sharp pains

[MyMascara]

hello again, everyone. i this time my question is very personal, and i hope you all can help me.
every time my boyfriend inserts himself into me, it hurts...a LOT. enough for me to cry out. the pain last for the first few thrusts, and then it's completely gone. i don't know why. if we do it again in a half hour or so, it doesn't hurt. it's only there when we haven't done it for a while. it really hurts, and i'm a little worried. any ideas or similar happenings? any help is greatly appreciated.

 

[SexyChele]

It's probably nothing serious. And could be caused by a number of different factors. Might be your lubrication isn't quite enough when your boyfriend inserts himself. Try using just a little KY or Astroglide and see if that helps. It could also be that, in between the times you are with your boyfriend, you simply get tighter and when he stretches you, it hurts until your body can accommodate him.

In any case, if you are concerned, I would ask my OB/GYN. I know, it's really personal, but trust me, they've heard it all! S/he can look for a possible infection or check to see if everything is okay. Also, s/he might know of some ways that could make it less painful for you.

Good luck!

 

[ammre]

i didn't have sex with my boyfriend for 3 weeks (long distance sucks) and i wound up getting amazingly sore amazingly fast. i was well lubed and he's a good size but he's definatelly not humongous enough to make me THAT sore... i don't get it either but if it's not a persistant pain than it's probably nothing.. if you notice it getting any worse or if lube and other things don't work than see your ob/gyn as chele said...

 

[Lust Engine]

I'd still consult with the doctor just to be sure. Why take a chance?

One other thing to think about beyond the lubrication suggestion is when you guys go at it again, is it the same position?? It could just be the angle of his equipment not matching up with yours properly. You didn't exactly describe the pain too well. Is it an abrasion kind of pain? Stabbing? Burning??

Oh where's our resident medical expert, PinkOrchid when you need her??

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I agree with what Chele said (I usually do, she's a bright woman)... you might have just gotten tighter after a while of not having sex. Along with the lubricant, maybe engage in some manual-genital stimulation, 'fingering', as it were, and slowly work yourself up to accepting his cock. Begin with one finger, then two, then maybe three, and then begin with gential-genital sex...

 

[Lust Engine]

I agree with what Chele said (I usually do, she's a bright woman)...

Chele does seem to be one of Lit's brighter bulbs here doesn't she? I've never faulted any of her logic or thoughts here either! Damn, she's good!

We're lucky to have her around.

 

[James G 5]

If you have really prominent labia, it's entirely possible he's "snagging" them, especially if he's using a condom
After a couple of thrusts enough lubrication will be transfered to them to prevent the discomfort....you can avoid it to begin with by using some lube, keeping the hair off the area of the lips, and one of you holding your lips open when he first enters you

Checking with a Dr is a good idea too

 

[SexyChele]

<off topc> Aw, Vixenshe and Lust Engine, you two make me blush! Besides, I've often read what each of you has posted and went, "Wow, that's great!" So, there! </off topic>

 

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[James G 5]

I dont know about this "tighter" idea. After having sex the vagina shrinks back to size immediatly. It doesnt flap in the wind for weeks at a time.

It stretches to accomadate everytime, not just every few weeks.


That being said, Im assuming there isnt enough foreplay involved for you to be "ready" for penetration, or not enough lube.
You may be uptight, unrelaxed causing you to feel unready

Should've thought of that
It could be vaginissimus, an unconscious tightening (out of reflex, guilt, or anxiety) on the lady's part
After a few stroke it can go away if she relaxes

 

[WynEternal]

I have a very sensitive vaginal area, and prominent outer labias. Hub would go down on me for a long time first before penetration. We both enjoy it and it helps me relax. I find it's easier when I have a little "mini" cum first before he goes in. Sometimes then, depending on which position I'm in, I would still have to hold the lips open.

 

[James G 5]

I have a very sensitive vaginal area, and prominent outer labias. Hub would go down on me for a long time first before penetration. We both enjoy it and it helps me relax. I find it's easier when I have a little "mini" cum first before he goes in. Sometimes then, depending on which position I'm in, I would still have to hold the lips open.

Alternately, you can just put clips on them & run the clips to her nipples or a waist chain to hold them back ')

 

[WynEternal]

Alternately, you can just put clips on them & run the clips to her nipples or a waist chain to hold them back ')

Why am I not surprised you'd bring this up?

 

[Willing and Unsure]

okay, I once went about 3 months without sex, and any form of sexual contact. That first time that we did get together and have sex it hurt a lot when he first entered me. The thing that made it not hurt was him just holding there until I said it was okay to continue on. and he would, and it wouldnt hurt anymore.

 

[James G 5]

Why am I not surprised you'd bring this up?

Only trying to help!
Actually, usually women with very prominent labia usualy have one that's larger than the other
I've been with 2 women who had the larger one pierced and the ring made a handy handle for opening her up for seamless entry

 

[SexyChele]

okay, I once went about 3 months without sex, and any form of sexual contact. That first time that we did get together and have sex it hurt a lot when he first entered me. The thing that made it not hurt was him just holding there until I said it was okay to continue on. and he would, and it wouldnt hurt anymore.

I experienced something very similiar to this. I had gone a long time without sex, and the first time I was entered it hurt like hell. It also left me with mild cramping afterward. I did go to my OB/GYN who confirmed that if a woman doesn't have regular intercourse for a long period, the first time she does she may feel discomfort, pain, cramps, even some slight bleeding. So, yes, there is something to the idea of becoming "tighter" over time, and to the point of discomfort.