Should Pyper get a nose job?

[Pyper]

Confession time.

Contrary to popular belief, Pyper is not a stunningly beautiful PJ Harvey look-a-like. She has one feature of her anatomy that has always bothered her: an excessively large nose.

Now, she must make a life-changing decision within two weeks (before she goes off her parents' insurance ). Should she, or should she not, get a nose job?

On a less melodramatic note, I really need help making a decision here, people! I've never liked my nose, but I'm not sure if I want to make such a change to my appearance. It's really stressing me out, if only I could decide yes or no, I would be happy again.

So I need advice. No smarmy "do what YOU really want" advice because I don't KNOW what I want. Tell me what you think about plastic surgery. Good? Bad? Shallow?

No pictures of my oversized schnozz will be posted, because I'd rather have people's general opinions of this type of surgery rather than opinions based how big my nose is.

 

[TWB]

How old are you?

Consult Barbara Streisand.

 

[Ezzie]

I myself thought about getting a boob job done until one friend told me of the risks that come with any plastic surgery and another friend showed me graphic pictures of what it looks like when surgery goes wrong. I personally wouldn't do it if I were you.

 

[sexy-girl]

hi pyper


i dont exactly have a small nose either infact i've been known to call it big ... however plastic surgery is something i would never consider for myself

however this is your life and totally up to you ... i know most people in this thread will say no way dont do it ... and thats what im tempted to say also ... but its your choice do what you want to do

sorry i know that maybe makes it harder but i dont think anyone can tell you what to do

 

[Pyper]

I'm twenty.

I have seen plastic surgery on TV (ew!) and have already been to a consultation and the risks have been explained to me. Basically the risks that come with rhinoplasty are few and minor, apart from the risk that always comes with any surgery (such as a bad reaction to anasthesia).

After talking with the doctor, I am less afraid about the physical risks, and more concerned about the psychological ones.

 

[Starfish]

For me, two weeks is too short a time to make this kind of a life changing decision, unless this is something I've been pondering for ages, and keep coming back to all of the time.

See, I am the kind of person who tends to see if something will come up over and over again over time, before I make a decision. Often times, I will finally decided to do something drastic, just because it has been something I think of doing steadily over time, if my ambivilance doesn't receed to a choice.
I guess I just wait to see it it is a whim or not.

I think this is a big deal though, moreso than what I am thinking of, so I have no clue.

Wow! Good luck with your choice and let us know!

 

[April]

Your nose continues growing throughout your life. Just think about that.

If it bothers you now, imagine when you're 50, and it's even bigger and longer.
No, I'm not trying to be sarcastic.

I would say go for it. Just don't do a drastic change. A little shorter and/or smaller would be enough, I think. And all this is said having no knowledge of what you look like.

 

[Jim_Henson]

PJ does NOT need a nose job.

 

[Pyper]

Your nose continues growing throughout your life. Just think about that.

If it bothers you now, imagine when you're 50, and it's even bigger and longer.
No, I'm not trying to be sarcastic.

I know you're not. I've thought about that often myself. It makes me shudder.

Okay, more worries to unload on you all. I don't think I've explained how ugly my nose is. The doctor (who is actually this year's president of the American Society of Plastic Surgeons, oooh) seemed to think it needed a major overhaul. Too long, wide, big, and not to mention misshapen from it being broken. (But not misshapen enough for the insurance to cover it, grumble grumble.)

But in spite of all this, the nose has been on my face for twenty years. To some extent, to lose it would be like losing a limb, or worse, denying my mixed heritage in favor of a more Anglo-Saxon look.

But on the OTHER HAND, I know the first thing people see when they see me is my nose. And he only reason they don't mention it is because we're not in kindegarten anymore.

 

[Black_Bird]

Can you live with it the way it is?

 

[sexy-girl]

pyper however bad you think it is ... its not

i know i've looked in the mirror and thought hmmmmm and everyone does that about some imperfections they perceive

i did a thread recently stating 10 reasons why i thought i wasn't "that sexy" in reality im happy with how i look but i know im not perfect but thats ok because nobody is


i wouldnt go on just what the doctor was saying after all he needs you to make money

 

[Pyper]

Can you live with it the way it is?

That is a good question. Yes, I can live with it. I'm not suicidal or anything over my nose. But I am self-conscious.

Side story: I know someone who was also self-conscious over having a big nose. She was forced into surgery by her mother at a very young age, and was unhappy at the time. But in a few years, she adjusted, and became very happy with her new look, and was in the end grateful to her mother.

So what if this happens to me? Right now I am unsure and nervous, but if I get it done, will I then be much happier? (The person in the above story encourages me to have the surgery based on this.)

 

[fgarvb1]

Hey Pyper.

We might not have always gotten along. I don't remember.

Anyway how is one to give an honest opinion if we don't know what you look like?

Worse than that, I at least would need pictures front, both profiles, from the bottom as well as the top.

