size does matter, big is beautiful..

[crazybbwgirl]

There's much to be said about all women. Some are tight bodied and svelte. Other's are heavier boned and have a bit more flesh. Those particular ladies are a major part of Ruben's art. I believe the term is Rubenesque. Try googling and tell me if she wasn't a willing partner you'd say no. If you think that way, your loss.

I love you guys..... Rubenesque - is fun!

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

I love you guys..... Rubenesque - is fun!

Amen!

 

[HotAzLady69]

Big women

Ok first off I'm not a fuller sized woman, BUT....... I do have to say this much.

It's not a matter of our size as women it's who we are inside, so I say bring on the sexy fuller women, nothing wrong with ya's.

i say we all return to the past.. the renaissance... let us eat cake....

Do you have ANY idea how much easier this would make it for us smaller women?????
OOOOOHHHH just the thought of it I think I need a cold shower hehe.

But seriously it's not a matter of big or little I think all women can be sexy.
Being sexy is a mind set, not a size.

ROCK ON LADIES!

 

[NekoBakamegami]

Heheheh... I used to buy into the big = bad... I am proud to say now, I am finally becoming a little more comfortable in my own skin.. doesn't mean I'll be parading around nude anytime soon, but... I'm slowly becoming more happy with myself... and in reading this thread, I think my comfortableness with myself has increased... thanks everyone ^-^

 

[Sailbad the Sinner]

Heheheh... I used to buy into the big = bad... I am proud to say now, I am finally becoming a little more comfortable in my own skin.. doesn't mean I'll be parading around nude anytime soon, but... I'm slowly becoming more happy with myself... and in reading this thread, I think my comfortableness with myself has increased... thanks everyone ^-^

Skin can be nice, body's can be slim, that's great. Under the skin, so much is going on. Everyone has a major pump, it's named a heart. Maybe it should be called a heart . Every one has a pump, doe's everyone have a heart? If all the pumps, nerves, valves, checkpoints, major resource, muscle reaction and extremeties are working, we are individuals, functioning, each unto his or her own. We have the ability to love, hate, laugh, cry, and have an infinate number of emotions.

I guess a basic test is in order.

Re pump: Do you have a heart or a pump?

Nerves: Every physical feeling is a nerve response. Do you respond to touches?

Valves: Everyone as them, do yours work? Do valves release with the correct manipulation?

Checkpoints: If you are aroused can you see the change in your checkpoints?

Major resource: Your brain is the central point, is it tuned in? The brain has more than one resource, It's the recipient of all information from the others.

Muscle reaction: Based upon nerves, do you move, twitch?

Extremeties: Toes, fingers, palms, ears, do they respond to stimuli?

This limited research study can only come to one conclusion. If all of the above work, it's not the outer shell, it's what's inside that counts.

 

[Lorelei_11]

This limited research study can only come to one conclusion. If all of the above work, it's not the outer shell, it's what's inside that counts.

Yes, this is true. Its easier to find someone with outer beauty and attractiveness than it is to find someone with inner beauty...

This shines through, and actually enhances physical looks.

What matters is what is inside. This is true beauty, that touches the soul, lasts a lifetime, and is my biggest turn on...

 

[Sailbad the Sinner]

Skin can be nice, body's can be slim, that's great. Under the skin, so much is going on. Everyone has a major pump, it's named a heart. Maybe it should be called a heart . Every one has a pump, doe's everyone have a heart? If all the pumps, nerves, valves, checkpoints, major resource, muscle reaction and extremeties are working, we are individuals, functioning, each unto his or her own. We have the ability to love, hate, laugh, cry, and have an infinate number of emotions.

I guess a basic test is in order.

Re pump: Do you have a heart or a pump?

Nerves: Every physical feeling is a nerve response. Do you respond to touches?

Valves: Everyone as them, do yours work? Do valves release with the correct manipulation?

Checkpoints: If you are aroused can you see the change in your checkpoints?

