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Wicked-N-Erotic
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Is this a trick question? Are you just trying to get me in here so you can shun me?
Wicked-N-Erotic
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In that case...I have been shunned many, many times and I just say Fuck em', their loss.
I've never shunned anyone because I know too well how it feels.
Sorry to hear you're being shunned
I've never shunned anyone because I know too well how it feels.
Sorry to hear you're being shunned
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thanks...
Lancecastor
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I worked for a big american superhappymegacorp that used to do a thing called "Stonewall" if they (the company Pickle Bum Clique....you know the kind) decided they didn't like your project.
They'd stop going to your meetings, false their budget numbers, push the targets dates out into forever, not sit with you at lunch...I saw them make a woman cry over it one time.
They tried it on me once for about 4 days because I proposed skipping a step with the Product Planning Committee (horrors!)...I got the word , and so I had T-Shirts made with Project Stonewall on the front and the names of the Stonewallers on the back. I gave out about 50 and bribed my pals to wear them on Casual Friday the following week.
That got me a call to the President's office on Monday...Stonewalling was outlawed in a company wide email that afternoon.
So, Sufisaint....I say out the fuckers brazenly ASAP.
They'd stop going to your meetings, false their budget numbers, push the targets dates out into forever, not sit with you at lunch...I saw them make a woman cry over it one time.
They tried it on me once for about 4 days because I proposed skipping a step with the Product Planning Committee (horrors!)...I got the word , and so I had T-Shirts made with Project Stonewall on the front and the names of the Stonewallers on the back. I gave out about 50 and bribed my pals to wear them on Casual Friday the following week.
That got me a call to the President's office on Monday...Stonewalling was outlawed in a company wide email that afternoon.
So, Sufisaint....I say out the fuckers brazenly ASAP.
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Yes, I have been shunned by one segment of my extended family (technically I suppose I am still being shunned, I just don't notice because I don't even attempt to interact with them).sufisaint said:
The first thing I did was try to understand why they felt it was necessary to shun me - and didn't just grab for the nearest explanation that left them being the bad guys, I did some serious soul searching to work out exactly what it was that they found so offensive about me.
Once I was confident I'd identified it, I took a long hard look at that aspect of myself - looking at it from both their perspective and my own. I came to realize that they were justified in their refusal to accept that aspect of me - but also that I could not change it without betraying myself. So I accepted the withdrawal of all contact as the best solution (confrontations would not have resolved anything: I could see why they needed me to change, but I can't change the way they need me to).
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Re: Re: shunned
That, is a beautiful answer.
Sufi, I'm sorry that you're going through this. Knowing that it's a temp job though, I'm sure you can see that light at the end of it. Just remember that everything's temporary.
crysede said:
That, is a beautiful answer.
Sufi, I'm sorry that you're going through this. Knowing that it's a temp job though, I'm sure you can see that light at the end of it. Just remember that everything's temporary.
sanjuaneros
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Yes, because I disagreed with their choice.
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sufisaint said:
Ah, the workplace. Aren't temporary workers treated like substitute teachers much of the time? No one puts much effort into developing any kind of relationship since you're going to be gone soon anyway. Doesn't make it right, but I think it is common.
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Lol...I was shunned by my entire department (all women) two weeks after I started working here. I believe that they did this for a couple of weeks.
They didn't get my sense of humor.
They realized that I was a lovable guy and gave in...
but now...I'm much more careful what I say.
They didn't get my sense of humor.
They realized that I was a lovable guy and gave in...
but now...I'm much more careful what I say.
cleo -
wow! I too have dreams once in a while that she and I are friends again. In the dreams, we're hanging out, or working, and talking about all the things we've seen or read or heard while not speaking that we wanted to tell each other about.
Then I wake up, and go, "blllbblrrlbll" and give myself a good shake like a dog getting out of the bathtub. Stupid subconcious. Doesn't know what's good for it.
I could call her and apologize - because I admit that I wasn't a great friend... but I know she's not willing to admit she was a bad boss, and a poor friend, too. That was why I quit dealing with her in the first place. Better to leave it alone.
wow! I too have dreams once in a while that she and I are friends again. In the dreams, we're hanging out, or working, and talking about all the things we've seen or read or heard while not speaking that we wanted to tell each other about.
Then I wake up, and go, "blllbblrrlbll" and give myself a good shake like a dog getting out of the bathtub. Stupid subconcious. Doesn't know what's good for it.
I could call her and apologize - because I admit that I wasn't a great friend... but I know she's not willing to admit she was a bad boss, and a poor friend, too. That was why I quit dealing with her in the first place. Better to leave it alone.
