muscles? Practise daily, although I'm not sure if this would work or not.

I wish you the best of luck and hope that one day you'll be able to suck him until he cums in your mouth

 

[ldlarry52]

My wife had a similar problem due to a child hood accident. She had difficulty getting more than just the tip of my seven inch cock in her mouth. With time she slowly has been able to take more and more. She can now almost deep throat me.

Would make two suggestions: one buy some dildos in increasing sizes and practice, two learn to get him off orally using your tongue and lips. If you ever watch porn the ladies get a nice reaction from the male performer using this technque.

One other thought, though no doubt embarsing see a doctor about what can reasonablly be done to correct the problem.
Remeber doctors are men and women just like you. They like sex, too.

My wife needed a little help medically to enable her to open her mouth wider due her injury.

Good luck, LDLarry52

 

[Bobmi357]

I can see where you might think this is a problem. But really it isn't. We all need to make do with what we've been given. So my suggestion would be to learn to work around the problem if you can't fix the problem.

Having a small mouth isn't necessarily a bad thing, and perhaps it does mean that you'll never be able to deep throat your man. Excersizes to increase your oral opening size might help, but that would take a long time before it pays off and you'd need to do a lot of it before you notice any real difference. I'm afraid this falls under the Penis Size Envy/Boob Size Envy issues. You got blessed with a small mouth and need to learn to compensate in other ways for it. I'd suggest trying the following;

Find yourself a flavored lube that you like the taste of, then use the lube, in conjunction with your hands and your mouth to get him off. If you can get the head of his penis in your mouth for short durations, then save that for the grand finale. There are a some guys out there that might complain because you can't "Deep Throat" him. But the simple fact is few real men will complain about your technique. Blowjobs are gifts from heaven and shouldn't be questioned.

The porno movies show most blowjobs to be more hand jobs than pure blow jobs, if you want to please your guy, use the same method. If certainly won't kill him if you can't deep throat him, and quite honestly if he gets really upset over this, then he's not worth having around. Sex is an important part of a relationship, but to consider one part of sex as a defining issue would be wrong.

Try my suggestion, I doubt he'll complain any and stop worrying that you can't take him all the way in. Its no reflection on you personally or your appeal as a woman because you can't.

 

[ReadyOne]

Plastic surgens exist so they can help people like you. Their other activities of augmentation and tucks for cosmetics may pay the bills, but cleft plates and accident reconstruction and helping people like you are what makes them feel most rewarded.

Don't be afraid to talk to them, and ask them to work with your finances. Since you need it for medical, not cosmetic reasons, many will try very hard to make things affordable to you. They may also convience the insurance to help out.

 

[Bobmi357]

Don't be afraid to talk to them, and ask them to work with your finances. Since you need it for medical, not cosmetic reasons, many will try very hard to make things affordable to you. They may also convience the insurance to help out.

I disagree RO. Nothing in her post suggested this was a life threatening condition. No insurance company is going to pay for an operation just because the recipient is unable to give oral sex to her man. Insurance companies will pay for a lot of things, but I don't believe this is one of them. Besides, oral sugery, which could result in their breaking her jaw and grafting in more bone taken from another part of her body is kind of an extreme response to her concerns eh?

 

[ReadyOne]

While I haven't seen the lady in question, I'd give her the benefit of the doubt and encourage her to get a professional consultation. You'd be suprised what can sometimes happen...

 

[sandy81]

I find this question really interesting because I have the same exact problem. I can barely get two fingers in my mouth. I once heard a dentist telling his Nurse that children could open their mouths wider than I could. I was wondering this same thing the other day, if it were possible for me to give a guy a blowjob with the smallness of my mouth. At times I just convinced myself that if a guy is not able to accept my "disability" of not being able to open my mouth wide enough to give them a blow job, then that is their problem, not mine, and if they can't deal with it then they are not worth it. However there is also a small part of me that really does want to experience giving a blowjob at least once.

I'm interested to hear what others have to say about this, and I'm hoping others can suggest something other than 'have surgery done', because this problem isn't worth having my jaw broken over in my opinion.

 

[Meat Whistler]

My wife had a similar problem due to a child hood accident. She had difficulty getting more than just the tip of my seven inch cock in her mouth. With time she slowly has been able to take more and more. She can now almost deep throat me.

Would make two suggestions: one buy some dildos in increasing sizes and practice, two learn to get him off orally using your tongue and lips. If you ever watch porn the ladies get a nice reaction from the male performer using this technque.

One other thought, though no doubt embarsing see a doctor about what can reasonablly be done to correct the problem.
Remeber doctors are men and women just like you. They like sex, too.

My wife needed a little help medically to enable her to open her mouth wider due her injury.

Good luck, LDLarry52

I agree with LD's suggestion of purchasing a dildo in varying sizes. Start off with something slightly smaller than your SO's, then increase the size as you feel more comfortable. Generally speaking, you should be able to adjust as you practive.

Good Luck.

 

[N8Dreams]

Poison,

guess you should use a set of dildos for streching your mouth.