Major resource: Your brain is the central point, is it tuned in? The brain has more than one resource, It's the recipient of all information from the others.

Muscle reaction: Based upon nerves, do you move, twitch?

Extremeties: Toes, fingers, palms, ears, do they respond to stimuli?

This limited research study can only come to one conclusion. If all of the above work, it's not the outer shell, it's what's inside that counts.

One simple word, Amen.

 

[stormyblueyes]

ya'll are awesome!

I love everyone's posts, and deffinitly the topic. I'm BBW too, and it's nice to know that not everyone out there is looking for the size 0's of the world, there's room for us too.
BTW, anyone here from Arkansas?
Till then...
Stormyblueyes

 

[Sailbad the Sinner]

Re: ya'll are awesome!

I love everyone's posts, and deffinitly the topic. I'm BBW too, and it's nice to know that not everyone out there is looking for the size 0's of the world, there's room for us too.
BTW, anyone here from Arkansas?
Till then...
Stormyblueyes

I'm about a thousand miles away, but at the same time, just a few keystrokes.

Congratulations on your first post.

 

[Lorelei_11]

Re: ya'll are awesome!

I love everyone's posts, and deffinitly the topic. I'm BBW too, and it's nice to know that not everyone out there is looking for the size 0's of the world, there's room for us too.
BTW, anyone here from Arkansas?
Till then...
Stormyblueyes

Yes, it is nice to see here. In daily life its not so apparent all of the time.

There can be such attitude. I see shows where there is a strong implication that until you have lost all of the weight you simply have no life. You won't be happy until you are the way they think you should be. I also thankfully have seen other shows that celebrate larger women.

Its nice to see these mens opinions, how they feel about larger women. It doesn't tend to be a everyday topic, and its wonderfull to see the women here and the men..

The women are feeling sexy, and loving themselves or learning to.. and that is totally cool..

 

[Krinaia]

It's funny ... I'm currently living with a former model - she's tiny! About 5'1" and 100 pounds and she's always complaining about two pounds. On the other hand, she thinks she's beautiful, she knows she's beautiful and she thinks she's god's gift to man. Which is all fine, it's just the way she is like it or not.

But it makes me realize something else ... she's so constantly on the look out for someone up to her standards - and the first thing she looks at is the "shell" and if the shell is right, your personality doesn't even get a second chance.

On the other hand, take me, a nice plus size with an hourglass figure and if I don't say so myself, spunk. I act silly and have a good time and don't care if any one thinks I'm "cool" and I'm begining to see the beauty in myself that I see in others. I never judge a man on his looks. If he looks good, it's icing on the cake. There are more important things then male pattern baldness and hairy backs.

I've begun to see it this way... a man, a good man, of perhaps mild attractiveness meets me and my roommate - she might consider him for a fuck but probably not unless he's tall, dark haired, pale skinned with a six pack. She'll probably discard him when he proves to be imperfect. Me, I see my own imperfections and will forgive him his if he treats me nicely. I may not immediately jump him but if he gives me a chance, I'll be delighted to give him one.... Her body may be "prettier" than mine according to society but I think he'll appreciate mine more I think this sort of attitude is frequent in women who have had to deal with body issues - if they can learn to love themselves, they can learn to love anyone and that makes them VERY ATTRACTIVE

 

[Lorelei_11]

It's funny ... I'm currently living with a former model - she's tiny! About 5'1" and 100 pounds and she's always complaining about two pounds. On the other hand, she thinks she's beautiful, she knows she's beautiful and she thinks she's god's gift to man. Which is all fine, it's just the way she is like it or not.

But it makes me realize something else ... she's so constantly on the look out for someone up to her standards - and the first thing she looks at is the "shell" and if the shell is right, your personality doesn't even get a second chance.

