size question

[vdub99]

i was woundering what a average or decent size dick is. i am about 6 inches maybe a bit bigger. i know some people say size doesnt matter but i am a little self consious and would just like to know if thats small or bog or average. thanks

 

[Vandren]

Good Site

Check out the Kinsey Insititute website (just Google "Kinsey Institute"). As I recall, they say average length is around 6.25" with an average girth of ~4", but my memory could be faulty.

 

[coolr]

lol, seems like we get these threads whenever there's a crop of new people that come on, which there's nothing wrong with. if you have any qustions that you think may have been asked before in the history of LIT. just do a quick search. There's sooooo much information on here. If all else fails make a new post

 

[Lynxie]

Check out the Kinsey Insititute website (just Google "Kinsey Institute"). As I recall, they say average length is around 6.25" with an average girth of ~4", but my memory could be faulty.

Vandren's information is correct, though different surveys have slightly different results (Kinsey only surveyed white college males for the above numbers). Here's a link with the results of a few different surveys: Survey Results. I also saw another website that estimated the global average to fall somewhere closer to 5.2", and another that said 5"-7" was the average range that most men fell under.

Does it matter? No. Men are as self-conscious about the size of their equipment as women are about their weight. But there are people out there who appreciate all shapes and sizes - most people take into consideration the whole person, not just what's between their legs. Personally, I like average (anything in the 5"-7" range). Some women prefer larger, and some enjoy smaller. There's no standard number that's going to make every woman appreciate your penis. Sorry.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

It always strikes me as a bit odd that men put so much of their self-worth into that relatively small part of their anatomy.

A man can have an 8 inch schlong, and be a piss-poor lover. A man can have a 5 incher, and be wicked in bed. I know. I've experienced both. A penis is a penis is a penis.. if for whatever reason your penis doesn't get your lover off, you still have 10 fingers, 10 toes, a tongue, a nose, and most importantly, a BRAIN. Imagination in lovemaking is key.


*grumbles as I walk out of the thread*

Honestly, these threads frustrate the begeezus out of me.

 

[6ingirth]

vdub, worrying about it ain't gonna make it grow. I have never met a woman that equated cock size with ultimate sexual satisfaction. In fact, most I have known don't want something the size of a summer sausage stuffed up them. MRs. 6 has told me that she didn't have sex on her prom night because when she reached down her date's pants, she discovered that he had a cock the size of her forearm (literally). Think about it, if you were a woman would you always want to be getting fucked by a clydesdale? Some do. Some would like it once in a lifetime for the experience. The vast, overwhelming majority don't want it at all. If it's uncomfortable, she won't like it! And every woman has a different idea of what is comfortable.

At a party not too long ago, about 15 of us (mixed male/female) were talking after several drinks, and the question was asked: "Length or girth?" Every one of the 8-9 women present said girth. About half said that anything over 7" was too long to be comfortable.

Ya got what ya got. If you use your entire arsenal of techniques with the goal being her satisfaction, she'll be satisfied and the size won't be too much of an issue. Rock her world however you can, and she'll enjoy it! I mean, the goal is mutual satisfaction, isn't it? As a guy, your satisfaction is awfully easy compared to a woman's. So get her off...a lot. I have a friend that (through talking with his various lovers) I know is not well-endowed. But these women he has been with lead me to believe he could've given lessons to Don Juan. And he gets plenty of repeat business.

What you see in porn is highly misleading. While they won't win any oscars any time soon, those women are being paid to make it look like the most incredible sex ever.

 

[Downtheslide]

Vandren's information is correct, though different surveys have slightly different results (Kinsey only surveyed white college males for the above numbers). Here's a link with the results of a few different surveys: Survey Results. I also saw another website that estimated the global average to fall somewhere closer to 5.2", and another that said 5"-7" was the average range that most men fell under.

Does it matter? No. Men are as self-conscious about the size of their equipment as women are about their weight. But there are people out there who appreciate all shapes and sizes - most people take into consideration the whole person, not just what's between their legs. Personally, I like average (anything in the 5"-7" range). Some women prefer larger, and some enjoy smaller. There's no standard number that's going to make every woman appreciate your penis. Sorry.

This is as big a controversy in sex as there is. And us men make it so. Personally, I've found women that have enjoyed sex with me did so for alot more reasons than my dick. For good sex, you need a good mental connection as well as the physical attraction. For great sex, love is key. The best sex I ever had was with a woman I was in love with. And we were very physically attracted to each other. And our minds were always a big part of it, as we acted out fantasies together and used them to drive each other crazy. I honestly don't think I'll ever get it as good as that again.
I am above average size, 8" long and 6" around. Some girls liked it. Most were nervous about it. One or two have even been scared. One took it as a challenge! lol It can make a guy nervous being big as it can being small. This question has no general answer really. Just have to find the right "fit" for you. Good luck finding it!

