Sharing clothes with my daughter

[Snowbunnie12]

I have a daughter(still lives at home) every now and than she likes to use some of my things and I don’t mind. Jewelry shoes jeans etc doesn’t bother me... however recently she has been taking more liberties grabbing items without permission or without my knowledge. The items being taken are more risqué than someone her age should have access too. I’m flattered she likes my stuff A LOT as I have good taste however I don’t like the idea of her wearing my stuff to parties or out to attract attention. Thoughts?

 

[P_j93]

Well'I would say it partly depends on how old she is AND basic respect. I mean if she is young enough for it to be inappropriate then something needs to be said. But outside of that there is a basic lack of respect if she isn't asking to borrow the clothes. I think you are within you rights to put your foot down about it and insist on asking first.

 

[OneFineYoungCannibal]

Are we talking underwear and/or high heeled shoes? (I hope so )

 

[o2baPrince]

I have a daughter(still lives at home) every now and than she likes to use some of my things and I don’t mind. Jewelry shoes jeans etc doesn’t bother me... however recently she has been taking more liberties grabbing items without permission or without my knowledge. The items being taken are more risqué than someone her age should have access too. I’m flattered she likes my stuff A LOT as I have good taste however I don’t like the idea of her wearing my stuff to parties or out to attract attention. Thoughts?

So it just leaves me curious as to what she borrows! And it seems hard to draw a line now since she has seen you wear them for a while. Very hard to say it's ok for me, but you're to young. They never agree with that. What does she say when you say that's to revealing?

 

[Naughtyboy31]

Ready for the "talk"

I had a FWB a few yrs ago. She was telling me she was pretty certain her "younger" daughter was getting into her toy box. She had noticed a few items not how she had left them. I told her she must be ready for the "talk" and she was like I think so.

 

[Hipshot1554]

Set limits and enforce them.

 

[jennyxiaoxoxo]

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[Snowbunnie12]

My mother and I use to share clothes as well (except for underwear), so I don't think its a problem. Hard for anyone to give advice without knowing how old and exactly which pieces of clothing you're having an issue with.

Mainly my sexy club wear and going out with the girls stuff. She’s of age

 

[Booboobear84]

I would observe that taking them without permission implies she knows you wouldn’t approve. I can imagine she rationalizes who are you to say she can’t wear what you wear. I think that’s a tough argument to make for you. I expect your fear is she doesn’t have enough life experience to avoid going far wrong. I would certainly express how clueless and badly behaving boys near her age are.

 

[Satinfan162]

daughter's 21st B-day

My Daughter came to visit us before finals week.

She was more interested in planning her 21st birthday than studying.

The second night she was home and she had a fashion show for my wife and I.

Everything was "one size too small" and very flattering. She told my wife and I that she would "not be paying cover in these dresses." The wife and I concurred when we saw her micro hot pink, velour, backless party dress.

I wish my wife would take a few of my daughter's outfits and give them a go. I love a clingy dress or painted on jeans.

Oh to be 21 again would be priceless.

 

[Snowbunnie12]

We both live the painted on jeans with some sexy black wedges

 

[Sheana_V]

I don't have kids, so take my advice with a grain of salt, but...

I'm inclined to think that her taking things without permission is a hard no: which means hard enforced boundaries. Also, it's a good opportunity to express the concept of a hard boundary as it will help teach her about setting boundaries.

As far as dressing. If I were you I would do whatever you can to support her in her self expression regardless of how sexual it may be - because this will always be a losing battle with parents, and that in turn will result in her hiding things from you. If she's hiding things from you then you have no chance of protecting her or trying to help her be safe.

 

[Soshameless11]

My Daughter came to visit us before finals week.

She was more interested in planning her 21st birthday than studying.

The second night she was home and she had a fashion show for my wife and I.

Everything was "one size too small" and very flattering. She told my wife and I that she would "not be paying cover in these dresses." The wife and I concurred when we saw her micro hot pink, velour, backless party dress.

I wish my wife would take a few of my daughter's outfits and give them a go. I love a clingy dress or painted on jeans.

Oh to be 21 again would be priceless.

Love a good fashion show!