On the other hand, take me, a nice plus size with an hourglass figure and if I don't say so myself, spunk. I act silly and have a good time and don't care if any one thinks I'm "cool" and I'm begining to see the beauty in myself that I see in others. I never judge a man on his looks. If he looks good, it's icing on the cake. There are more important things then male pattern baldness and hairy backs.

I've begun to see it this way... a man, a good man, of perhaps mild attractiveness meets me and my roommate - she might consider him for a fuck but probably not unless he's tall, dark haired, pale skinned with a six pack. She'll probably discard him when he proves to be imperfect. Me, I see my own imperfections and will forgive him his if he treats me nicely. I may not immediately jump him but if he gives me a chance, I'll be delighted to give him one.... Her body may be "prettier" than mine according to society but I think he'll appreciate mine more I think this sort of attitude is frequent in women who have had to deal with body issues - if they can learn to love themselves, they can learn to love anyone and that makes them VERY ATTRACTIVE

Hi Sky.. I left you a comment on page 5.. I think it got lost inbetween my boyfriend and I talking. Just thought I would mention it if you hadn't seen it..

I totally agree, women who look great can tend to expect to be with men who look great. They can be more picky about everything.

Yes, I think we all have our attractiveness, its unique and maybe not exactly perfect, but beautiful nevertheless...

Loving ourselves inside and out, makes it possible to love another.

 

[Sailbad the Sinner]

It's funny ... I'm currently living with a former model - she's tiny! About 5'1" and 100 pounds and she's always complaining about two pounds. On the other hand, she thinks she's beautiful, she knows she's beautiful and she thinks she's god's gift to man. Which is all fine, it's just the way she is like it or not.

But it makes me realize something else ... she's so constantly on the look out for someone up to her standards - and the first thing she looks at is the "shell" and if the shell is right, your personality doesn't even get a second chance.

On the other hand, take me, a nice plus size with an hourglass figure and if I don't say so myself, spunk. I act silly and have a good time and don't care if any one thinks I'm "cool" and I'm begining to see the beauty in myself that I see in others. I never judge a man on his looks. If he looks good, it's icing on the cake. There are more important things then male pattern baldness and hairy backs.

I've begun to see it this way... a man, a good man, of perhaps mild attractiveness meets me and my roommate - she might consider him for a fuck but probably not unless he's tall, dark haired, pale skinned with a six pack. She'll probably discard him when he proves to be imperfect. Me, I see my own imperfections and will forgive him his if he treats me nicely. I may not immediately jump him but if he gives me a chance, I'll be delighted to give him one.... Her body may be "prettier" than mine according to society but I think he'll appreciate mine more I think this sort of attitude is frequent in women who have had to deal with body issues - if they can learn to love themselves, they can learn to love anyone and that makes them VERY ATTRACTIVE

Let her do her thing. Let her worry about every pound. Let her critique every lover, wrong word, maybe server would be better. I'd rather wake up spooned to someone that felt good, not a bitch with a clipboard and a questionaire.

 

[Krinaia]

Exactly.. alot of judement is based on outward appearance. I want to know what kind of soul the person has, that is what matters the most to me. I have heard it said though in psychology that ppl size up other ppl in something like 15 seconds. I'm not sure how many seconds exactly, but it is in the seconds.. *shaking head*.

I find that men who are down to earth and really natural, they tend to do what feels right to them. Of course they would have their particular taste in what attracts them to, but they would be more likely to love being with a large women, and wouldn't let societys norms or idea's get in the way of their lives. If that is what was right for them they just do it, and don't care what others may think.

I think it does get in the way of mens decisions about who they are going to be with. Obviously not all men, but certainly some.

Thanks for pointing it out ... I had missed it

I've often heard things like that... that women will decide if they'll ever sleep with a man in the first 5 minutes they meet him. I have often found myself eating my judgements on people. It's a shame too... I have had people react to me like I'm stupid or lesser because I'm overweight. I'm in career path filled with workaholics (sp?) and many of them, are also very thin or at least in very good condition physically. But I think that being an over weight architect will give me a leg up ... designers shouldn't design only for thin people ... have you sat in some auditoriums? I know you gotta pack in the tickets to pay the bills but surely you don't have to have your elbows in other people's noses! Anyhow, off the architectural soapbox....

