I'm a 42 year old male.For 28 years I've had the hots for my best friends mother.I find her just as sexy & desirable as I did when I was 14.Over the years when she was having problems in her marriage I've felt she was open to an affair if I had made the attempt but she's never made any blatent ovetures, much to my disappointment. I'm sure she's never slept with anyone except her husband of 42 years.I like, admire,& respect her husband & have been welcome in their home all these years.Her husband has stopped all his drinking & cheating,"because of ill health" & now they are getting along great. I'm sure they're not having sex due to his health.I'm sure she masturbates as she has a vibrator. It would be a life long fantasy to have sex with this woman but would not want to risk the friendship with either her or her husband.My friend is not a concern anymore but I'm sure he wouldn't like it. She's still sexy at 60 & I'll still probably be hot for her when she's 70. What do you think,go for it or not ?????
Should I ???????????????
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Svedish_Chef
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Sicko!!!!! and i thought I had fetishes. I would say that you have had your chance and missed it somehow
*Eve*
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I think that although the opportunity may have been there before and it not there any longer. There just seems to be too much water under the bridge for anything between you and this woman and if she and her husband are getting along now, it probably might not be a good thing to jeopardize that relationship you have with them. Sometimes fantasies need to stay just fantasies. It might not be what you want to hear but it's the best thing I could come up with.
Remember the old saying, "be careful what you wish for, you just might get it"
Remember the old saying, "be careful what you wish for, you just might get it"
I'm reading the posts on this one and I'm thinking "Fuck all that!"
If this nasty old wrinkled woman can still get ya hard - and you're on close enough terms with her that you know she has a vibrator - I say fuck the old hag!! Hell yeh. You're not getting any younger either. Doesn't sound like you have much of a life to begin with, so what's a couple fewer friends, am I right? Of course I am. Take care of business while you still can - you may never get a chance like this again.
If this nasty old wrinkled woman can still get ya hard - and you're on close enough terms with her that you know she has a vibrator - I say fuck the old hag!! Hell yeh. You're not getting any younger either. Doesn't sound like you have much of a life to begin with, so what's a couple fewer friends, am I right? Of course I am. Take care of business while you still can - you may never get a chance like this again.
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Wizard, don't shake your head to hard..I can feel it all the way out here on the west side.
Of course, for this post...
For me, I couldn't say it any clearer that Lasher........
Geez, I need to get a life if this is all i'm reading.
Hi there Angelique. Did you feel that earthquake about the time Wizard shook his head? That was a big one.
For me, I couldn't say it any clearer that Lasher........
Geez, I need to get a life if this is all i'm reading.
Hi there Angelique. Did you feel that earthquake about the time Wizard shook his head? That was a big one.
Whoa! Lasher...chill dude! Let the poor guy look before he leaps!
Fastback...consider this. Let's just assume that you get together with this woman and end up in the sack with her. What the hell kinda guilt do think this woman would feel if her husband (who is evidently not the picture of good health at the moment) dies while she's off having sex with you? As you said before, you believe that she's been faithful to her husband regardless of his infidelity and alcohol problems. Imagine her horror if something happened to her husband during the only affair she's ever had while married! Do you think that would increase your chances of having any type of relationship with this woman in the future?
If you've waited this long, a little longer won't hurt ya'. You haven't given specifics on her husbands health, so I can only assume from your comments on his inability to have sex that it's really not good. If you truly care about this woman, and I'm sure you do, my opinion is that you should take a "wait and see" attitude.
Uh oh...now I'm contradicting Merlin, too! I feel a punishment coming on!
Um...MM, what's this about Wizard shaking his head and you feeling the earth move? LMAO
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Fastback...consider this. Let's just assume that you get together with this woman and end up in the sack with her. What the hell kinda guilt do think this woman would feel if her husband (who is evidently not the picture of good health at the moment) dies while she's off having sex with you? As you said before, you believe that she's been faithful to her husband regardless of his infidelity and alcohol problems. Imagine her horror if something happened to her husband during the only affair she's ever had while married! Do you think that would increase your chances of having any type of relationship with this woman in the future?
