Been thinking about this lately. First let me say that I've always beleived in COMPLETE Honesty,but,is it always the best way to go concerning message boards? I mean,like,you see someone here that you really like what they have to say and would like to get to know them. Do you tell them that you're NOT "tall,dark,and handsome" or that you're not 20 years old and hung,or would you have more fun if you were the ideal stud or ideal perfect blond bombshell. Personally,I think that we all have become too sterotyped and catagorized. Now,before you sound off,think it over.Do YOU have certain criteria that has to be met before you get to know someone. Just something to think about!!!
Should We Be Honest?
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CreamyLady
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Yes -- anyone who approaches me in a sexual manner is immediately told that I don't do that. If they wish to be friendly after that, my criteria are an interesting mind, respect, and shared interests. In short, something to talk about.
I'm not hunting, and I'm not prey, so looks -- real or imaginary -- are meaningless.
I'm not hunting, and I'm not prey, so looks -- real or imaginary -- are meaningless.
bluntforcemama
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Hmm...
I think criteria is somewhat clinical of a term, but I have certain things that I like to know. There is a guy I've cybered with, and he almost seems to be a skinhead (by his desrciption of himself), and he fucks like an animal, wants to draw blood and everything. This does indeed seem to be one of those "things" that I want to know about someone. Of course, the fact that I'm Jewish (by blood) had NOTHING to do with me dropping him on his ass... But I guess that if someone is really NOT attractive (and there aren't many people who truly are unattractive), then don't send me your picture. I know that's cruel, but it just really turns me off when someone who doesn't take care of themselves, or their bodies/minds sends me a picture and expects me to tell them what I think. Tall dark and handsome is always prefered... but I'm proud to say that I'm short, dark, and somewhat pretty... Looks really are overrated.
I think criteria is somewhat clinical of a term, but I have certain things that I like to know. There is a guy I've cybered with, and he almost seems to be a skinhead (by his desrciption of himself), and he fucks like an animal, wants to draw blood and everything. This does indeed seem to be one of those "things" that I want to know about someone. Of course, the fact that I'm Jewish (by blood) had NOTHING to do with me dropping him on his ass... But I guess that if someone is really NOT attractive (and there aren't many people who truly are unattractive), then don't send me your picture. I know that's cruel, but it just really turns me off when someone who doesn't take care of themselves, or their bodies/minds sends me a picture and expects me to tell them what I think. Tall dark and handsome is always prefered... but I'm proud to say that I'm short, dark, and somewhat pretty... Looks really are overrated.
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I completely agree with the points that you both are making.
Creamylady,you make my point. I like to be told right off if I've crossed the line,thats what I mean about honesty.I respect a person that puts it on the line. I don't like the silent treatment.
Now,about sending a picture. I agree that a person doesn't have to point out their flaws.Guess what I mean is,give the person a chance to see what they have to offer.
Thanks Ladies, I appreciate your input.
I completely agree with the points that you both are making.
Creamylady,you make my point. I like to be told right off if I've crossed the line,thats what I mean about honesty.I respect a person that puts it on the line. I don't like the silent treatment.
Now,about sending a picture. I agree that a person doesn't have to point out their flaws.Guess what I mean is,give the person a chance to see what they have to offer.
Thanks Ladies, I appreciate your input.
Cheyenne
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Most important criteria is being able to present a decent email. If the person can't put a string of words together into a full sentence, or uses a lot of "R" and "U" abbreviations instead of words, I'm turned off. I stay away from chat rooms and don't want chat lingo in my emails.
Then comes personality. Do I WANT to talk to you? Can you talk about anything BESIDES sex? Do you seem to have a brain in your head?
Looks are far down the list after "smarts" and personality.
As for honesty, I don't want to be lied to and I don't lie to others.
Then comes personality. Do I WANT to talk to you? Can you talk about anything BESIDES sex? Do you seem to have a brain in your head?
Looks are far down the list after "smarts" and personality.
As for honesty, I don't want to be lied to and I don't lie to others.
Xander
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Honesty above all.