It's been discussed here, But I tend to think it's not that men like being with a larger women but tend to like being with the type of women larger women turn out to be. I find that I am more senstive about what I say or do ... how I effect those around me. I suffered too many small hurts growing up to what to do that to other people.

And men aren't the only ones being affected by the negative affects of society's proceived notions of beauty. I have many healthily sized girlfriends who HATE their bodies. I always make it a goal to compliment their good points. Like one of my friends hates that she's short and that she has freckles but her freckles give her this wonderful air of innocence and takes the edge off her bold attitude and her legs, though not model long, are so sexy! I enjoyed once picking out a short skirt for her and then telling her, "any man that sees you in that is going to picture himself licking his way from ankle to groin." She blushed, and bought it.

It's cheesy I know but I once read that if you make an effort to compliment one person every day ... that you'll feel better about yourself. I gave it a shot once. The smiles and graditude that was given me, did in fact boost my ego.

 

[Krinaia]

Let her do her thing. Let her worry about every pound. Let her critique every lover, wrong word, maybe server would be better. I'd rather wake up spooned to someone that felt good, not a bitch with a clipboard and a questionaire.

She's not so bad. I figure the world needs people like her. In fact, living with her at first made me feel a little down on myself. Then a little pissed off sometimes. Sometimes a little frustrated. But truth is, dealing with her makes me confront myself. And it's brought about some important feel good revelations about myself. The fact that I can do that even ... makes me feel good.

 

[Lorelei_11]

Thanks for pointing it out ... I had missed it

I've often heard things like that... that women will decide if they'll ever sleep with a man in the first 5 minutes they meet him. I have often found myself eating my judgements on people. It's a shame too... I have had people react to me like I'm stupid or lesser because I'm overweight. I'm in career path filled with workaholics (sp?) and many of them, are also very thin or at least in very good condition physically. But I think that being an over weight architect will give me a leg up ... designers shouldn't design only for thin people ... have you sat in some auditoriums? I know you gotta pack in the tickets to pay the bills but surely you don't have to have your elbows in other people's noses! Anyhow, off the architectural soapbox....

It's been discussed here, But I tend to think it's not that men like being with a larger women but tend to like being with the type of women larger women turn out to be. I find that I am more senstive about what I say or do ... how I effect those around me. I suffered too many small hurts growing up to what to do that to other people.

And men aren't the only ones being affected by the negative affects of society's proceived notions of beauty. I have many healthily sized girlfriends who HATE their bodies. I always make it a goal to compliment their good points. Like one of my friends hates that she's short and that she has freckles but her freckles give her this wonderful air of innocence and takes the edge off her bold attitude and her legs, though not model long, are so sexy! I enjoyed once picking out a short skirt for her and then telling her, "any man that sees you in that is going to picture himself licking his way from ankle to groin." She blushed, and bought it.

It's cheesy I know but I once read that if you make an effort to compliment one person every day ... that you'll feel better about yourself. I gave it a shot once. The smiles and graditude that was given me, did in fact boost my ego.

Yes, I would think that would help you, and yes those seats are way to small. I went to a football game at B.C Place stadium and my arm and body was smashed into the guy next to me.. not where I was comfortable being with a complete stranger.

Character matters, but I think many men love the look of a larger women, going up in scale to very large women. Its actually their preferance. My fiancee says that when he looks at a BBW it just feels so inviting to him, and he loves everything about their bodies the way they look and feel.

I think we all suffer from one thing or another in life, in one degree or another. We become better or worse ppl due to it. This results in some of us having more compassion for others.

 

[Krinaia]

bump bump

don't want to see this thread die...

 

[Sailbad the Sinner]

Re: bump bump

don't want to see this thread die...

