Two long and fat penises are truly better than one!!
With my students, I always try to find a positive they can build on, but I also have to tell them what needs to be done differently. Admittedly, it usually goes well with second graders because they want to please me and do better. They don't have deep seated resentments yet. It's one reason I like teaching second graders.
This is one of the reasons I always cringe when people tell a kid they can be whatever they want to be. It is not true and sets people up for failure. I spend a lot of time reframing expectations for parents who have ridiculously high expectations of what children should be learning in second grade, as well as of what their particular child(ren) are capable. And yes, those discussions include a lot of focus on strengths, but it isn't doing anyone any good if I don't discuss weaknesses too. It's a matter of framing and balance.
Which brings me back to SlutAddicted's roast example. It depends on how the question is framed. "I loved the potatoes" is an evasive response if the question was "did you like my meat?" It's less so if the question is "did you like dinner?" Sometimes the meat is not the main focus. I mean, I spent years asking my mother to cook pot roast for my birthday and then eating mainly the potatoes and carrots. Those were what I wanted, because nothing makes potatoes and carrots taste as good as being slow cooked with a hunk of beef.And no, that's not a double entendre, pervs!
That is very true. The longer the relationship, the easier it is to be honest and open with each other about different topics.
When you become empty-nesters, it is a crossroads in your relationship. My wife, like yours, was more forthright and open, stating she thought our sex life needed a reboot and that my sexual performance was predictable and often left her sexually frustrated.
Just the opposite with me. When we became empty nesters is when she stopped wanting to have any sexual contact at all.
To me, this would be a significant problem. Our sexual. Onnection has always been a very important part of our relationship. We talk about if often. I wonder if the two of you are “settling” for less rather than addressing this directly. Just a guess, but maybe you are using porn, Lit, and masturbating as a substitute?
In my own situation, we had a couple periods of “drought,” both following some major life changes (like death of a parent, etc. In all cases, we eventually sat down to address the question, “ What sort of relationship do we want to have?” If you don’t follow through, then,IMO, you both are selling yourselves and the marriage short. This is how couples “grow apart.” They don’t do the work. Too bad!Hit the nail on the head. It's something I've been asking to try to address for nearly a decade, it gets paid lip service but no actual investment on her part. So here I am.
I feel for you, that sucks. I've told my wife over the years, that we BOTH need to work at keeping our libido's alive. If either of us were to entirely shut the other off from sex, the other has the right to seek it elsewhere. ..Sex is not some non-essential pastime like a hobby. ..It's important for ongoing mental and physical health. I wouldn't take that step lightly but a marriage without sex doesn't strike me as much of a marriage.
I'd love for my wife to experience a larger cock to see if she gets more pleasure than I could ever give.
Very sad. We have friends who have revealed to us that they don’t have sex “any more,” as though that is a part of life that just ends. I guess people stay together for all kinds of reasons. No judgement here. I just feel bad for you both. Just think, she isn’t experiencing any orgasms, unless she is self pleasuring, which is doubtful.
We still have sex, it's just at the borderline of what is considered a sexless marriage (12 times or less a year). And she enjoys it when it does happen. I'm very much a pleaser so I make sure to focus on her pleasure over mine. She orgasms almost every time, and I make sure they're intense orgasms.
Not sure if this is of any use to you… but…
Glad to hear that you do have sex. Here’s the reality: (research confirms this) Most couples in long-term marriages have decreasing frequency of “spontaneous sex.” Those who rate themselves as most sexually satisfied tend to plan for times to be sexual together. They make it a priority, for example, an every Saturday night or Sunday afternoon date, etc.
Is 12 times in 5 years a boarderline to you? Fucking borderline extortion to me. Women can make men so damn miserable, and she knows it and draws pleasure from it. It's abuse. But I'm a man, so it goes as a "sucks to be you" thing, not as a form of abuse.
That sucks.
Basically the same here, with kids. She knows I will not leave. But not because of her.
) I was astonished by this, even more so by the fact that she loved taking it hard and fast. And the orgasms she had were scary intense: the first time I thought I had broken her, but soon she was up and ready for more. I know you'd enjoy her a lot, and I wish I were in a position to share her with you. She would definitely make you feel good about having a big-ass dick! Ha! Maybe... ...My gripes notwithstanding, I realize that it's no better being on the other side of the dick size continuum. ..Having a micro-penis would also be torment, even more so I'm sure.
Reading your reply I'm reminded of hearing a pornstar on a podcast talk about anal. ..She was a very small woman and remarked that she, and a few of her porn friends, found it easier to accommodate a huge dick anally than vaginally. ...If memory serves she said it has something to do with the anus being a muscle that can stretch more easily than the more delicate tissues of the vagina. .She did say that it takes lots of pre-stretching w/ toys, and butt-plugs of gradually increased girth, etc.. ..And that's the rub for my wife. ..She would like to take me anally but is not the least bit interested in going through weeks of nightly anal-calisthenics to do so.
You should start a girthy guy support thread for discussion specifically of issues girthy guys deal with.
For example: I'm not quite as long as you are, but very, very girthy, and it's basically hit or miss whether I will fit into a woman's pussy the first time, even for someone really wet and who really wants to me to fuck her. (It may take a couple of weeks before her pussy adjusts, but it always does.) It doesn't bother me, but I've had a number of women react with feelings of inadequacy at their inability to take me the first time. What's the best way to ease those feelings?
Btw: anal had never been a thing for me, but my last long-term gf clearly wanted to try it, so eventually we did. She was able to take me without any lubrication other than the overflow of secretions from her pussy. (I should say she was 21 at the time. Maybe youth isn't entirely wasted on the young.
