Should I Subscribe?

[TheeGoatPig]

I haven't been in a relationship for over a decade now. Heck, in five months it will be a decade since my last date. It's been five years since the last time I saw bare nipples, and they were just some girl showing her piercings to whoever was around. Nothing sexual at all.

The point of this mindless rambling that we've all seen from me before?

I just got an email from one of those dating sites saying that someone sent me an email. The only trouble is that I have to subscribe to their service, paying $19.99 for six months, to see the email that they said someone sent.

My question? Should I spend the money to see an email from someone that I don't know who it is, on a site that hasn't really wowed me? Or instead, should I go on moping and complaining about how lonely and depressed I am?

Unlike last time, this time I do want advice

 

[vampiredust]

Use another site. If it hasn't wowed you, then go to another one. Sounds like a marketing ploy.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

I would research some sites first, then go with one that is reputable.

and when you find it..........go for it!!

 

[English Lady]

I agree with the advice given -find a good, reputable site you like and go with that -this sounds like a scam marketing thing.

 

[drksideofthemoon]

I haven't been in a relationship for over a decade now. Heck, in five months it will be a decade since my last date. It's been five years since the last time I saw bare nipples, and they were just some girl showing her piercings to whoever was around. Nothing sexual at all.

The point of this mindless rambling that we've all seen from me before?

I just got an email from one of those dating sites saying that someone sent me an email. The only trouble is that I have to subscribe to their service, paying $19.99 for six months, to see the email that they said someone sent.

My question? Should I spend the money to see an email from someone that I don't know who it is, on a site that hasn't really wowed me? Or instead, should I go on moping and complaining about how lonely and depressed I am?

Unlike last time, this time I do want advice

This one sounds like a bit of a scam...

Why don't you try a reputable online dating service though? I don't know you, but from what I've seen of you on here, you seem like a decent guy...

 

[3113]

Have you been using our dating site?

Literotica Personals

It's free

By all means, make use of such services. But it seems strange to me that you should pay for it when the great and powerful world-wide-web is filled with sites where you can get the same (interested ladies looking for friendship and love) for free.

What, after all, is this particular site going to be giving you for your $20 that you can't get here or on MySpace for that matter?

 

[TheeGoatPig]

It is one of the big name sites. I just didn't feel like mentioning the name. I'm a member on a few of them.

The problems I have with them is that they all suggest people too far away to actually date. Either they are from New York City (another country as far as I'm concerned) or Connecticuit, or Pennsylvania or Long Island (which can be father away than Connecticuit).

 

[3113]

The problems I have with them is that they all suggest people too far away to actually date. Either they are from New York City (another country as far as I'm concerned) or Connecticuit, or Pennsylvania or Long Island (which can be father away than Connecticuit).

Sooo. Will this site give you people in your neighborhood for that $20? Because if they're going to suggest the same, why bother?

 

[drksideofthemoon]

Sooo. Will this site give you people in your neighborhood for that $20? Because if they're going to suggest the same, why bother?

Actually, it's 120.00, they want 19.99 for six months...just to see an email....

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Sooo. Will this site give you people in your neighborhood for that $20? Because if they're going to suggest the same, why bother?

Exactly.

 

[3113]

Actually, it's 120.00, they want 19.99 for six months...just to see an email....

ptttt!

 

[TheeGoatPig]

Sooo. Will this site give you people in your neighborhood for that $20? Because if they're going to suggest the same, why bother?

I said most, not all.

But I see your point.

Then again, this is somoene contacting me, so who knows?

 

[Vermilion]

Stick with the free ones darling.

OKcupid.com
face party.com

to name two that I've used and met people through (only friends I admit, but I could have found sex if I'd wanted it)

And there must be other personals sites which are free. Don't pay for it, you won't get any more for your money.
xxx
V

 

[TheeGoatPig]

Stick with the free ones darling.

OKcupid.com
*********.com

to name two that I've used and met people through (only friends I admit, but I could have found sex if I'd wanted it)

And there must be other personals sites which are free. Don't pay for it, you won't get any more for your money.
xxx
V

Ok, I'll try OKcupid.