Also in sunlight, shade, dim light...you get my drift.

You need to ask some people who know you in real life and who will tell you the truth. I'd bet you look just fine the way you are.

Hell, ten years from now you might have the perfect nose.

Most people are not happy with some part of there body.

The trouble is that keeps changing as we age. Itt would be a real bitch to find out your nose was to little ten or fifteen years down the road after having it worked on.

 

[Pyper]

I might mention now that I have already consulted my entire family and good friends about this. All of them (except my dad) tell me to do it.

Is this their way of saying I am ugly?

 

[soliloquy]

I think that if it is the only thing about you that makes you self-concious, go for it. I am personally of the school of thought that you should be happy with what god gave you. But, if it is something that seriously affects how you carry yourself and interact with other people, and if you truly think that a change to your nose would help you with self confidence, then go for it.

However, if this is just one in a line of things that you dislike about yourself, then it is more an issue of looking inward. I don't know you from Adam, so I wouldn't know... Trust your gut.

 

[sexy-girl]

I might mention now that I have already consulted my entire family and good friends about this. All of them (except my dad) tell me to do it.

Is this their way of saying I am ugly?

i think we're getting vibes that this is something you want to do ... im sure your family are just saying go for it because they feel its something you want to do

if they thought you didnt want it im sure they would say dont

 

[Ask For More]

If it will make you happier, then go for it. I'll support you whatver you choose.

 

[Jim_Henson]

Pyperina, its fine.. you dont have a honker like a muppet... now thats a scary one.

 

[perks]

first of all let's consult one of the basic Perkyisms..

"If you have to ask the question, you're not ready, you're not sure and you shouldn't do it."


Secondly, when you are sure, go for it. I'm all for doing what you need to do to get yourself to a happy space. However, if you have other issues that are making you unhappy, then the nose job isn't going to fix that. It will just give you a different nose.

Thirdly, if you don't keep up with your nose job, when you're 80 you'll still have a 20 year old nose. Imagine the look of that.

 

[Weird Harold]

first of all let's consult one of the basic Perkyisms..

"If you have to ask the question, you're not ready, you're not sure and you shouldn't do it."

A good point Perky.

I'll add another cliche: "If it ain't broke, don't fix it."

As long as your nose is functional and you can live with it, that's probably the best choice. no matter how skilled and enthusiatic your surgeon is -- and remember he's biased bcaue he's going to mke money if youdecide to do it -- there is always the risk that your "new" nose isn't going to be as functional as your old one.

Think carefully about what a nose job is going to "fix" and if the the possiblity of a life of sinus problems, loss of sense of smell and all the other potential side-effects is worth "fixing" your nose.

 

[Parklife]

Despite you not wanting to hear it, I think the best answer is only the one that you can give.

None of us here can really make any sort of decision for your situation. I know two vastly different situations involving modifying one's body. One, a woman who had a breast reduction. Didn't help, she had low self-esteem before and after. It did nothing for her. Two, a woman who got a nose job and it turned her life around. She, in fact, felt better about herself, which made her more apt to interact with people, which improved her life, which made her happy.

I guess the point is, what will the change in your nose cause to change in YOU?? If the answer is nothing, then it's purely cosmetic and won't have any bearing whatsoever. If it will improve your outlook and feeling, then perhaps it's in your best interest.

Park~

 

[lickerish]

Jennifer Grey of Ferris Buellers Day Off/ Dirty Dancing fame.. went in to have her nose reduced because she thought it was 'too big'... and they accidently took too much off.. and she hates it. She looks NOTHING like she used to, at all. Granted, everyone knew her as a teen, and now she's an adult, she was bound to change some.. but still.

You're still young, and your body is still changing (yes, even at 20) What might be ugly to you now, might not be in 5, 10, 15 years.

I say don't do something so permanent.. but then, it's your call, not ours.



Nice to see you around Pyperina

 

[Cheyenne]

i think we're getting vibes that this is something you want to do ... im sure your family are just saying go for it because they feel its something you want to do

if they thought you didnt want it im sure they would say dont

Very insightful, and most likely correct.

If you know all the risks and you're ready for the pain, go for it. It does seem to be something you want but are trying to justify it in your head.

 

[Guru]

 

[erosman]

My two forinth worth:

I would do it. At mid-life, I have come to understand that everything is not relative. You can rationalize whether it's right, wrong, or whatever. It sounds like you want to have it done, but fear is your main objector. I would agree that the physical risks are minimal. The psychological ones, to me, sound greater at saying no, than going ahead. Elective surgery is just that, elective. So, choose. I would guess that sky-diving is riskier, and yet tomorrow morning, all across this country, hundreds of thrill seekers will jump out of reliable aircraft...just because they want to...not because it makes sense.

In the end, there are good reasons and bad reasons for doing most anything. Just pick out a good reason, and go for it.