I believe in honesty, and if anyone cares to run through the board. They will also see, there's a considerable amount of info about my life here.
Now, of course there is certain things, that no one ever discloses in public. Which is perfectly understandable.
But all in all. Be honest about yourself. Even in Cyberland.
I believe in honesty, and if anyone cares to run through the board. They will also see, there's a considerable amount of info about my life here.
Now, of course there is certain things, that no one ever discloses in public. Which is perfectly understandable.
But all in all. Be honest about yourself. Even in Cyberland.
brazenblaze
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Cheyenne said:
I second that emotion. I stay away from the chat room for exactly the same reason. I want to be able to TALK with a person about a subject other than sex. If I just want to FUCK...then I'm not online in the first place. I enjoy the online sex, but only with someone I've had a chance to get to know a little. Once I know them, the looks aren't that important...I like the person. I guess I'm lucky that pics don't ruin the fantasy for me...I still see them in my mind as the "person" from the words.
ShyGuy68
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I'm one of the persons that prefer honesty myself, and I'm also honest about myself when I talk to people on-line.
But I have also been one of those guys that described himself as goodlooking when I started to come on-line and chat with people.
But as I got a little older, and wiser, I also got smart and started to figure out that looks for sure isn't everything! I want a person who I can talk to about everything, and who will take me for who I am, and not for what I look like. But I have to admit that I do like a great smile and a wonderful set of eyes!!
I don't know if any that's reading this read the thread I started about a female friend from this board who's pictures I posted on my site. But yesterday she also send me some pictures of her face, and man I really like the pictures of her face, eyes and smile a lot more than the pictures of her breasts and pussy!
And the same goes for a couple of other people from the board that have shared very private pictures with me. A beautiful smile that comes from the eyes and the soul are more likely to knock me off my feet than the body.
But I have also been one of those guys that described himself as goodlooking when I started to come on-line and chat with people.
But as I got a little older, and wiser, I also got smart and started to figure out that looks for sure isn't everything! I want a person who I can talk to about everything, and who will take me for who I am, and not for what I look like. But I have to admit that I do like a great smile and a wonderful set of eyes!!
I don't know if any that's reading this read the thread I started about a female friend from this board who's pictures I posted on my site. But yesterday she also send me some pictures of her face, and man I really like the pictures of her face, eyes and smile a lot more than the pictures of her breasts and pussy!
And the same goes for a couple of other people from the board that have shared very private pictures with me. A beautiful smile that comes from the eyes and the soul are more likely to knock me off my feet than the body.
Problem Child
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Goddamn Siren....
How much do you expect a guy to handle in one day?
First you tell me that Jay-Lo is a poseur, and now this!
Now I'm REALLY depressed...
Where's my gun...goodbye cruel world!
Siren said:I am really a 54 year old pot bellied balding
white man living in a tenament apt on east side of
Chicago and retired from working on the toll booths.
How much do you expect a guy to handle in one day?
First you tell me that Jay-Lo is a poseur, and now this!
Now I'm REALLY depressed...
Where's my gun...goodbye cruel world!
Problem Child
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O evil seductress...
..now thou hast crushed me, finally and completely, under thine kneehigh bootheel, standing over me in thine leather body suit, cat-o-nine tails in hand, striking me unmercifully into delirium... *whack*...*whack*
*coff* Uh, sorry...guess I got carried away.
Where's the rest of that goddam pizza. I think I slid it under the couch...
[Edited by Problem Child on 03-04-2001 at 01:58 PM]
..now thou hast crushed me, finally and completely, under thine kneehigh bootheel, standing over me in thine leather body suit, cat-o-nine tails in hand, striking me unmercifully into delirium... *whack*...*whack*
*coff* Uh, sorry...guess I got carried away.
Where's the rest of that goddam pizza. I think I slid it under the couch...
[Edited by Problem Child on 03-04-2001 at 01:58 PM]
Dillinger
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I like honesty. I am who I say I am. I keep some things private. I will joke about things. I will indulge in some good-hearted teasing or in some out and out down-and-dirty teasing as well... but basically, I am pretty much who you "see" here.
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