Shay...

[catalina_francisco]

[/An Aside - the other hijack]

My skin may be green and yes I have foppish ears and lots of warts, but I promise you I am not a troll. I am what is formally called a "goober".
I also have a hard enough time keeping track of my real self, and so an Alt would not be a good idea for me. I really do have a very short attention span.

I didn't see your welcome thread until after I had been here a month or so, and I felt kind of silly posting on it at that point; but then again, I'm usually pretty silly...

I tend to flit back and forth between here and the AH.

- So a thousand apologies, and one great big "HELLO!!!"



-R

http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1286/1362913766_ad638113c9_t.jpg Welcome to the jungle...sorry it is such a mish mash of emotions at the moment, but such is the climate of online forums so I am told...they need an airing every now and then. LOL, I only post on this one regularly so I take their word for it....seems too much to keep up with to get to know more than one well, at least for me.


http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1440/1362531932_b691a0e2f2_t.jpg Catalina

 

[reignophelia]

http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1286/1362913766_ad638113c9_t.jpg Welcome to the jungle...sorry it is such a mish mash of emotions at the moment, but such is the climate of online forums so I am told...they need an airing every now and then. LOL, I only post on this one regularly so I take their word for it....seems too much to keep up with to get to know more than one well, at least for me.


http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1440/1362531932_b691a0e2f2_t.jpg Catalina

Thank you. Yes, it is difficult keeping up, especially since this forum has been hopping with activity these past few days. I'm normally drawn a bit more to this one than the other for whatever reason.

Well, in the spirit of things I have been going through my closets and doing some much needed cleaning - literally and figuratively.

I really enjoy your photos by the way. I was looking at your thread. You're very talented. You take some of the most beautiful and captivating photographs.

Well,
Thanks again!

-R

 

[catalina_francisco]

Thank you. Yes, it is difficult keeping up, especially since this forum has been hopping with activity these past few days. I'm normally drawn a bit more to this one than the other for whatever reason.

Well, in the spirit of things I have been going through my closets and doing some much needed cleaning - literally and figuratively.

I really enjoy your photos by the way. I was looking at your thread. You're very talented. You take some of the most beautiful and captivating photographs.

Well,
Thanks again!

-R

Thanks. I have skipped around a few forums and posted a couple of things here and there, but on the whole I don't find the other places as comfy as this one. Of course, given I have posted little elsewhere, I have not made friends on other forums either, but as it took a good year of us both posting regularly here before we actually felt we got to know a couple of people beyond posting personality, it is not surprising. I am pleased you are enjoying it here even though we are on our worst behaviour.

I think what some expect is for people who post to be superhuman and behave above and beyond exemplary...that is unrealistic and to me encouraging anal retentiveness. As in RL, we all have our off days, we all from time to time take something said by someone the wrong way, we all at times type before re-reading or engaging the brain cells, and we none of us are perfect though we would love to be at times. I stuff up and for that I am sorry, but it isn't the stuff of getting knickers in a knot as some would think it should be (sorry Shank, I won't twist your pretty knickers ). I cannot be one of those who post to say they are above getting involved and so won't (though isn't posting such a thing getting involved while trying to tell people you don't care and aren't involved because you consider yourself above it and better than the rest of us?)...I'm far too emotional and passionate, like to be real, and have moved past the age when I thought it important to present one face while secretly doing/saying the opposite all in the interests of being liked and convincing everyone I don't have an opinion...I do have an opinion, and I will own it proudly or not!!...lol, not anybody likes everybody, nor is anyone liked by everybody.

http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1033/1305451098_1a8028d3b4_t.jpg Catalina

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

Well the most truthful part of this is you have problems understanding people. I have no animosity toward you at all, or anyone here for that matter (I have more important things to occupy my time, like life), but suggest you have a big chip on your shoulder which makes you believe people don't like you. HAve you not posted about your friendship with Shay? Have you not posted you like her? So why take offence I say you could become good friends?If you don't feel good about yourself you are going to imagine everyone else feels the same. It also influences how you read things into people's words that are not there...and this is impacted on by speaking in a language which is not your first language.