 

[PoisonBeauty]

Thanks all for your responses. I think I will certainly try dildos before surgery. I'd considered this, but I'd never heard of anyone stretching their jaw muscles before so I didn't think it would work.

And Sandy, I've been told the same thing by dentists about children being able to open their mouths wider. I hate that. I'm terrified of the dentist as it is, I don't need sarcastic remarks to make it all even less comfortable.

Okay, while oral sex is the biggest thing on my mind right now, having a small mouth causes plenty of other problems. The biggest one being having any dental work done. The smallest block they use renches my mouth open so hard it sit through the entire procedure trying not to cry in pain... the pain has induced panic attacks. Not that I have an easy time not being panicky with a person jamming needles and other strange contraptions into my mouth. I usually can't eat without pain for several days after any work I have done. I've told dentists about it and all they really say is I have to bear it because they need to be able to get in there. Well how nice. I'm sorry, but this could never, ever be mistaken for "good pain".

This is the main reason I never considered speaking to a doctor about it... wouldn't a dentist know how to handle this problem? I mean come, on, if he (or she) can't get his fingers in there wouldn't it also follow that i can not eat properly? I can't eat a regular turkey sandwich on bread at a restaurant without having to remove most of the sandwich filling. Don't even get me started on corn on the cob... or bananas. Don't EVEN get me started on bananas. Just once I would like to be able to eat a banana out of the peel and not have to break it into little pieces like some sort of extremely sex-paranoid prude.

My S.O. has never had any complaints about my inability, except for that one little incident. This is something that _I_ want to be able to do.

Thanks again,
Poison

 

[SlickTony]

Hey, PoisonBeauty, I have exactly the same problem. I wouldn't bother with the plastic surgery--no offense, but I think ReadyOne's suggestion is fucked. It's true plastic surgeons can do purely amazing stuff but it's questionable, sometimes, whether they even should, and if you don't believe this, take a look at Michael Jackson and compare him with the other members of his family.

I have been the bane of dentists in two hemispheres--one said that his job would be easier if I had zippers in my cheeks. OTOH, all these stories (which I more than half suspect are urban myths) about people waking up from nitrous oxide or twilight sleep to find themselves being orally raped by their dentists--I don't worry about them. I can't imagine a dentist (1) daring to go in there or (2) even admitting that he fit.

I think Bobmi gave the best advice, with the graduated dildos and pointing out that the best blowjobs are mostly handjobs anyway.

Still, I can't help hoping that there is reincarnation--I'd love to come back as someone who can give blow jobs easily (the way I always seem to be able to in my dreams) and, moreover, eat a hamburger without gettng mustard on her ears.

 

[James G 5]

I think Bobmi gave the best advice, with the graduated dildos and pointing out that the best blowjobs are mostly handjobs anyway.

Still, I can't help hoping that there is reincarnation--I'd love to come back as someone who can give blow jobs easily

NOT true. The BEST ones have little to no hand contact, or it's a handjob, not a blow job.

Having said that, I have been with one lady who had similar jaw issues and another who has the WORST gag reflex I have ever seen, and both were able to use their hands, general sexuality, and a lot of teasing licks to still make the act super enjoyable

It's apples & oranges tho. IMHO, of course

 

[Imi]

Maybe I'm all wet here, but it sounds like something that isn't just sex related. Maybe I'm reaching but do you have TMJ or something like it?

http://www.coolnurse.com/tmj.htm

As pointed out, dentists are people too and that means they are fallable and sometimes think they know everything when they don't. I had a coworker who always went to a dentist that specialized in TMJ for that very reason.

It strikes me that you might want to seek a specialist. If you need to get your mouth open to get adequate dental work done, you get the side benefit of pleasing your lover.

Back to the original question, I have a small mouth period. I can open my jaws wide, but it's still a small mouth. With practice and some helpful hints from a few friends, I was able to develop breathing techniques that help, plus I learned a rhythmn. Hubby tells me I give a pretty good BJ now. About damn time, took me 10 years....

 

[James G 5]

Back to the original question, I have a small mouth period. I can open my jaws wide, but it's still a small mouth. With practice and some helpful hints from a few friends, I was able to develop breathing techniques that help, plus I learned a rhythmn. Hubby tells me I give a pretty good BJ now. About damn time, took me 10 years....

Not to question your veracity, but maybe you need a second opinion?

 

[raverboi27]

Have heard of this with an ex who had a slight case of lockjaw(tinitus?)

 

[peachykeen]

lockjaw(tinitus?)

tinitus (sp?) is ringing in the ears. You're thinking of tetanus.

 

[raverboi27]

You're absolutely right *feels stupid*

 

[crazybbwgirl]

TMJ sounds like something you should look into. I've been troubled with TMJ on and off my whole life. While it has never stopped me from giving a blow job - it can be a real pain. Maybe a more severe case could?

Also - have you ever gone to a chiropractor? They might be able to give you some help or even some stretching exercises. My chiropractor always winces when he hears my jaw crackle and pop! lol

 

[SexyChele]

You say you have a small mouth, but what is it that is small? Do you lips not stretch that wide? Or is it the jaw itself that won't open?

