Should I fuck my best friend??

[Guest]

I've known this friend for years and we've always had plenty of sexual jokes between us and i've even been naked around him. we've been naked in bed together but i could never bring myself to fuck him?

anyone have any opinions or thoughts? i want to fuck him but i'm afraid that it will ruin our friendship. is this possible???

 

[tbcfnm]

fuck your friend?

I say no. It's tempting, but I have had some great sex - once and only once - with friends and we never were the same as friends after.

Tom

 

[MasterSnatch]

I agree.

Some people are able to fuck around with friends but once you do it tends to change a lot, feelings get in the way, many feel akward around each other and should either of you end up with someone else the other person can and likely will get very jealous which is problematic needless to say.

 

[MrFantasyMan]

I've known this friend for years and we've always had plenty of sexual jokes between us and i've even been naked around him. we've been naked in bed together but i could never bring myself to fuck him?

anyone have any opinions or thoughts? i want to fuck him but i'm afraid that it will ruin our friendship. is this possible???

If you want to fuck him and he wants to fuck you I don't see how it is going to ruin a friendship? However your fear should be listened too...perhaps there is more than you divulge?

 

[CuriousJack]

I didn't date a friend of mine out of fear that it would ruin my (very) close friendship with this person.

I've known a few mates who have screwed close friends, and i've heard nothing but bad things about it.

 

[keiffers]

it's just that reason that I could never get serious beyond friends with those I already have....I have a friend that initially we had thrown around innuendos, etc, but the subject of dating started coming around and I could never bring myself to go past friends, as I am always afraid of how taking it further would ruin what a great friendship there already is between us.

 

[tbcfnm]

sex with friends

Another thing for me is that my friends think of me as a very shy reserved guy. After I have freaky monkey sex with them, including things they never imagined I was into, they can't look at me the same way.

Tom

 

[keiffers]

as well, even if I did stay friends with them after a small affair, I'd probably be jealous of them with another guy....only cause I know it didn't work out with me

 

[sxylilslut]

Another thing for me is that my friends think of me as a very shy reserved guy. After I have freaky monkey sex with them, including things they never imagined I was into, they can't look at me the same way.

Tom

Hmm one wonders what freaky things you're into.
And no, not a good idea to fuck your friend if you want to keep him as a friend. There are probably exceptions though and maybe your friendship will not change but I wouldn't risk it.

 

[tbcfnm]

fucking friends

....are you asking what freaky things I'm into?

 

[Guest]

thanks for the advice

 

[shephusky]

I fucked her, then I married her!

 

[trixxi]

Delta --

You have to understand the risks. My bestfriend & I fucked. We ended up having a great long term relationship but it ended badly. I really miss my best friend (I don't miss my relationship). My cousin & his best friend fucked, married, then really taught the rest of us how to fuck someone over. Theirs was one of the most hideously ugly divorces ever. You do not want to go there.

If you can seriously lie naked in bed with this person & have nothing happen, why do you even want something to happen? (this is a rhetorical Q, not one I'm expecting you to actually answer). It sounds -- from that limited peice of info -- that it's not meant to be & you may be forcing it b/c you think you are supposed to. Just let it be.

 

[Guest]

thanks so much for all the different views and advice. some of you have said some info is missing so please feel free to question me in order to better answer the question.

 

[southerntierguy]

thanks so much for all the different views and advice. some of you have said some info is missing so please feel free to question me in order to better answer the question.

Well, I personally feel the missing information is around where you want the relationship to go.

If what you really want with this guy is for him to remain your best friend, a confidant, but don't really see him as ultimately being more than that, I think you're going to put that relationship at risk.

If you think of this guy as someone who is potentially MORE than that, potentially your life partner, being your best friend and at an even more intimate level, well, it always takes some risk to get to that level.

Where exactly do you WANT this relationship to go, and have you discussed it with him?

 

[Guest]

Well, I personally feel the missing information is around where you want the relationship to go.

If what you really want with this guy is for him to remain your best friend, a confidant, but don't really see him as ultimately being more than that, I think you're going to put that relationship at risk.

If you think of this guy as someone who is potentially MORE than that, potentially your life partner, being your best friend and at an even more intimate level, well, it always takes some risk to get to that level.

Where exactly do you WANT this relationship to go, and have you discussed it with him?

yes....i just want to friends....i don't want to be in any kind of relationship right now and yes we have discussed this and he said that nothing would change but.....i know that things would be different. mainly because in the past when i've had sex with friends it always ruined things.

 

[Spenser41]

yes....i just want to friends....i don't want to be in any kind of relationship right now and yes we have discussed this and he said that nothing would change but.....i know that things would be different. mainly because in the past when i've had sex with friends it always ruined things.

I think you just answered your own questions. Best thing is to follow your heart. Even tho the desire is there, what is that you want in the long run? If you vaule the friendship, don't cheapen it with just sex. If you feel you are growing closer and want to go in a more serious relationship, then that is another story. But from what you just said, it would be friends and nothing more, then you know what will happen. Keep the friend... forget the sex.

 

[Mari J]

i want to fuck him but i'm afraid that it will ruin our friendship.

Aw, go ahead. Take some risks. If the sex doesn't work out, then the two of you will go back to your non-sexual friendship. The tension about sex will be over.

Oh, and the thing about not being in a relationship? You're already in one with him. You've talked about sex, you're resisting it--this is a sexual relationship whether you actually consumate it or not. Get it over with.





Edit: Woo hoo! My name tag just changed from Virgin to Experienced!

So hey--listen to the voice of experience.

 

[Guest]

thanks for all the advice and views.......i think what it comes down to is what do i feel comfortable with and.....i'll think i'd rather us just be friends. besides, true best friends are hard to find and....i like the idea we're friends


thankies everyone!!!

 

[Sniper 1]

DO NOT FUCK HIM!

Many years ago I had a female friend that I was as close with as anyone in my life. One night, fueled by alcohol, we crossed the line and screwed each other every which way we could. Oral, anal, vaginal, mutual masturbation, etc. We did it all and it totally ruined our friendship.

I'd give anything to have that night back. I'd get up and leave instead of having the wildest night of sex in my life.

You can fuck anyone. True friends are very hard to come by.

 

[Mari J]

All right, well, I guess it's time to ask, since more than one person has mentioned it now.

Why is there this leap from having sex to ruining the friendship? What happens?

 

[Guest]

All right, well, I guess it's time to ask, since more than one person has mentioned it now.

Why is there this leap from having sex to ruining the friendship? What happens?

i don't want to have sex with him.....he wants to have sex with me. i was very close to giving him what he wanted but after all the replies on this thread.....i've changed my mind.


you can let this thread die now......my question has been answered

 

[shephusky]

What happened?

What did you tell him...are you still friends?