Then talk to me. Nothing is expected, nothing wanted.

Maybe I should start. I was putting decorative rocks around my pond today. One rock, somewhat heavy, dropped and boinked me on my left thumb. I guess the appropriate terminology would be fuck me to tears. Hurts like a bitch.

Hurt's like a bitch say's something.

What do you think?

 

[Krinaia]

I'm not sure ... what does hurting like a bitch have to do with larger ladies

 

[Carnus]

that's an interesting thought - i wonder what men would go for without the media influencing them - i wonder what men would pick if they didn't have to care what other people thought of the woman standing next to him as a reflection on his taste and judgement (based on appearances)

Look at art prior to the 1900's. Women who were members of upper society and sought after were all wonderfully curvy. Artists painted women with full and wonderfull figures. Ancient texts descirbe desirable women as "having curves as glorious as rolling hills". I like all women, but if you ask me to look over a crowd and point out who I thought who was the most attactive or sexy I can promise it won't be the woman who can fit into any dress with a size smaller than her shoes.
Carnus

 

[Carnus]

Edited to remove content, kitty walked on the keyboard and made a double post.

Carnus

 

[Carnus]

It's funny ... I'm currently living with a former model - she's tiny! About 5'1" and 100 pounds and she's always complaining about two pounds. On the other hand, she thinks she's beautiful, she knows she's beautiful and she thinks she's god's gift to man. Which is all fine, it's just the way she is like it or not.

But it makes me realize something else ... she's so constantly on the look out for someone up to her standards - and the first thing she looks at is the "shell" and if the shell is right, your personality doesn't even get a second chance.

On the other hand, take me, a nice plus size with an hourglass figure and if I don't say so myself, spunk. I act silly and have a good time and don't care if any one thinks I'm "cool" and I'm begining to see the beauty in myself that I see in others. I never judge a man on his looks. If he looks good, it's icing on the cake. There are more important things then male pattern baldness and hairy backs.

I've begun to see it this way... a man, a good man, of perhaps mild attractiveness meets me and my roommate - she might consider him for a fuck but probably not unless he's tall, dark haired, pale skinned with a six pack. She'll probably discard him when he proves to be imperfect. Me, I see my own imperfections and will forgive him his if he treats me nicely. I may not immediately jump him but if he gives me a chance, I'll be delighted to give him one.... Her body may be "prettier" than mine according to society but I think he'll appreciate mine more I think this sort of attitude is frequent in women who have had to deal with body issues - if they can learn to love themselves, they can learn to love anyone and that makes them VERY ATTRACTIVE

Were I to walk in your place, I would say hi to the ex-model turn to you and say "Hello, my name is Patrick". I am sorry she feels that she has to find someone to her standards, perhaps she needs to realize that her standards are meaningless. You, an hourglass figure of a woman, now that is why I am looking for in someone. I won't say I don't apreciate a well built woman, feeling the play of muscles under her skin. In fact I love it, but I don't like feeling the play of joints under her skin, or running my fingers down her side and wondering if I would have made a good xylophone players. Sadly your roomie will always find what she is looking for in man after man, but none of them will stay, after all even a shallow man realizes in a very short time his partner is shallow too. You are the kind of woman who will spend a lifetime with your man, and to methat is a much more wonderful thing.

Carnus

 

[Krinaia]

I like all women, but if you ask me to look over a crowd and point out who I thought who was the most attactive or sexy I can promise it won't be the woman who can fit into any dress with a size smaller than her shoes.
Carnus

No danger of that here! I do so miss the movie starlets of the 40s and 50s, some of whom had wonderful little pouches and flesh on their bones!

 

[Carnus]

No danger of that here! I do so miss the movie starlets of the 40s and 50s, some of whom had wonderful little pouches and flesh on their bones!

Mmmm and the overhead lights of those movies always cast such wonderful shadows to emphasize their lovely breasts.

Carnus