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[plusizemama]

I feel like I do not satisfy my hubby I mean he never complains but I just feel like I need to do something to shock him and take him off guard I am pretty shy so I was just wondering if people would maybe throw some ideas my way.

 

[Bobmi357]

There is a difference between shocking someone and trying to do something different to please them. So lets just assume you really mean you want to please him more and proceed from there.

Since you don't go into a lot of detail, except to mention your shyness, lets start with that for a moment.

Have you thought about getting home earlier than him one night, order take out, and be ready for him when he gets home wearing something filmy and revealing?

Have you ever thought about just joining him when he's bathing and offering to wash him?

How about being a little more aggressive in the bedroom? Instead of letting him control all the action, some night you take charge?

Its hard to offer advice with so little information to go, but we're really talking about reducing your shyness with your own husband. Sometimes all it really takes is for you to hug him after sex and whisper in his ear "thank you". This is especially important if you're not very vocal when you orgasm.

I'd offer up more ideas, but with so little to go on, I'm kinda stuck.

 

[plusizemama]

shocked

Thank you for your reply but I am not so sure I feel comfortable doing those things see I have a self esteem problem and even though he tell me that I am pretty I just don't feel it

 

[Bobmi357]

Re: shocked

Thank you for your reply but I am not so sure I feel comfortable doing those things see I have a self esteem problem and even though he tell me that I am pretty I just don't feel it

SIGH! ANOTHER ONE!!!!

Plussizemama, please read my reply to SexyChele in this post..... then think long and hard about it.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=198820

 

[Krinaia]

Re: shocked

Thank you for your reply but I am not so sure I feel comfortable doing those things see I have a self esteem problem and even though he tell me that I am pretty I just don't feel it

You're only as sexy as you allow yourself to feel. If the guy married you he obviously loves you and thinks you're sexy. You've already got a leg up. He's not going to reject you just because you wore something seductive for him. Geez! He'll probably be unable to keep his hands off you. Make the effort... you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

I like the idea of joining him in the shower ... i think there is few things as sexy as two soapy bodies rubbing against each other. Let him worship you ... i guarentee that it will help you on your way to feeling sexier ... you DESERVE to feel sexy.

 

[Krinaia]

Oh... another sexy idea ... wake him up with your warm mouth on the naughtier parts of his anatomy.

 

[Etoile]

Sometimes it amuses me when people are euphemistic like that. See, I'd have just said "wake him up by sucking his dick" - but that's me.

 

[huskie]

Could be his diet as well?? or he's tired from work alot??

I'd try (if he drinks it??) changing his tea to Ginsyng tea That'll get his jucies flowing

 

[Krinaia]

Sometimes it amuses me when people are euphemistic like that. See, I'd have just said "wake him up by sucking his dick" - but that's me.

I take a certain amount of enjoyment out of being euphemistic -I like to think it appears demure That and saying it straight out would make me blush

 

[kerton522]

Maybe its not the quality but the quantity.......

 

[lilpriss]

Self esteem problems not only affect you but him as well.

and it will continue to affect your relationship until you, yes, you decide to change it.

To help your self esteem, what you need... is to realize that you are worth it. You deserve to be happy and feel like you are important enough, attractive enough and smart enough to be entitiled to happiness and pleasure.

I know, this is going to sound cheezy but it works...

Make a list of all the things you like about your self...
now cut the list into strips and put them in a jar... everyday pull one out and take it in the bathroom and read it in front of the mirror and then give yourself a smile. When the jar is empty make another list and do the same thing. Your husband would probably be happy to put all his favorite things about you on paper and that would make you feel even better.

Once you start to feel better about yourself you'll be amazed at how much less inhibited you are in bed.

I used to weigh almost 300 pounds... and I felt very self conscious about my body... I have lost almost 100 pounds, down to a size 14... and still working on things... and I am amazed at how the simple act of realizing that I am worth the effort and time and money it's cost to accomplish this goal IMMEDIATELY made me less inhibited. I'm actually thinking about putting on a strip tease for my boyfriend around Thanksgiving or Christmas time... something I would have never thought I could do...

 

[StoneTheCrow]

I feel like I do not satisfy my hubby I mean he never complains but I just feel like I need to do something to shock him and take him off guard I am pretty shy so I was just wondering if people would maybe throw some ideas my way.

