Simple Question

[DevilBoy79]

Why do some guys, get a good woman and end up doing stupid things that hurt her? Does anyone have the slightest clue, i've wondered this for a long time, drop a line or two, voicing your opnion please

 

[MissTaken]

Speaking only for myself

Call me naive and tell me that I am always drawn to the wrong guys!



I am realizing now that I need to stop trusting people as much as I always have. I generally take people at face value until they fuck up and guess what? I have a 100% fuck up rate!


I think "Welcome" is tattooed to my forehead and my t shirt says, "Leave your shoes at the door."

 

[RawHumor]

Re: Speaking only for myself

I think "Welcome" is tattooed to my forehead and my t shirt says, "Leave your shoes at the door."

You should post a pic of that in the Tattoo thread.



Addressing the original point of the thread, sometimes the old adage that you don't know what it's got until it's gone is very true.

 

[phrodeau]

Relationships are about being human with each other, and to err is human.

 

[DevilBoy79]

Relationships are about being human with each other, and to error is human.

true but some of us, like myself make alot more then their share of them, and at times it almost costs the ultimate price, the one(s) you love

 

[Guest]

We, men, should have our brains between our legs.

 

[Gord]

yep gotta agree we do sometimes have a selfdestruct button that goes of now and again- you know when we just get this tunnel vision and we know whats best and we go for it regardless of the consequences - been there got the t shirt , book , video, dvd, etc etc

just got to try and learn from fuck ups and hopefully come out the other side whatever the situation a wiser if not better person

 

[plasticman33]

Can't give you any great advice, I've fucked up more times than I care to count.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

i was with someone for awhile. we were really happy. i was told many times that i'm a really great woman. well, i think he knew this, and then he started to take me for granted just expecting that i would be around. and then he didnt get it when i told him outright that i didnt think he really cared about me anymore. and the next day, he ended the relationship (when i found out my gramma almost died the night before too).

i'd say its not so much you're doing things to hurt her.. its more that you're doing things that you think are right but your feelings may have changed some, and when you go to share that you pick a bad time.

 

[DevilBoy79]

my feelings havent changed at all, love her more then anything, and really want her to eventually be my wife

 

[sunstruck]

There are a million different reasons for this. Commonly it's fear. Fear of commitment, fear of responsibility, fear of loss and even fear of happiness.

Maybe you hurt her so she wouldn't hurt you first, maybe because subconsciously you saw yourself heading for a life you weren't ready for, maybe you knew you'd fuck it up eventually and wanted to get it over with before things got too involved.

Like I said, a million reasons. You just need to figure out which one is yours and find a way to get over it for next time.

 

[DevilBoy79]

.Maybe you hurt her so she wouldn't hurt you first, maybe because subconsciously you saw yourself heading for a life you weren't ready for, maybe you knew you'd fuck it up eventually and wanted to get it over with before things got too involved.

that is never the case with her, she never hurts me

 

[Gord]

but what is about the male species - i do think that it is a male trait - that you can be going along very nicey , home , kids. a bit of money, a partner who loves you - ok it you might be having a few communication issues but all in all life is pretty good - and then bamm you go and fuck up hugely risk it all for something that is not worth it - it might not just be sex it could be drugs, booze, gambling, I don know - but the world is full odf loads of wounded people who nearly had it all but just messed up

Is this a male trait or are there some females who can relate to this

 

[sunstruck]

that is never the case with her, she never hurts me

I wasn't guessing at your situation. I was just listing examples. Like I said, it's not a universal thing.

What did you do anyway?

 

[DevilBoy79]

I wasn't guessing at your situation. I was just listing examples. Like I said, it's not a universal thing.

What did you do anyway?

not saying, its settled i believe, just takes time to patch things up, slowly, getting away from this thread for a while, got opnions like i wanted i'm through with it

 

[Willing and Unsure]

but what is about the male species - i do think that it is a male trait - that you can be going along very nicey , home , kids. a bit of money, a partner who loves you - ok it you might be having a few communication issues but all in all life is pretty good - and then bamm you go and fuck up hugely risk it all for something that is not worth it - it might not just be sex it could be drugs, booze, gambling, I don know - but the world is full odf loads of wounded people who nearly had it all but just messed up

Is this a male trait or are there some females who can relate to this

i almsot did this.. i cheated on my ex. i cheated cuz i wanted to know what it would be like to be with someone else. the really sad thing is that my ex still has no idea that i cheated on him

 

[markb325]

Why do some guys, get a good woman and end up doing stupid things that hurt her? Does anyone have the slightest clue, i've wondered this for a long time, drop a line or two, voicing your opnion please

That is one of the biggest questions around. Personally I think it has more to do with the way a person was raised. There are more issues to the behavior, but that is one of the more predominate reasons.