Silent Orgasm

[NuclearFairy]

Honestly, I know what it feels like to orgasm silently, I had to learn how to vocalize when I'm cumming or my partners didn't believe it. But I'm trying to write a scene right now with a girl that silently orgasms, and I want to leave some subtle clues for the observant reader that she's cumming. But outside of the screaming and moaning and full body jerks, which are all short hand for cumming, how do I do so?

 

[TheWritingGroup]

Depends on the details, but momentarily being unable to continue speaking (if she's in a conversation) would be one way. Heavy breathing is a classic, or holding her breath for 15 seconds or whatever. Muscle clenching, say accidentally squeezing something (a paper coffee cup?) too hard. A few delicate drops of perspiration on the brow? A few delicate drops of perspiration on the panties?

I never wrote it, but one of my story ideas would have had a naive person think the heroine was having a seizure because her muscles clenched, she stopped breathing for a little while ....

-Annie

 

[NuclearFairy]

Depends on the details, but momentarily being unable to continue speaking (if she's in a conversation) would be one way. Heavy breathing is a classic, or holding her breath for 15 seconds or whatever. Muscle clenching, say accidentally squeezing something (a paper coffee cup?) too hard. A few delicate drops of perspiration on the brow? A few delicate drops of perspiration on the panties?

I never wrote it, but one of my story ideas would have had a naive person think the heroine was having a seizure because her muscles clenched, she stopped breathing for a little while ....

-Annie

Well she is a talkative tease, but she's also on top in a 69. I suppose maybe I could have her collapse briefly. I might want something more subtle though as the MC isn't supposed to notice until after the fact.

 

[TheWritingGroup]

Well she is a talkative tease, but she's also on top in a 69. I suppose maybe I could have her collapse briefly. I might want something more subtle though as the MC isn't supposed to notice until after the fact.

One of my sex ed teachers (in college) warned about coming during 69, because you might involuntarily bite down ....

-Annie

 

[NuclearFairy]

One of my sex ed teachers (in college) warned about coming during 69, because you might involuntarily bite down ....

-Annie

Uh yeah, I pull my mouth off when I'm cumming. I just don't think about it when writing because the muffled moan provides such a nice mental image.

 

[Erozetta]

Trembling thighs

 

[WittyUserName]

Uh yeah, I pull my mouth off when I'm cumming. I just don't think about it when writing because the muffled moan provides such a nice mental image.

If it's during a 69 and he's fingering her, he might feel her vaginal muscles contract.

 

[NuclearFairy]

If it's during a 69 and he's fingering her, he might feel her vaginal muscles contract.

He is tonguing her at points, so I might be able to use something like that.

 

[RejectReality]

One useful element is why she's being silent. If she's usually not silent, and it's because there's a chance someone might hear her, there's some cues you can use there. Is it because she's repressed/easily embarrassed?
Is it because she's overwhelmed by the strength of the orgasm?

Start with the why of the silence.

Hand over the mouth. Burying her face in a pillow. More or less heaving from tightening up the throat and diaphragm, trying to not let air out. Muffled whimpers from tightly pressed lips. Eyes rolling up in her head. Eyes popping wide open. Eyes pinching closed. Little croaks from holding back sounds in the throat. Mouth hanging open with the jaw trembling. Fingers curling into claws. Toes curling. Back arching. Tensing up.

If you really want to flesh out your scenes, a lot of this stuff should be in there already. If you're only using screams, you're leaving a lot of imagery on the table. Just take out the screams, yelps, screeches, etc. and concentrate on everything else.

 

[JGittes]

Here in the UK, I've seen an interesting online advert for a provocative hotel chain catering to women. The text says something like, 'Stay here to let go and do what you don't at home,' with images of an elegantly dressed woman walking along a posh hotel corridor and having a drink poolside. There is one half-second shot of a close-up of a woman's hand lying flat on a bedsheet that suddenly curls into a fist, grabbing the sheet.

Very clear what's happening.

 

[AwkwardMD]

Exhaling. Delirious, unfocused eyes.

 

[NuclearFairy]

One useful element is why she's being silent. If she's usually not silent, and it's because there's a chance someone might hear her, there's some cues you can use there. Is it because she's repressed/easily embarrassed?
Is it because she's overwhelmed by the strength of the orgasm?

Start with the why of the silence.

Hand over the mouth. Burying her face in a pillow. More or less heaving from tightening up the throat and diaphragm, trying to not let air out. Muffled whimpers from tightly pressed lips. Eyes rolling up in her head. Eyes popping wide open. Eyes pinching closed. Little croaks from holding back sounds in the throat. Mouth hanging open with the jaw trembling. Fingers curling into claws. Toes curling. Back arching. Tensing up.