 

[Vandren]

Agreement

At a party not too long ago, about 15 of us (mixed male/female) were talking after several drinks, and the question was asked: "Length or girth?" Every one of the 8-9 women present said girth. About half said that anything over 7" was too long to be comfortable.

Agreeing with everyone (Wow! *s*). But especially this comment. I've found it to be true as well (being average in length, but 1.5x average in girth, myself).

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I'm gonna have to say that great sex doesn't always need love. One of the best lays I've ever had in my life was a one-time-deal with someone that I wasn't remotely in love with.. we were friends, but that's it.. and he just knew how to work my body. Fucking amazing.

 

[HotPepper]

My 2 cents

I am definitely in the range of average, but never had any complaints as a very sexually active person. Well, there was this one woman who was about 6'2" tall who had incredibly deep insides, so maybe there IS that once in a while need for a "big one".

But: I know a guy who is friends with my brother. He is a skinny guy, white, nondescript in every way. EXCEPT that he has about 9-10 thick inches, we are told by those in the know.

This guy has been on dates and had several women refuse to have sex with him due to the size of his penis. He is not a player, and when he has been refused it is depressing to him. I suppose he must feel very confused because culture paints the picture of a dude with a big one being the gold standard but in practice it doesn't work out that way much of the time in real life. The guys all tease him about his size and some seem jealous, but he is very pained because his size threatens many women who beg off from sex with him just because of the size of his dick.

I tend to take the position that I am grateful for what I have, because it could have been a whole lot worse!

 

[sikdogg]

It always strikes me as a bit odd that men put so much of their self-worth into that relatively small part of their anatomy.

A man can have an 8 inch schlong, and be a piss-poor lover. A man can have a 5 incher, and be wicked in bed. I know. I've experienced both. A penis is a penis is a penis.. if for whatever reason your penis doesn't get your lover off, you still have 10 fingers, 10 toes, a tongue, a nose, and most importantly, a BRAIN. Imagination in lovemaking is key.


*grumbles as I walk out of the thread*

Honestly, these threads frustrate the begeezus out of me.

you're comparing apples to oranges... as you described it yes sizes doesn't matter, but with all other things equal, size does matter. I understand that size doesn't make for a great lover, but a great lover with an 8" penis will prolly bring more pleasure that one with a 5" penis.

 

[Eilan]

you're comparing apples to oranges... as you described it yes sizes doesn't matter, but with all other things equal, size does matter. I understand that size doesn't make for a great lover, but a great lover with an 8" penis will prolly bring more pleasure that one with a 5" penis.

You're absolutely right--size DOES matter! That guy with the 8" penis may be the best lover in the world, but if he batters the living bejeezus out of my cervix, he won't get too many points in my book.

Someone needs to start a "Penis Issues Support Group" thread.

 

[sikdogg]

I hear ya, but if he's beating the crap out of your cervix how good of a lover is he really. Just because he's large doesn't mean he has to shove every inch into every woman he has sex with... it's about finding what works for her, sometime it's more sometimes it's less. More size just means more options...

Some women like deep with a little pain others don't, a 5" penis isn't going to satisfy the former no matter what position he uses.

 

[taolanes]

See I don't get why people say 5" is average yet on the internet no one ever says they are less than that. Can someone explain that to me?

Also when you talk about size where are you measuring from. You could be 4 inches if you count from the top of your penis but 6 if you count fron the testicles to the tip of the penis

 

[sikdogg]

The correct way is to measure from the top. This is how Kinsey and most other survey's do it. It is also the most consistent way of measuring. Anyone who measure from the bottom is just trying to inflate his own ego.

 

[MintSoda]

I wouldn't believe most of what people say on the internet, especially when it comes to penis size. Personally I don't understand the fascination with size men seem to have. I get off far more frequently and enjoy it far more with clitoral stimulation, and size has nothing to do with that. Let's face it, if I want size I can go out and buy something that would put every man on this forum to shame. Why not compare how talented your mouth is or how soft and agile your fingers are?

 

[phoenix1224]

Check out the Kinsey Insititute website (just Google "Kinsey Institute"). As I recall, they say average length is around 6.25" with an average girth of ~4", but my memory could be faulty.

Many of Kinsey's studies have since been proven to be flawed... Many within a decade of the original research.