Try coating yourself with chunky peanut butter and wearing a rubber glove over your head. That should shock the fuck out of him.

 

[HotAzLady69]

A new twist for us

My man is out of town working and won't be back for sometime, but I will be going out to see him.

I too am shy in area's and my body is one of them, but I am in the process of getting things together so when he comes home to stay that when he walks in the room I'll have candles lit the lights off, soft music on a bottle of wine and me sitting on the bed (in a nice little pose of course) in nothing but bow (you know the ones big enough to wrap around a person maybe twice) on me and a banner above me saying welcome home to him.

Just come up with something that you think you can do that's TOTTALLY different for the two of you and go with it.
Yeah you'll be nervous cuz it's different but hey think of the benifits of it. Soon that nervousness will be sensual erotic energy.

 

[HotAzLady69]

Have you thought about getting home earlier than him one night, order take out, and be ready for him when he gets home wearing something filmy and revealing?

Ohh the possiblilties are endless with this one.
You can make it sexy, seductive, slutty, what ever just floats your boat, romantic even.

 

[StoneTheCrow]

Try creeping up on him with a big strap-on dildo and say " your soul better belong to jesus, cuz your ass belongs to me"

 

[Krinaia]

Try creeping up on him with a big strap-on dildo and say " your soul better belong to jesus, cuz your ass belongs to me"

....unless he has a heart condition.... geez where do you come up with these Stone?

and the peanut butter? hmm..... only if she brings along a glass of milk

 

[lovechild27]

Try creeping up on him with a big strap-on dildo and say " your soul better belong to jesus, cuz your ass belongs to me"

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

for some reason I found that so freakin funny today...lol

 

[Rawmaster50]

Most of the advice here is fairly good, well the one about the peanut butter and the other about the strap-on might qualify as excessive.

I am always surprised when my wife gets more assertive about initiating sex and the results are almost always good.

I think you need to consider what you don't do normally to see if it does the trick. You might also think about the things that he might have hinted at in the past...I can't really tell you much more.

Good luck

 

[StoneTheCrow]

Actually I was joking about those two. Yeah I am fairly shocked myself when my GF initiates sex. Whoa wait..... That would be a fucking heart attack,. She never initiates sex. The stubborn fucker! But yes, initiating sex and somehow, introduce some mild bondage and a blindfold into the mix. Maybe some honey on his chest or a featherduster, both while he's cuffed or tied would be wonderful.

 

[sensual101]

Slave Days

.....

 

[Bobmi357]

Re: Slave Days

I wouldn't mind trying this myself, but I doubt the wife would go along with it.

 

[Bobmi357]

A general comment to the ladies....

Ladies....

You're overweight. You think that your boobs sag, or your butt is too big. You don't think your sexy, you don't handle compliments well at all.


FINE!


Well here's some news for you ladies. If we guys didn't think you were sexy, if we didn't want you, if we didn't like to be around you, WE WOULDN'T HAVE MARRIED YOU!

So buy a vowel, and get a clue. You are sexy, you may be shy, but your guy would rather see you trying something new than always sticking to the same old routine. Hell, the new thing might not work, but at least you tried and are willing to try.

SHY? WHY? He's your husband/BF for christs sake! He's seen you naked, he's seen you at your worst, crampy and bitchy. I can promise you, if you surprise him with anything sexual (as long as it isn't too outrageous), he's likely to jump in with a silly shit eating grin on his face.

Girls, no matter how you feel about yourself, most of you have a guy that thinks your the best. Go with the flow ladies.

 

[serebreal]

Re: Re: shock

Try coating yourself with chunky peanut butter and wearing a rubber glove over your head. That should shock the fuck out of him.

That cracked me up; fscking hilarious.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Dear Mama: I think there's lots of good advice here. If you're shy about it (and c'mon - everyone gets a little shy at some things) try a subtle approach. Maybe just a little note in his lunch box (if he 'packs') Saying something like "I just can't wait til you get home tonite baby" That can be enough to light a spark. Follow up with candles etc. If filmy bedroom wear makes you uncomfortable try this - just a very long t shirt with no panties (or tiny panties) My lover's favorite costume! Do you leave him voice mail messages or email during the day? Its a great way to drop some sexy little 'hints' without being too obvious. I totally agree with Bobmi - anything you do out of the ordinary will be appreciated. I think guys get tires of always having to be the one to start something or try something. Can't hurt to try?