And yes, I know about that as apart from living in a country where I have yet to master the language as I already mentioned, english is F's 3rd language (though he has a good enough command of it for people to be surprised to discover that fact and also come to him for advice on editing in english) and in the beginning of our relationship we often mistook what the other said for something totally different. I also communicate with people in various languages as I already told you, which means I am used to taking into account what is said may not be exactly what is meant...I don't get the feeling you have that experience as yet, or realise it. It is difficult enough for english speakers on the board to always recognise the tone of or what is being said in a post at times, so add in the factor of different languages and you are increasing the liklihood of misunderstandings...it pays to sit back and think, though all of us are guilty at some time or another of not doing that...we are just human after all.

If you continue to attack people though, how do you think they will ever want to extend a hand of friendship to you? As for me, we do not have a lot in common in BDSM or life, simple as that...it doesn't mean I like or don't like you, it doesn't mean I am picking on you by not being your friend, it does not mean you are a victim on this forum...that is totally up to you and a product of your own imagination I'm sorry to say.

Sheesh, when we started posting here it took a long time to get to know anyone on a personal level, and then it has been only a handful of people in the whole 5 years since I have been here. It is not a product of being shut out by others, it is a fact that in life people have a lot of other things to do and do not have time to be everyone's best friend...and in your life it is usual to only ever have a few people you can call a real freind, the rest are aquaintances at best. As it was, when a get together came up in the US with some of the people we admired here attending, we just decided to make an effort and go and use it as an anniversary present to ourselves (and that was after we had been posting regularly for a year)...we made some good friends and had a good time. At no time though have we felt ignored, nor have we felt the need to jump up and down about people not being our friends simply because it doesn't make sense to do so or feel that way.

To tell the truth, though I have made a few friends here, I do not come here to find friends, I come here to talk to others in a similar lifestyle...perhaps that is why I just don't get this demanding and accusing people of not wanting to be friends...to me that is icing on the cake with a forum, not the purpose of it..if you click with someone and they feel the same, great..if not, no-one is obligated to be overtly freindly to you, me or anyone, just respectful and open to discussions in the threads.

Catalina

If a felt like a victim of this forum you can be sure i would have already leave this board. Only thing i said is that its hard to find a sub friend between the sub's and it is, at least for me it was and as i saw the replies i am not the only one who think so. I never moaned about it and wouldn't either if you didn't start this nasty thread about Shay.......

??? "If i continue to attack people...." ??? ehh
Was it me who started this fucked up thread? NO
Was it me who start bitching a newbie sub on this thread? NO.

Lit sub's started this......sorry i couldn't just sit, read it all and stay quiet. I hate when peeps treat someone this way and i would defend any other sub if you treated her like you did with Shay. I didn't said what i said just because me and Shay are friends, but cuz i can't stand when people being mean and rude to someone, soz.

I never moaed how i feel or not about other sub's, i see it as my own personal prob and i never made a thread where i would say anything about it either, but when you spoke about Shay i felt its a good time to tell you my bit.

Obviously you didn't like it and i knew you won't before i posted it. You said some not nice things about Shay, so why not tell you something not nice back? I am nice when peeps are nice, i am usualy staying nice even when people being meant to me, but i can't stay nice when my friends being dished or when i see something happening what's just not right-is was this case.

I am usualy very nice and friendly, peeps who talk with me knows that. I can bite as well when i am forced to do so tho. You was all SOOO enjoying dishing her heh. Well i think it just wasn't right if you was like 20 and she alone, so i joined this disccusion and split out my bit about it too.

You said what you think-i said what i think, fair enough i think. I don't like what you said-you don't like what i said and thats okay. I respect other people opinion. I think when you start posting into this kind of thread you should be ready that not all people will agree with what you said, the more if you act like a bunch of hungry wolves and you did, soz.