If you really want to flesh out your scenes, a lot of this stuff should be in there already. If you're only using screams, you're leaving a lot of imagery on the table. Just take out the screams, yelps, screeches, etc. and concentrate on everything else.

She's silent because she's naturally silent. That's just how she cums. It's how I naturally cum. If I cum really hard I'll clench my jaw and kick my right foot exactly three times and that's it. I've had to learn to grip the other person and jerk my hips and cry out. But I don't necessarily want her to have the same subtle clues as I have.

 

[NotWise]

A lot of people don't make a lot of noise when they come, but the physical effects are the same regardless of how we respond to them. Tension builds in the body gradually as arousal increases, then it peaks suddenly during orgasm. The tension is released through series of spasms, and the body relaxes.

Those things are a lot of times not noticed by a partner because their own arousal leaves no room in their mind for anything but their own sensations. As a writer, you can still describe them.

I once had a lover who, when she was on top, would lay on me and use short, quick motions that got faster and more violent as she got close to coming. It wasn't as exciting for me as it was or her, so I could pay attention. When she came she would suddenly stop for a second (or three) and then collapse on top of me into a girl-like puddle.

She made hardly any noise when she did that.

 

[PennyThompson]

One of my stories ended with a pair of silent orgasms in a college dorm shower

Clenching thighs, open mouths, heavy breathing, biting a partner's shoulder, tugging at their hair

 

[Noor]

her breathing will change, a red rash on her neck and her lips and cheeks will get redder, her breasts will swell, her toes curl , she might hold onto something/someone very tightly.
After she comes everything relaxed, although she might twitch on and off for a bit, toes uncurl, hands let go, the red recedes, the red lips and cheeks usually stays. She is relaxed, calm for a bit, like someone floating.
Her face will relax and she will look younger right after.

 

[nice90sguy]

She drops her nailfile

 

[Shellz32]

If I cannot grip the bedhead tightly with my right hand... It's not like I can't cum. It's just not as good. I have nfi why

Legs completely vibrating and shaking means I am really cumming hard

 

[BobbyBrandt]

I have had my wife in this position a few times and always knew that she had an orgasm because she squirts. Not all women squirt, but it is a pretty good indication of climax when they do.

 

[lovecraft68]

Her body tensing, face and chest flushing, facial twitches, her cunt contracting around her lover, her legs straightening, feet pointing forward, or as the OP mentioned sudden kicking like she has RLS, or if missionary, her legs wrapping tightly around him. Her toes curling into him, fingers gouging into him.

Maybe a sharp intake of breath which isn't quite the same as being verbal.

A lot of ways.

 

[jsmiam]

I admire your goals, with encouragement from a different perspective: do it your way in your words. Ignore our advice and use your descriptions of your own experiences instead.

Embrace your own knowledge, and provide a little sex education to the masses instead. That orgasms don’t look like porn or like Meg Ryan going “yes, Yes, YESS”, that they take longer to achieve, that all women don’t really squirt, that sorta thing. Add in my pet peeve, that you don’t “same-finger” back door before front without causing infections. Erotica & porn propagate so much BS and nowadays GP (girl-pee), the world needs some writers to dispel at least SOME misconceptions.

Also, keeping in mind you’re asking us alleged experts (me included), but that the vast majority of us are male, the truth is we don’t know either. So, assuming you really are female, you would know better than most of us no matter how much we think we know.

Go forth and educate the masses is my vote.

(Disclaimer: regarding my “really are female” comment, nothing personal to you, I promise. Spend enough time here, you realize you just have to keep the possibility in mind every time. (I buy my grains of salt wholesale!). ;-)

 

[Lifestyle66]

Honestly, I know what it feels like to orgasm silently, I had to learn how to vocalize when I'm cumming or my partners didn't believe it. But I'm trying to write a scene right now with a girl that silently orgasms, and I want to leave some subtle clues for the observant reader that she's cumming. But outside of the screaming and moaning and full body jerks, which are all short hand for cumming, how do I do so?

My wife always tries to be in control, and sometimes she'll try to hide her reactions to my handiwork. When she tries to suppress her vocal reaction or holds her hands and arms very still, I can still tell when she orgasms when her right foot shakes and twitches.

Another way is when I'm using my fingers in her and probe deep enough to find the right spot and "flick" a small, growing nub, she'll resist as long as she can, but eventually becomes VERY wet. She says that's a different kind of orgasm which she describes as "deep body", and it's not the same as when I'm focusing on her clit.

 

[NuclearFairy]

Her body tensing, face and chest flushing, facial twitches, her cunt contracting around her lover, her legs straightening, feet pointing forward, or as the OP mentioned sudden kicking like she has RLS, or if missionary, her legs wrapping tightly around him. Her toes curling into him, fingers gouging into him.