And just for the record, I'm not only interested in sex. I'm trying to start with a first date and work my way up the ladder, like I used to think was normal...

 

[Vermilion]

Ok, I'll try OKcupid.

And just for the record, I'm not only interested in sex. I'm trying to start with a first date and work my way up the ladder, like I used to think was normal...

s'ok. I thought you were probably looking for dates rather than no-strings sex, but I was just saying that you can find whatever you want pretty much...

x
V

 

[rgraham666]

Current profile on the dating site I signed up for.

I'm taking myself off the market for the New Year. This hasn't been wildly successful, or successful even a little.

I'll be around for the forums. Interesting stuff there on occasion. And it gives me good ideas for stories sometimes.

 

[tolyk]

I know lots of people who've met due to myspace. Finding people with similar interests there is often easy enough, and can sort by area too if I'm not completely mistaken.. I don't personally use it, just know a lot of people who do.

ETA: Oh, just stated this because it's also free, isn't it?

 

[mjl2010]

I haven't been in a relationship for over a decade now. Heck, in five months it will be a decade since my last date. It's been five years since the last time I saw bare nipples, and they were just some girl showing her piercings to whoever was around. Nothing sexual at all.

The point of this mindless rambling that we've all seen from me before?

I just got an email from one of those dating sites saying that someone sent me an email. The only trouble is that I have to subscribe to their service, paying $19.99 for six months, to see the email that they said someone sent.

My question? Should I spend the money to see an email from someone that I don't know who it is, on a site that hasn't really wowed me? Or instead, should I go on moping and complaining about how lonely and depressed I am?

Unlike last time, this time I do want advice

It would seem to me, and I've never used a site like that, is how this supposed person would know to send you an email? If you're not a member and don't have an ad posted there then how the heck would they even know you existed. I guess it sounds like a scam to me without me being more knowledgable.

 

[Boxlicker101]

I haven't been in a relationship for over a decade now. Heck, in five months it will be a decade since my last date. It's been five years since the last time I saw bare nipples, and they were just some girl showing her piercings to whoever was around. Nothing sexual at all.

The point of this mindless rambling that we've all seen from me before?

I just got an email from one of those dating sites saying that someone sent me an email. The only trouble is that I have to subscribe to their service, paying $19.99 for six months, to see the email that they said someone sent.

My question? Should I spend the money to see an email from someone that I don't know who it is, on a site that hasn't really wowed me? Or instead, should I go on moping and complaining about how lonely and depressed I am?

Unlike last time, this time I do want advice

I agree with most of the others who have expressed belief that it's a scam. Most likely that email is a phony, from somebody, maybe a woman, maybe not, wanting you to sign up for some kind of pay site.

Edited to add:
At the same time, you never know. It could be your soulmate and she is saying "Please take me. I'm yours."

 

[Harry Leg]

Actually, it's 120.00, they want 19.99 for six months...just to see an email....

Must be a wonderful e-mail.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

It would seem to me, and I've never used a site like that, is how this supposed person would know to send you an email? If you're not a member and don't have an ad posted there then how the heck would they even know you existed. I guess it sounds like a scam to me without me being more knowledgable.

They let you post for free, and then charge when you want to contact someone.

Ah hell, enough pussy footing around it. It's Match.com. I hate them more every year that I have a profile there.

 

[SimonBrooke]

I haven't been in a relationship for over a decade now. Heck, in five months it will be a decade since my last date. It's been five years since the last time I saw bare nipples, and they were just some girl showing her piercings to whoever was around. Nothing sexual at all.

The point of this mindless rambling that we've all seen from me before?

I just got an email from one of those dating sites saying that someone sent me an email. The only trouble is that I have to subscribe to their service, paying $19.99 for six months, to see the email that they said someone sent.

My question? Should I spend the money to see an email from someone that I don't know who it is, on a site that hasn't really wowed me? Or instead, should I go on moping and complaining about how lonely and depressed I am?

