Single women who get angry with married men

[ken0000001]

There are many single women on lit who get very angry when approached by a married man. One just did it to me. Actually blocked me as a sender, as though I would ever send someone unwanted email. I guess my adulterous proposition has made me a spammer. She was very angry. I am very sorry she feels that way, but aren't we overreacting a tad? There was no intention to offend by my mere existence. Yes, we married men in lit, do exist, heaven's to besty. And it's been that way on this earth since time immemorial, but take a deep breath, and let it out slowly. It's not so bad. Though we may be criminals under the hypocritical standards of some, we still bleed when you prick us. We still care about life, people, things. Be a bit more mature and accept some people as they are, without all the judgments please.

 

[IDB]

"We still care about life, people, things."
O rly? How does your wife feel about this?

 

[ickle_stace]

some girls don't like married men coming onto them, and what's wrong with that? maybe they ain't wanting to be a bit on the side

i don't mind talking to married men, but i sometimes get annoyed when they try get me into bed, i'm not some slut they can use when their wives aren't putting out

 

[Eilan]

Ken, Lit's a pretty open place, but there are quite a few people out there, particularly those who have been cheated on and know how painful it can be, who don't condone cheating in whatever form it might take. Some women just don't feel right helping a guy cheat on his wife because they wouldn't like it if the tables were turned. It has nothing to do with maturity level.

If the woman blocked you as a sender, then your email was unwanted, even if you don't view it as such. She has a right to decide who she receives mail from.

But don't worry. There are lots of women here who condone your behavior. Maybe you'll get some takers.

How does your wife feel about this?

I'm sure she accepts him as he is without the judgments.

 

[KarenDee]

"We still care about life, people, things."
O rly? How does your wife feel about this?

I couldn't have said it better myself.

there are quite a few people out there, particularly those who have been cheated on

He obviously hasn't walked a mile in my shoes, lost a husband, a home, nearly 2 kids, and endured 5 years of misery because of a man doing the very thing he condones. As the "so-called" perpetrator in this ridiculous charade, I offer no excuses or apologies. And yes it was an unwanted email. I thought my words in the first message sent to him were clear enough, but apparently they weren't. I guess age and maturity don't necessarily walk hand in hand.

 

[ken0000001]

Karen

Well, that explains a lot. I am sorry for that. For the hurt he caused. I would hope to cause no such hurt or walk out on anyone. I have raised two wonderful adults. I don't plan to leave my wife of 35 years. But I also want to have a life that she chooses not to share wtih me. It's a choice I make.

If you had said, no thank you, don't wirte again, I would have honored your wishes, of course. I am polite. We were talking and then you said, I've blocked you because your married, with a few other things said that were uncalled for.

But to get so angry, as you still are, at me, is really unwarranted. Your anger is at your ex, which I can understand, but I have nothing to do with that and would not be doing what he did. Do you understand? In any case, I pass no judgments on you and ask that you refrain from same with me.

Respectfully,
Ken

 

[intruderrider3]

I couldn't have said it better myself.



hey karen how are you?

He obviously hasn't walked a mile in my shoes, lost a husband, a home, nearly 2 kids, and endured 5 years of misery because of a man doing the very thing he condones. As the "so-called" perpetrator in this ridiculous charade, I offer no excuses or apologies. And yes it was an unwanted email. I thought my words in the first message sent to him were clear enough, but apparently they weren't. I guess age and maturity don't necessarily walk hand in hand.

 

[KarenDee]

I understand you perfectly Ken. Our morals, values, and opinions obviously clash, and we'll leave it at that. I am not going to engage in a "he said, she said" with you. I know what I wrote in my email, and I will stand behind each word. Whether you agree with my intent or my attitude is immaterial to me. It is mine to own. The men that I date are, without exception, single and that means "not married, not dating another woman, not dating another man." I am commited to a monogamous relationship, as I want him to be as well. If that isn't your style, that's fine, because that is yours to own.

K

 

[Jaded1]

Besides Ken us single guys don't need all the competition for the single gals...

 

[ken0000001]

no threat here

At my age, I'm no threat to you at all. What does money, power and time have on someone your age?