If you've waited this long, a little longer won't hurt ya'. You haven't given specifics on her husbands health, so I can only assume from your comments on his inability to have sex that it's really not good. If you truly care about this woman, and I'm sure you do, my opinion is that you should take a "wait and see" attitude.
Uh oh...now I'm contradicting Merlin, too! I feel a punishment coming on!
Um...MM, what's this about Wizard shaking his head and you feeling the earth move? LMAO
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I dunno, Angelique. None of them are getting any younger. What if the old bag has a stroke or something before he can take care of his business? He'd be shit outta luck then.
What do you want him to do, what till the old man dies? With all those raging hormones it sounds like dude has, he could end up pulling and OJ if he has to wait much longer.
I say, "C'mon, brother, GET SOME!!"
What do you want him to do, what till the old man dies? With all those raging hormones it sounds like dude has, he could end up pulling and OJ if he has to wait much longer.
I say, "C'mon, brother, GET SOME!!"
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seems like only yesterday I was saying I didn't want to die until I had seen and done everything possible!!!!
Now, I've seen everything!
Now, I've seen everything!
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At the risk of attracting the wrath of Lasher, Fastback, I'm gonna say take whatever he says, not only with a grain of salt, but at the very least a whole damn salt shaker!
Lasher's good to listen to for the flip side of stuff, but we're talkin' some serious shit, here. Let the fantasy be the fantasy it was meant to be. That way you'll still get some good out of it. Make the fantasy reality, and maybe you're not going to like the person you've become. Way too philosophical for this time of my night, but what the hell...
Cheers!
Fox
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Lasher's good to listen to for the flip side of stuff, but we're talkin' some serious shit, here. Let the fantasy be the fantasy it was meant to be. That way you'll still get some good out of it. Make the fantasy reality, and maybe you're not going to like the person you've become. Way too philosophical for this time of my night, but what the hell...
Cheers!
Fox
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Laurel
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This sucks! I'm gonna be an old woman someday, and Manu may keel over before me or leave me or something... I may get the hots for a young'un... I'll tell you, if this happens and I find out y'all are talking the young stud out of giving it to me, I'm gonna be pretty pissed!
JIMINY CRICKETS!! Don't listen to these gas bags, Fastback. Why should you deny yourself the one pleasure of your miserable little life just because there's some old geezer hanging on to life support??!!!! I mean Christ-on-a-Motorcycle, who says you have to like yourself to have a good time?? We're talking about good clean fucking here, dammit. Take care of business before it's too late!!
Flipside?? I speak only the GOD's Honest Truth here.... "You want the truth?....YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!!!"
Hehehehehe....
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Flipside?? I speak only the GOD's Honest Truth here.... "You want the truth?....YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!!!"
Hehehehehe....
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Hells bells,decisions decisions. What I do know is this; had I been born 20 years earlier I'd have been a rival for this woman. She's everything I could ever want in a life long mate. Smart,funny,nice,pretty,sexy,just 20 years too old & already married. Lord knows I've been turned down by enough women that 1 more rejection wouldn't bother me, that's part of the game. But I would surely miss the friendship I have with both so I guess I'll continue to keep this fantasy in my head. Funny thing is,when I was a kid of 14 & I just started to think of her sexually I never dreamed that I could think of her the same way when she was 60.As she aged,so did I.And that's not a bad thing.In one way it's the longest lasting relationship I've ever been in. Thanks to all who responded-even the funny guys.
Lethal_beauty_27
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I would just like to know if you ever go for it. I have had a crush on my friends dad for 20 years. and my dreams of him are very erotic. Remember you only live once and would you want to go through life wondering what if, or for once just throw caution to the wind and go for it. Just one question.... would you lose you friends friendship if you do it....and would that be worth it.let me know if you do and i just might follow your lead.
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fastback--
Talk to her....is she getting any from hubbie?? Does hubbie feel guilty for not being able to satisfy her needs & desires?