If you are dealing with the lips, it is a simple matter to work and stretch the muscles in your face to accommodate a penis. If the problem is your jaw, then you have a different problem entirely. And no amount of varying sized dildos will change that. Why? Because your jaw is bone, not muscle. And you can't stretch bone.

I have TMJ from night-time (and some time day time) teeth clenching/grinding. I have almost the exact opposite problem that you do. If I stretch my mouth open too wide, it locks open. (Okay, stop with the graphic humor already, you guys! ) I've only had it happen once, and that was in a dentist's office, so I was lucky.

You stated when you tried to perform oral sex one time, your jaw snapped shut? That's typically a symptom of a form of TMJ. IF this is true, you do NOT want to mess around with this on your own, trust me.

You state you have a fear of dentists and it is unfortunate that your dentist has been less than considerate about your condition. This is what I would do. Make an appointment to see him for a consultation. This way you won't be stressed out because he is doing "work." Talk to him one on one and tell him that opening your mouth is extremely uncomfortable and that when he works on you it hurts. If he is a dentist worthy of his degree he will sit with you and discuss your options, perhaps send you to a specialist for evaluation. You needn't bring up oral sex - it's not the issue at hand. You need to understand and know all of your options, from exercises to surgery.

If your denist doesn't know what to tell you, or if he tells you that you must simply live with the pain, ask him to refer you to another dentist for evaluation. Don't be afraid to do it!! Remember, your dentist works for you, not the other way round. If he cannot, or will not, provide you with satisfactory explanations or treatment options, then the least he can do is refer you to another dentist.

Another option, though probably not as good, is to seek help from your physician. Not many doctors will deal with things of teeth and jaws, but TMJ is a medical condition that can cause other serious problems. (If, in fact, you have a form of TMJ) A doctor might be able to refer you to a specialist in the field who can give you options.

If you do any of this, do it for your general health, not because you can't bring your boyfriend to completion from a blow job. I think most men would agree that oral sex is great, and it is nice to cum from it, but if it is causing their lady pain they would rather she use other means to give him pleasure.

Good luck and I hope you find the help you are looking for.

 

[Imi]

Not to question your veracity, but maybe you need a second opinion?

Well, okay, perhaps I need a larger sample size. I suppose I'll need to work on getting clearance but I'm sure that www.bruce and zetacon and sNakey and maybe OldestMotive and Rex_1960 will volunteer. Will that meet the criteria?

 

[~photoguy~]

YESS!!! I'd be more than pleased to add to your sample size!! (in the name of scientific research of course )

oh the sacrifices one must make ....

Imi x12

 

[potatohead]

Find yourself a flavored lube that you like the taste of, then use the lube, in conjunction with your hands and your mouth to get him off. If you can get the head of his penis in your mouth for short durations, then save that for the grand finale. There are a some guys out there that might complain because you can't "Deep Throat" him. But the simple fact is few real men will complain about your technique. Blowjobs are gifts from heaven and shouldn't be questioned.

My old SO used to do that all the time and I never had a problem with it. She would also tounge and suck on my balls while she was using her hands and I never felt like it wasn't a "real blowjob". The only time I ever had a problem is if she kept using her hands on my cock and it would get dry and sticky. That kinda hurt a bit. Just keep it wet and he'll be fine.

 

[sandy81]

I would have to agree with SexyChele's suggestions.

PoisonBeauty I feel your dentist issues, I have the same exact issues. A 'normal' dentist won't even bother to try to work on me; they just send me straight to a specialist. Even with the specialist they have problems with me. They have to use the smallest equipment they have (which is usually things they use for kids). But even the smallest sizes still hurt me, although I don't have a sadist Dr. they are pretty nice and give me laughing gas so I won't feel too much of the pain.

I never knew there were others out there like me who had the same problem as I do and no I don't have TMJ, I have something else. Having a small mouth really is a problem since most dentists can't work on you, can't give proper blow jobs and getting any kind of surgery is pure hell. When I have to have surgery done, they can never incubate me due to my small mouth and small airway so they have to shove a small camera down my throat, then shove a stick like thing in my throat where they put the tube on and slide it down so I can be incubated. Oh and the fun part is they do all this while I am awake and gagging/chocking.

I personally think everyone gave excellent advice on this thread like they always do, which is why I finally stopped lurking.



Sandy

 

[Bobmi357]

NOT true. The BEST ones have little to no hand contact, or it's a handjob, not a blow job.

Having said that, I have been with one lady who had similar jaw issues and another who has the WORST gag reflex I have ever seen, and both were able to use their hands, general sexuality, and a lot of teasing licks to still make the act super enjoyable

It's apples & oranges tho. IMHO, of course

This is one thing I will agree with James on. But nonetheless, a blowjob, or a combination hand/blow job is, like a said a gift which shouldn't be questioned.

My wife doesn't use her hands except to hold me steady and I die and go to heaven everytime she takes me deep. Yet I would not complain one iota if she had a different technique involving more hand action, or equal hand/mouth action. My first wife wouldn't even make the attempt, so I was a blowjob virgin til I was 35. I wouldn't dream of voicing a complaint (even if I had one, which I don't).