Now about the way i feel about myself and the possibility the way i felt about other sub's was just a product of my own imagination - I think i won't comment this one, can't be bothered to do so really. I share personal things about myself with my friends and on a personal level only, will keep it this way.

i must disagree on this. i am pretty new on the forums, but my very first private message was from Rebecca, and she gave me some good advice that has helped me ease my way into feeling comfortable posting.

doveofserenity - i believe you have this kind of experience, good for you

I would have kept it between her and myself if it would have been just a personal issue, it wasn't. It involved a lot of different people. And worse it involved her bashing a lot of people here on another forum. What's going on between my Dom and I really doesn't have anything to do with this. I just pointed it out to show that just because we have problems it doesn't give us an excuse for poor behavior. I hate it that you say I didn't give Shay a chance because I did.

nh23 - I see. I would keep it only between me and her no matter what she said, but that's just me. I am not saying you didn't give her a chance! You did, but then you used all of it against her on this thread.....:/ I see that as a very nasty thing to do, soz. Just my opinion.......

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

i must disagree on this. i am pretty new on the forums, but my very first private message was from Rebecca, and she gave me some good advice that has helped me ease my way into feeling comfortable posting.

i speak to Doms, subs, and others. The titles don't matter when you are just trying to make friends and get to know the others on the Lit forums.

You just can't come into the forums acting like you know it all. No one can.

And i am not meaning YOU personally, but "You" meaning anyone.

And don't automatically "assume" everyone is out to humiliate you, when you speak up. Take what they say with a grain a thought and learn from it. i did.

Thank you Rebecca

Ohh goodness and thank you Dove.

I am a little overwhelmed that you have mentioned this, though in a most charming way.

Please permit me to say, you took the advice offered with immense grace and that it was my pleasure

 

[Sir_Winston54]

To quote an absolute idiot who just happened to get it right once...

http://i183.photobucket.com/albums/x95/Sir_Winston54/blurb200.jpg

"Can't we all just get along?"

 

[subkitty72]

To quote an absolute idiot who just happened to get it right once...

http://i183.photobucket.com/albums/x95/Sir_Winston54/blurb200.jpg

"Can't we all just get along?"

LMAO.

He favors little Richard, no?

 

[TheBlackDahlia]

To quote an absolute idiot who just happened to get it right once...

http://i183.photobucket.com/albums/x95/Sir_Winston54/blurb200.jpg

"Can't we all just get along?"

You took the words right out of my mouth.

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, I am convinced this thread will never die ....there wasn't a post on it for 5 hours and 14 minutes until Sir Winston's post and now it is off and running again?!! Just sayin', it can't end while it keeps getting resurrected can it?

http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1135/1366742758_381e4df595_t.jpg Catalina

 

[Sir_Winston54]

LOL, I am convinced this thread will never die ....there wasn't a post on it for 5 hours and 14 minutes until Sir Winston's post and now it is off and running again?!! Just sayin', it can't end while it keeps getting resurrected can it?

http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1135/1366742758_381e4df595_t.jpg Catalina

I'm sorry I wasn't up at 5:15 a.m. my time to post that...

 

[catalina_francisco]

I'm sorry I wasn't up at 5:15 a.m. my time to post that...

LOL, it's OK...sometimes it just has to come out I know, thus I have not been overly bothered since it began as it seemed a lot of people had a few things to get out of their system, and as a couple of people have said to me, perhaps it will be to the good of the forum for people to air it instead of letting it fester inside.

http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1286/1362913766_ad638113c9_t.jpg Catalina

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

"Can't we all just get along?"

Well, guess we can give it a try

I go watch some movie's instead *chuckles*

 

[FurryFury]

Isn't that the basis of most human contact/behavior patterns? Act the appropriate way for the setting and most if not all other behavior is acceptable?

I agree!