Should I feel bad?

[Wildcard Ky]

If you can smile when you look that guy in the mirror in the eye every morning, you will be just fine.

That's what I'm after, and what's missing right now. I look at the guy in the mirror and know that it's wrong that he should feel that way when learning that someone has died.

 

[cantdog]

I think this event is the springboard for you. You will have a period of integration, starting now, of the new personality. You're passing through a rung on your ladder, my friend. Watch for real changes in your attitude toward the rest of the human race. This is good, altogether.

Seriously. There has been much wisdom in the responses you got on this thread. I bet you see that. Embrace it.

 

[popcorn2721]

I'm having a bit of self questioning:
My oldest daughter called today and said that he had died. My first and only thought was "fuck him. The worlds better off." I believe that you reap what you sow, and he's sown a lot of wrong things.

This is so unlike me. I'm usually not this way towards anyone, especially when death is concerned. Am I wrong/bad for feeling like this?

Dance on the mother fuckers grave...and dont fucken feel a bit bad about doing it

Honestly, I wouldnt feel bad if I were in your position, fuck him, hes gone and over with.


I know everyone else is giving much better advise than I am... this is jus my two bits.

 

[Wildcard Ky]

Thank you everyone for your wonderful words of advice.

It took me a few days, but I came to terms with all of this. It's not easy when you think you're a good person, then are suddenly slapped with the reality of not being the type of person that you thought you were.

I don't know if there's life after death; but in case there is, I got my thoughts in order and had a long conversation with him. I have reached a level of forgiveness that I'm comfortable with, and I wished him well on whatever journeys might lie ahead.

I think I'm at peace again. Lesson learned, (hopefully) attitude and demeanor changed, and ready to move on again.

Once again, I can't thank all of you enough for your words and wisdom. To some this may seem a trivial thing, but it was very important to me.

 

[Ǽltya]

 

[Wildcard Ky]

Turn your Yahoo on so I can whisper sweet nothings into your ear.

 

[Emerald_Dragon]

I'm having a bit of self questioning:

I'm divorced. The divorce happened because of the old "Wife and best friend" story. They got married 4 hours after our divorce went final, and they were divorced about a year later.

He (they) cost me everything. He was a lawyer, so she got all of the help she needed to ensure that she got the kids, and could take them anywhere she wanted. I've despised them both ever since. He has a long history of ruining lives, but I won't go into all of that.

My oldest daughter called today and said that he had died. My first and only thought was "fuck him. The worlds better off." I believe that you reap what you sow, and he's sown a lot of wrong things.

This is so unlike me. I'm usually not this way towards anyone, especially when death is concerned. Am I wrong/bad for feeling like this?

Nope. Just make sure that you make peace with yourself about it or he will waste even more of your precious time.