Signifcant Others, Husbands, Bachelor Parties and Tittie Bars

[lavender]

So, I was listening to a radio show where one of the guys was talking about how his wife wouldn't let him go to a tittie bar. We got an in depth description of the argument between the two.

I know this has been done before, but this just puzzled me once again.

If I'm in a committed relationship, I'm going to trust the guy enough to go do these things. I'm not going to stifle his choices. I don't care if he goes to a tittie bar or a bachelor party.

What the hell is the big deal here?

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Angel]

There is no big deal.

1) I don't mind if he goes with his buddies.

2) I'd go along if he wanted.

3) I'd go to a strip club on my own.

 

[Lasher]

If I'm in a committed relationship, I'm going to trust the guy enough to go do these things.

If you can't trust him to do this you'd have to wonder about the relationship.

 

[lavender]

Re: Re: Signifcant Others, Husbands, Bachelor Parties and Tittie Bars

If you can't trust him to do this you'd have to wonder about the relationship.

No shit.

These women are getting their knickers in a twist over nuttin'.

 

[lobito]

did SHE have a bachlorette party? we're there male strippers there? I bet that part of the story wasn't told. Maybe it happened, maybe it didn't, but geez, let the guy have some fun.

 

[perks]

over nuttin

heh.


what you mean a guy would want to look at someone's body other than mine?

that must me he doesn't love me or isn't committed to me. Rather I should gouge his eyes out with a hot poker so his eyes are faithful.

 

[CoolidgEffect]

Some wives prefer not to conflate there husbands with naked women.

 

[Lasz]

I think it depends if I feel compfortable with my SO going to a strip club. If I dont feel comfortable about her going I wont go my self, I cant set a double standard, that would be bad.

 

[lavender]

Some wives prefer not to conflate there husbands with naked women.

You are such a little shitass.

 

[Guru]

 

[Lancecastor]

I don't like strip clubs. I've experienced them, studied them from all angles, know owners, dancers...and I think the paradigm demeans women, IMHO.

Plus, I find them trashy.

Lance

 

[lavender]

Well, I agree with you completely. But, that doesn't mean that I would tell my SO he wasn't "allowed" to go to one. It's all about personal choice - he still has that. Just because he shares a bed with me doesn't mean that I get to dictate his life decisions.

 

[patford31769]

I guess I couldn't exactly object, since I work in a gentleman's club myself.

I think women worry that an exotic dancer like me will steal her man. But I don't pursue married men. And I can ALWAYS tell when a guy in a club is married. He has a certain nervousness in hitting on me that single guys lack. A single guy can be nervous too, of course, but it is a different nervousness when a guy's married, not fear that I'll reject him but fear his wife will find out. And there's often a mark on his finger from where he just slipped off his wedding band!

But I'll admit if I'm pretty sure a customer is single and I am attracted to him (or HER!), I might have a fling. And I think that's why wives worry about it.

Just an insider's opinion, take it for what it's worth.

 

[Lancecastor]

Well, I agree with you completely. But, that doesn't mean that I would tell my SO he wasn't "allowed" to go to one. It's all about personal choice - he still has that. Just because he shares a bed with me doesn't mean that I get to dictate his life decisions.

Agreed as well. I wouldn't "tell" my s.o. not to go, but she'd know my position and the choice would be hers.

That being said...I hold out hope that my SO wouldn't want to go either because of her own values, and/or her understanding of and respect for mine.

Either that or our relationship would be such that she'd be able to make me feel comfortable with her views on the matter.

"The things I hate, she will almost like."
~Somebody - Depeche Mode

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Calamity Jane]

I went to a strip club this weekend. Mr PCG didn't have a problem with it... though I don't think he needs to know that the girls bought me a lap dance.

I know that he's been to them. It doesn't bother me anymore than the fact that he occasionally eats lunch at Hooters.

 

[lavender]

"The things I hate, she will almost like."
~Somebody - Depeche Mode

You are weirding me out, man.

That's one of my favorite "love" songs, for lack of a better term, of all time.

 

[Lancecastor]

You are weirding me out, man.

That's one of my favorite "love" songs, for lack of a better term, of all time.

Sorry.

I'll try to be more Lancesque now.

Scabhead.

 

[kotori]

I used to go fairly frequently when I was younger, before I was married. While I was married, not so much, although I never asked permission--actually thinking back on it, it was mostly when the wife was away for a weekend or whatever. Maybe I was lonely. Since I've been on my own again, not at all, doesn't interest me, I guess.

Now, as for the original question, of course it wouldn't bother me. It's just entertainment.

 

[CoolidgEffect]

I went to a strip club this weekend. Mr PCG didn't have a problem with it... though I don't think he needs to know that the girls bought me a lap dance.

I know that he's been to them. It doesn't bother me anymore than the fact that he occasionally eats lunch at Hooters.

You showed him the search function didn't you?

 

[Cheyenne]

Well, I agree with you completely. But, that doesn't mean that I would tell my SO he wasn't "allowed" to go to one. It's all about personal choice - he still has that. Just because he shares a bed with me doesn't mean that I get to dictate his life decisions.

ditto.

We've also talked about women friends in his life. I don't expect him to give up female friendships just because he has me in his life. That wouldn't be fair to him OR to his friends.

 

[Killswitch]

I have DJ'd at dance clubs, dated dancers, and hung out in them occassionally as a patron.

The only thing the girls there want from your men is "Your" money.

In effect, it's a safer place for your guy to go than an Irish Pub where the Barkeep wants your money, but the chick at the end of the bar wants more than that.

 

[Gilly Bean]

I wouldn't care if Lekov went. I look at it the same way: I trust him, and hey, it's not like they are having sex, or something.

 

[Calamity Jane]

You showed him the search function didn't you?

Yeah, but I didn't teach him to read.