Shaving my pussy...?

[kiera_madeline]

This isn't me asking how to shave my pussy persay... but more of a how do I get everywhere. I feel so naive trying to explain this..but here goes.

I've shaved for over a year, leaving a small patch on top. But I can never make my pussy lips actually hair free. You know the hair that is right inside your pussy lip? Do you just leave that there or shave it? If so.. how? I have no fear in shaving my bikini line, but I'm much more afraid of hurting myself on the actual lips, and would like to avoid it at all cost. Any ideas?


Second, entirely unrelated question. I'm a 20 year old girl, and I have YET to have an orgasm. Why you ask? No clue. I can't bring myself to let it happen. When I'm in the shower using the handheld shower head, I can get to where I get real shaky and than I feel like I have to move the water away or I'll go crazy. When my boyfriend goes down on me I push him away when I start getting to the point where I begin to shake and feel like I'll have to scream bloody murder.

What the hell is my problem?

 

[digr224]

you could let me shave it for you. i have shaved the pussy lips of several lovers. it is an arrousing experience each time. plus i can see where the razor needs to go to get those little hairs that may be hiding in a soft fold or gentle crevace.
as far as the orgasms, i have had lovers who feel the need to crawl away at the point of orgasm,,,,,,,, if i am down there licking their clit , my hands hold their ass tightly and i continue to massage their clit with my tongue until they relax after orgasm,, scream if you feel like it,,, ill quit when you cum over and over for me. my goal is to have you grind my face until you cum, if it takes me holding your pussy to my face until you feel comfortable enough to grind it to my lips ,,, i will do it. cumere
digr

 

[kiera_madeline]

Well..

You certainly know what you're doing..because I've seen the pictures of you (infact..just today I went through ALL of them) and your girlfriend.. and THAT is what I want it to look like. But I don't have the guts to try it.

Do you have any tips/techniques?


As far as the orgasm goes..I think it must not help that I don't have a very persistent man. If I try and push him away.. he's done. Even though I've explained it a million times. He just gives up.

 

[OSA]

I know what you mean

My wife had a similar problem orgasming when we first started having sex. It took us a while to get it right. I don't know if she had an orgasm until several months of trying. In her case, I think part of it was she was uncomfortable with sex at first - not physically but emotionally. She was raised as a "good girl" and sex was just not something she was comfortable with. After she learned to relax, the shaky feeling turned into something she really liked and it was intense. If your similar, you need to make yourself relax and go with it. It WILL get better. Maybe try a glass or two of wine or something to relax you. Whatever floats your boat in that arena, but try to ride it out.

At least you are willing to try masturbating to get it right the first time. If your man isn't persistant, then continue trying on your own. Once YOU know how to do it, it won't be hard to get him to do it. Unless he has no pulse, he'll get very excited that you are getting very excited, I know I do. I can almost have an orgasm just from making my wife have an orgasm.

Good luck, and report back with how it goes. Be patient and it'll come (or cum as the case may be). You're only 20. You haven't even come close to your best sex yet. I'm 31, and I hope I haven't either.

OSA

 

[ammre]

mmm.. on the topic of shaving.. i find getting spread is the best way to accomplish anything.
If you are in a tub sit and lean back and spread your legs... if you are in a tall (heh dorm showers.. not something you want to sit in) squat. than pull the lips taught. if the skin isn't loose there's less chance of it folding on itself and you cutting it. having a flat surface is easier to shave so pull the lips out flat.
I have a question about shaving... how does one avoid ingrown hairs and when shaving the monds (the skin above the vagina)how do you avoid razor burn?

in the orgasm case... well i feel ya on that one, almost... i started another thread before called: "...have an orgasm" which basically tlaks about how to have an orgasm... well not really but read and see if anything helps.

 

[Mstrskey]

Ugh...ingrown hairs...

They seem to curse me every time I shave!

I have found that having a good razor helps immensley. Also a shaving cream designed for bikini areas. I have taken to soaking a washcloth in water as hot as I can stand it then lathering up the pubic area and sitting the washcloth over the foam for at least 5 minutes or longer. this helps soften up all the hairs and makes the shaving smoother reducing the chance of cutting myself.. I will also generally sit on the edge of a tub with a makeup mirror, the kind that magnifies, to help me find stray hairs.
I rinse the razor well and go to town. You will have to spread your vaginal lips very taught if you want to get all the hairs.

As for razor burn on the mons, I actually use Lanacaine spray ointment. It's antibacterial and designed to soothe sunburn but it does the same trick on razor burn. No itch means no scratching which helps to minimize further irritation.

 

[princess4u]

i get those fine hairs right inside the outer lips edges by holding the skin taut and shaving gently - i dont have a problem cutting myself when doing it that way

as far as having an orgasm - my hand-held shower massage is my favorite toy - but it does make for a very intense orgasm - have you tried the spray on "low pulse"? i sometimes feel like i want to stop and pull it away, but it's mind over matter with me - i force myself to keep the pulsating water on my clit b/c i know i am going to experience a very intense orgasm - it's worth every bit of "torture" getting there

if you clit has a tendency to want to "hide" when using the shower massage, just force the little pearl to stay exposed - for me at least, it is very worthwhile - and after experiencing an orgasm this way, it becomes easier to achieve each time

good luck ~

 

[white_mage_goddess]

As for your shaving question, just go slowly, use a mirror, and keep the skin taunt.

In regards to orgasms, I had the same problem you had back in the early days of my sexual adventures. I'd get right up to the brink and just HAVE to back away from it.

My advice would be to spend a LOT of time masturbating, at least once a day. Also keep using the shower massager, just make sure you have it on a low setting.

Basically practice makes perfect. I spent about 3 months masturbating every day trying desperately to have an orgasm. Finally I stopped concentrating on my orgasm and just enjoyed all the sensations of touching myself and voila! One day it just happened!

I now have no problems orgasming at all. In fact I orgasm exceptionally easy. Be patient. It will happen.

 

[kiera_madeline]

Thank you..

Thank you for all your advice on both measures. I will surely try all the recommendations on allowing myself to reach orgasm. Something must give, and soon. It's driving me crazy, I feel sort of unfulfilled, and I think I feel like I'm not doing my job. Eventually something will make it work. I'm not an avid masturbater, so I'm going to try that more frequently and spend extra time in the shower with the shower massager.

I'll report back if something, anything works. May take me awhile though.


And the shaving...well I'm going to give it a whirl, seeing as I'll be spending enough time in the shower. hahaha.

 

[Lust Engine]

Water's relatively cheap in this country! Stay with it on both counts. I'm sure with a bit of patience & experimenting things will work out for you just fine. Good luck,

 

[SexyGiggles]

Second, entirely unrelated question. I'm a 20 year old girl, and I have YET to have an orgasm. Why you ask? No clue. I can't bring myself to let it happen. When I'm in the shower using the handheld shower head, I can get to where I get real shaky and than I feel like I have to move the water away or I'll go crazy. When my boyfriend goes down on me I push him away when I start getting to the point where I begin to shake and feel like I'll have to scream bloody murder.

My two cents worth, let yourself scream bloddy murder. What's stopping you is the shaking and screaming -- it makes you uncomfortable, and therefore, you stop. But if you let yourself relax, don't worry about losing control, and you'll find yourself in the midst of orgasmic pleasures...

Take a long shower, turn the radio on if you are worried about neighbors hearing you, and go at it!

Good luck!