Maybe a sharp intake of breath which isn't quite the same as being verbal.

A lot of ways.

Funny thing is, I have RLS, so maybe that's related.

I admire your goals, with encouragement from a different perspective: do it your way in your words. Ignore our advice and use your descriptions of your own experiences instead.

Embrace your own knowledge, and provide a little sex education to the masses instead. That orgasms don’t look like porn or like Meg Ryan going “yes, Yes, YESS”, that they take longer to achieve, that all women don’t really squirt, that sorta thing. Add in my pet peeve, that you don’t “same-finger” back door before front without causing infections. Erotica & porn propagate so much BS and nowadays GP (girl-pee), the world needs some writers to dispel at least SOME misconceptions.

Also, keeping in mind you’re asking us alleged experts (me included), but that the vast majority of us are male, the truth is we don’t know either. So, assuming you really are female, you would know better than most of us no matter how much we think we know.

Go forth and educate the masses is my vote.

(Disclaimer: regarding my “really are female” comment, nothing personal to you, I promise. Spend enough time here, you realize you just have to keep the possibility in mind every time. (I buy my grains of salt wholesale!). ;-)

Yeah, though I'm always too in the moment to see it from the outside, and I'm sure there are more ways of cumming silently then my own.

 

[Britva415]

So...

I've had these kinds of lovers.

Sometimes I didn't know they came. I assume that you don't want to write that kind of a story, @NuclearFairy ?

Other times, the "knowing" comes from really subtle things I sense. I can feel a clit swell with climax and a vulva spasm involuntarily. I can feel the tone of a body's muscles change. I can hear, feel, or otherwise sense changes in depth and rapidity of breathing. I won't go as far as to say there's a "sixth sense" involved, but, I literally mean it when I say that the other person's "energy" is sometimes what I sense.

I don't claim it's a sixth sense, but it's an awareness such that I can't really describe how I sense it other than to use metaphors which evoke energy and electricity and stuff.

It's probably just how my brain integrates a conscious experience for me out of subsconscious or subliminal sensations I pick up from the person's body and micro-movements.

It sounds subtle but for a person who has empathy and is attentive, it's not subtle, it's very palpable.

Some of you will know what I'm talking about. Some won't. Some might be able to imagine it even if they aren't convinced they've experienced this kind of sense of another person's energy.

Some of you will know exactly what this is and know how to project your own energy and make another person feel it - or at least make them sense it subliminally and react to it.

Some of you will know how to use this skill to bring the other person there and get off on it.

A couple of the most intense sex experiences I've ever had with someone else were very very quiet and still on the outside, but utterly explosive for both of us on the inside. Mutual energy, simultaneous orgasms, and an almost psychedelic kaleidoscope of sensations someone watching would be totally unaware of.

 

[NuclearFairy]

So...

I've had these kinds of lovers.

Sometimes I didn't know they came. I assume that you don't want to write that kind of a story, @NuclearFairy ?

Other times, the "knowing" comes from really subtle things I sense. I can feel a clit swell with climax and a vulva spasm involuntarily. I can feel the tone of a body's muscles change. I can hear, feel, or otherwise sense changes in depth and rapidity of breathing. I won't go as far as to say there's a "sixth sense" involved, but, I literally mean it when I say that the other person's "energy" is sometimes what I sense.

I don't claim it's a sixth sense, but it's an awareness such that I can't really describe how I sense it other than to use metaphors which evoke energy and electricity and stuff.

It's probably just how my brain integrates a conscious experience for me out of subsconscious or subliminal sensations I pick up from the person's body and micro-movements.

It sounds subtle but for a person who has empathy and is attentive, it's not subtle, it's very palpable.

Some of you will know what I'm talking about. Some won't. Some might be able to imagine it even if they aren't convinced they've experienced this kind of sense of another person's energy.

Some of you will know exactly what this is and know how to project your own energy and make another person feel it - or at least make them sense it subliminally and react to it.

Some of you will know how to use this skill to bring the other person there and get off on it.

A couple of the most intense sex experiences I've ever had with someone else were very very quiet and still on the outside, but utterly explosive for both of us on the inside. Mutual energy, simultaneous orgasms, and an almost psychedelic kaleidoscope of sensations someone watching would be totally unaware of.

Oh thank you so much for this!

Also, kinda? I don't want him to know in the moment, but to be able to see it in hindsight and so in future moments with this girl be able to know when she's cumming.

 

[Britva415]

I don't want him to know in the moment, but to be able to see it in hindsight and so in future moments with this girl be able to know when she's cumming.

Maybe a misty glow in her eyes he's never seen before, which he doesn't react to right away but haunts him until he has the "eureka" moment later.