YOU may be the solution to a problem that they are looking for....someone they trust, someone they know -- to shag his wife for him since he can't. Hell, maybe he will want to watch? Ya never know.
GO FOR IT!!!
Talk to her....is she getting any from hubbie?? Does hubbie feel guilty for not being able to satisfy her needs & desires?
YOU may be the solution to a problem that they are looking for....someone they trust, someone they know -- to shag his wife for him since he can't. Hell, maybe he will want to watch? Ya never know.
GO FOR IT!!!
Damn, one minute I'm ready to go for it, the next minute I think it's best left alone. I can't be near this woman without mentally undressing her in my mind, thinking about all the things I'd like to do with her & to her. I've stayed away from her this last week & I think that fuels my desire even more. Will I - Won't I ????? Stay tuned.
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Fastback:
Your ardent longing for your friend's mom reminds me of a character in John Irving's "A Widow For One Year". Poor Eddie spent his entire life in love with only one woman, Marion... even though she is 23 years his senior.
I have had the reverse happen in my life... I spent over a year and a half obsessing over a friend of my son's. The relationship ended tragicly last month (see my thread "Rape, drugs, and the end of a Marriage") when I tried to end it once and for all. I'm not saying anything like this would happen in your circumstance, but I have to repeat what *eve* said: Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it.
Okay, with all that said, I am going to tell you what my opinion is: Go for it! I mean, you have felt this way for damn near 30 years, man! I'm with Lasher, MM, and Laurel on this one. Read "A Widow For One Year", then send a copy of the book to her, with a little note saying how you identify with Eddie in the way he feels about Marion. Let her know that you are there for her, should she want something more than what her ailing husband can give her. And be sure to tell her what you have told us, that you think she is still as attractive to you as she was when you first met her at 14. If that doesn't do it, nothing will!
Best of Luck, Fastback - and be sure to let us know how it's going!
Still loving the little hotties after all the pain inflicted by one bad apple,
EOD
Your ardent longing for your friend's mom reminds me of a character in John Irving's "A Widow For One Year". Poor Eddie spent his entire life in love with only one woman, Marion... even though she is 23 years his senior.
I have had the reverse happen in my life... I spent over a year and a half obsessing over a friend of my son's. The relationship ended tragicly last month (see my thread "Rape, drugs, and the end of a Marriage") when I tried to end it once and for all. I'm not saying anything like this would happen in your circumstance, but I have to repeat what *eve* said: Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it.
Okay, with all that said, I am going to tell you what my opinion is: Go for it! I mean, you have felt this way for damn near 30 years, man! I'm with Lasher, MM, and Laurel on this one. Read "A Widow For One Year", then send a copy of the book to her, with a little note saying how you identify with Eddie in the way he feels about Marion. Let her know that you are there for her, should she want something more than what her ailing husband can give her. And be sure to tell her what you have told us, that you think she is still as attractive to you as she was when you first met her at 14. If that doesn't do it, nothing will!
Best of Luck, Fastback - and be sure to let us know how it's going!
Still loving the little hotties after all the pain inflicted by one bad apple,
EOD
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When do women become unattractive?
There is a tone here that bashes a man for finding a 60-year-old woman desirable. Why can't that be acceptable? Are only older men attractive? Sean Conary, Robert Redford, Clint Eastwood are considered older but not disgustingly old are they? I was wondering if this is a double standard?
There is a tone here that bashes a man for finding a 60-year-old woman desirable. Why can't that be acceptable? Are only older men attractive? Sean Conary, Robert Redford, Clint Eastwood are considered older but not disgustingly old are they? I was wondering if this is a double standard?
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I know a lot of women who are both elderly and beautiful. I also know a lot of not so elderly women women who don't take care of their appearance and are less than beautiful.
Women become unattractive when they 'give up' being beautiful because 'old ladies aren't sexy'.
I don't think it's a double standard, because there would be the same sort of tone if the sexes were reversed. There is a common perception in our youth-oriented culture that old = not sexy. Luckily as the baby-boomers age, the perception of what constitutes 'old' is changing as well.