Unlike last time, this time I do want advice

Frankly, I wouldn't go to dating sites. You're interacting in a very friendly way with a lot of women here; your persona in these forums seems both positive and interesting. You have an established community in which you have an established place (and seem to be liked). What I would do if I were in your shoes is throw witty, teasing and flirtatious PMs around the women (or posters you suspect are women (or soi-disant women)) whom you like and admire here. Cast your bread upon the waters and see what comes back.

Obviously the problems with any form of internet dating are

(i) You don't get to smell one another's pheromones until you're already pretty committed. Someone who really turns you on online might not appeal in the flesh; and

(ii) The chances are that any relationship you form will initially be at long distance, and LDRs notoriously have problems.

But on the other hand, people who interact here are on the whole more intelligent, and are either less inhibited or else at least more interested in addressing their inhibitions, than the mass of the online population. If you're going to choose a pool to fish in, this is a good pool.

And - the very best of luck. Relationships are complex, painful and difficult things, but even so it really is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

And sex is nice too.

 

[Vermilion]

Frankly, I wouldn't go to dating sites. You're interacting in a very friendly way with a lot of women here; your persona in these forums seems both positive and interesting. You have an established community in which you have an established place (and seem to be liked). What I would do if I were in your shoes is throw witty, teasing and flirtatious PMs around the women (or posters you suspect are women (or soi-disant women)) whom you like and admire here. Cast your bread upon the waters and see what comes back.

Obviously the problems with any form of internet dating are

(i) You don't get to smell one another's pheromones until you're already pretty committed. Someone who really turns you on online might not appeal in the flesh; and

(ii) The chances are that any relationship you form will initially be at long distance, and LDRs notoriously have problems.

But on the other hand, people who interact here are on the whole more intelligent, and are either less inhibited or else at least more interested in addressing their inhibitions, than the mass of the online population. If you're going to choose a pool to fish in, this is a good pool.

And - the very best of luck. Relationships are complex, painful and difficult things, but even so it really is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

And sex is nice too.

Everything he said...
I met my fiance online
We started off as just friends (his photo made him look pretty fugly, I know - I'm shllow) then we met up and I was bowled over by how gorgeous he was and, well, two years later he proposed
x
V

 

[SimonBrooke]

Everything he said...
I met my fiance online
We started off as just friends (his photo made him look pretty fugly, I know - I'm shllow) then we met up and I was bowled over by how gorgeous he was and, well, two years later he proposed
x
V

To extend that...

I first became aware of my current partner when she posted something I thought foolish to a newsgroup I subscribed to, and I issued one of my usual crushing intellectual snob put-downs. She emailed me to say she didn't think much of me, and six weeks later we met at Carlisle railway station. We've been together ten years this April...

It's not an accident that my story Train is set on a journey to Carlisle!

 

[TheeGoatPig]

Frankly, I wouldn't go to dating sites. You're interacting in a very friendly way with a lot of women here; your persona in these forums seems both positive and interesting. You have an established community in which you have an established place (and seem to be liked). What I would do if I were in your shoes is throw witty, teasing and flirtatious PMs around the women (or posters you suspect are women (or soi-disant women)) whom you like and admire here. Cast your bread upon the waters and see what comes back.

Obviously the problems with any form of internet dating are

(i) You don't get to smell one another's pheromones until you're already pretty committed. Someone who really turns you on online might not appeal in the flesh; and

(ii) The chances are that any relationship you form will initially be at long distance, and LDRs notoriously have problems.

But on the other hand, people who interact here are on the whole more intelligent, and are either less inhibited or else at least more interested in addressing their inhibitions, than the mass of the online population. If you're going to choose a pool to fish in, this is a good pool.

And - the very best of luck. Relationships are complex, painful and difficult things, but even so it really is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

And sex is nice too.

That's all well and good for some, but I need the touch, taste, feel and all of that from a real woman at my side. I need someone who can get me out of the house and away from the computer. I need someone to talk to, hold onto, nuzzle and cuddle with.

I have been on the internet for years, and it is a great place with wonderful people, but I need my real life with real friends in real places back more. That's just the kind of guy I want to be right now.