 

[Missingmeds]

I want to say something here because this is something that has come up many times over the time that I have been at lit. If you don't want to communicate with someone for whatever reason, then the simpliest thing to do is to say, "No, thank you." To the very first email or pm.

I would encourage everyone to make your status known in your profile so people can make that judgement from the start. Don't spring it on people.
Elian said it very well.

To the men of Lit, one more time, I will repeat myself. Some women don't care your status. It just doesn't matter to them for reasons that you likely won't ever understand. To others it will matter, it will the the top issue on their list. In either case, it is far better that you make that known in the first contact with them so they can decide if they want to communicate with you or not.

That way it doesn't end up being one of these type of threads.

 

[ickle_stace]

I want to say something here because this is something that has come up many times over the time that I have been at lit. If you don't want to communicate with someone for whatever reason, then the simpliest thing to do is to say, "No, thank you." To the very first email or pm.

I would encourage everyone to make your status known in your profile so people can make that judgement from the start. Don't spring it on people.
Elian said it very well.

To the men of Lit, one more time, I will repeat myself. Some women don't care your status. It just doesn't matter to them for reasons that you likely won't ever understand. To others it will matter, it will the the top issue on their list. In either case, it is far better that you make that known in the first contact with them so they can decide if they want to communicate with you or not.

That way it doesn't end up being one of these type of threads.

well said. My reason for feeling ok talking to married men is that it's never gonna be more than talking, because i don't do casual sex, and the only thing thats ever gonna happen with those men is casual sex, because they're not gonna leave their wives and i'm never gonna be naive enough to believe they are. I'm looking for someone who is just mine, not someone to share with someone else.

However, I can see why some women, especially ones who have been through what Karen has, would react badly to being contacted by married men. She's practically been in the wive's shoes, and I'm assuming it hurt her alot after what she's been through, and sometimes it can allow people to practically "hold a grudge" against men who are like that.

 

[Eilan]

However, I can see why some women, especially ones who have been through what Karen has, would react badly to being contacted by married men. She's practically been in the wive's shoes, and I'm assuming it hurt her alot after what she's been through, and sometimes it can allow people to practically "hold a grudge" against men who are like that.

I agree with most of what you said here, but I don't think that it's necessarily a matter of grudge-holding or misdirecting anger as it is knowing what it's like to be on the receiving end of such behavior and not being comfortable with the idea of contributing to that.

I'm not saying that KarenDee isn't angry or bitter; however, none of us knows her well enough to make that call.

 

[southerntierguy]

There are many single women on lit who get very angry when approached by a married man. One just did it to me. Actually blocked me as a sender, as though I would ever send someone unwanted email. I guess my adulterous proposition has made me a spammer. She was very angry. I am very sorry she feels that way, but aren't we overreacting a tad? There was no intention to offend by my mere existence. Yes, we married men in lit, do exist, heaven's to besty. And it's been that way on this earth since time immemorial, but take a deep breath, and let it out slowly. It's not so bad. Though we may be criminals under the hypocritical standards of some, we still bleed when you prick us. We still care about life, people, things. Be a bit more mature and accept some people as they are, without all the judgments please.

You know, ken0000001, it wouldn't make any difference if the reason she rejected you is because you are (a) married, or (b) single, (c) poor, or (d) rich, (e) black, (f) white, or (g) green covered in red stripes with tiny gray polka dots on them. If she told you to leave her alone for any reason, or for no reason at all, and you persisted, you are way out of line.

I think blocking you as a sender isn't out of line at all, even if the only reason she has is because your name begins with "k" ...

 

[fergus4]

You know, ken0000001, it wouldn't make any difference if the reason she rejected you is because you are (a) married, or (b) single, (c) poor, or (d) rich, (e) black, (f) white, or (g) green covered in red stripes with tiny gray polka dots on them. If she told you to leave her alone for any reason, or for no reason at all, and you persisted, you are way out of line.

Well said southerntierguy. In fact, I don't even know what the purpose of starting this thread was.

fergus

 

[southerntierguy]

Well said southerntierguy. In fact, I don't even know what the purpose of starting this thread was.

fergus

Apparently someone needs to be a victim today.