From "GuyQ" by Joe Kita and the editors of "Men's Health":

"Measure Your Penis" (page 129)

"The best was to gauge penis size is to measure yourself as a urologist would:

Flaccid length: Measure immediately after undressing, since a cold or warm room can cause shrinkage or expansion. Do it while standing, and use a flexible ruler. Position the tip of the ruler gently against the point where the shaft meets the abdomen. Then simply bend the ruler along the shaft and read the length. Average: 3.43 inches

Erect length: Immediately after you become fully hard, measure along the top of your erection from the base of the shaft to the tip. Average: 5.03 inches

Girth: While still erect, wrap a cloth tape measure around your penis at its base. Average: 5.14 inches around; 1.67 inches in diameter

Erection angle: Stand with your back against a wall and estimate your angle. A zero-degree erection (an oxymoron if we've ever heard one) would point at your feet; 90 degrees would point directly out in front; and 180 degrees would point up at your chin. Average: 105.7 degrees."

 

[mikeofokc]

Toes? Them too? How big of toes? How often?

.. if for whatever reason your penis doesn't get your lover off, you still have 10 fingers, 10 toes, a tongue, a nose, and most importantly, a BRAIN. Imagination in lovemaking is key...

Toes? You mean I missed using toes on her? And I thought I had done it all. Wait....how big of toes? Now I have to worry about not only my cock size and if the Viagra worked but my Toe's being able to tow their part as well. Im self-conscious about my toes, particularly the last one that went wee wee wee all the way home. Has Pfizer come out with anything for toe disfunction? Wheres a blue toe pill when we need it? I guess rubber booties are required? Will I have to get a pedicure? Even worse, will they use the pedofile on them? What if the pedofile touches by bunions, will I have to testify in court with an anotomically correct toe? Great months of counciling are ahead of me I see, I wonder if I see a psychiatrist or a podiatrist to get back in good standing and sound footing.

Im sorry, this is just too much for me. First I was expected to perform in bed with just my little special purpose when no one knew there were different sizes. But no you women had to start gossiping among yourselves. Hell we gave you a rib, community property rights, the luxery of those multiple orgasms plus you live longer. Now besides having to wear elevator shoes, clean socks without holes, and take a tape measurer to bed, I must take 10 ready to go toes. And I just bought a new Cowboy hat, boots and spurs too. All this progress has ruined it for us men. It was so much easier when we lived in a cave and waited for the women to kneel down for a drink of water. And to think I use to be pissed off at the fool that invented the vibrator, its the dummy that invented the wheel that I should be pissed about.

Hey, just having a little fun. Hope I didnt step on anyones toes. If I did, Im sorry, Im not into rough sex like that?

 

[lgwbp]

mmmmm

I found out from a girl that I hit her cervix during sex... When i heard that I was ecstatic, cause I really didn't believe I was that long. Even though I know that I am sure some one that is smaller or larger than me could get her just as open. Sometimes in a girl's mind sex may boil down to size, but there are so many things you can do, and explore to worry about your size. The fact of the matter is a good orgasm will have her second guessing about your size anyway... In the end people want to feel good after sex. That's an oppurtunity to show what your entire package can do, not just the size of your member...

 

[mac340]

I would guess it's a woman to woman thing, one woman you might be bumping against her cervix but another woman you might not even come close. The trick is to find the perfect match, my wife and I for example, I am bigger then average about 8" long and 6" in circumfrance but we can go at it good and hard (how she likes it) and it is very rare that i bump her cervix.

 

[CURIOUS1026]

My contribution.......

i was woundering what a average or decent size dick is. i am about 6 inches maybe a bit bigger. i know some people say size doesnt matter but i am a little self consious and would just like to know if thats small or bog or average. thanks

Vdub......see if this website helps you. This may give you an idea of how you compare to others. Very interesting website

www.erectionphotos.com/frames_index.htm

 

[heman69]

size does not really matters....only matters how u use that size..whatever it is

 

[LeoMecha]

I realy hope size doesnt matter, im 3 - 3.5 and have yet to test it out.

 

[Guest]

i was woundering what a average or decent size dick is. i am about 6 inches maybe a bit bigger. i know some people say size doesnt matter but i am a little self consious and would just like to know if thats small or bog or average. thanks

IMO- you're average. That's definitely not small or too big. It's a perfect size!

 

[south_florida_bicur]

does it really matter ?

I dont care what size my penis is because it is what it is and I can't do anything about it. Lets say if the average size is 6" and you are 4", does it really matter and if it does, what are you going to do about it?

Maybe you will tie a string around the head of your dick and tie the other end of the string to a bed post and then take a few steps back to stretch your penis? Will that make it longer? How about those pills that are supposed to increase the size of a mans penis?

Bottom line: if I am below average there is nothing I can do about it so why lose sleep over it.

I will do the best I can with what I have. Plus, I will try to make it up in other activities in and out of the bedroom.

1 simple rule in being a great lover : Put her needs before yours and take care of her because she likes it and not because you are expecting something in return!


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