Shared wife dreams soon to be real

[johnhobes]

I will add more as able but I just got to post this and see if others may offer advice or experience..

The situation is this. My wife is great girl and I adore her.. I am also slightly kinky, maybe not bi but I definetly often turned on to watching her.. Well it never worked out a few tries until this one guy... She chose him a few years ago and I let them two do all the talking and even sort of sent her to go suck him while secretly wishing she would just go for it and fuck him.. I would of loved it and she could of,,, she should of.. I believe he really wanted to but she held back..

Anyways, fast forward a few years and I tell her I still like that and its always been a turn on. I mentioned the same guy cuz I seriously loved how turned on she got talking about hiim in bed.. Its great really is and it is a turn on for me.


Anyways she immediately kinda went for chance and asked him.. I loved it and she seemed excited.. I wanted her and him both to be sure they can have alot and I am for it, just wife is control.. I even let him know she was soaking wet talking about him and how bad she wants his cock.. I also told him only thing is he needs to take a picture for her, well me too but it can just be his hard cock and my wifes lips, either pair..


Well since i called him he has kinda not contacted my wife.. I hope I did not screw it up.. Honestly wish my wife would jump in and ask him WTF.. or even tell me if I scared him or made him too nervous.. I am totally ok however my wife wishes it to be and I would love her to go for whatever she wants to try..


I know she likes it.. Joke is she is secretly a cock slut and loves it..

I firmly believe my wife would love a cock toy and she should dive in.. How does one reassure her and help her get over any fear or concern and truly let go,,, go for what she wants and enjoy it fully.. I will gladly take 2nds from her and she will absolutely love it.. I know that since she has said so... She also wants me to watch which I have always wanted and yes wish right now..

She also has said she could be fucking him and I walk in then sit down.

She says these things and I would love it.. She should go for it if she truly wants.. I am certain I will support her in it.

 

[littlecordelera]

It's difficult to understand a situation like this from just a few paragraphs; however, my first impression is that you need to back off and allow your wife and the other guy to decide how and when they want to move forward. I think your eagerness is making the other guy feel like he would be doing this for you, and I doubt that holds any appeal for him. He wants to please your wife, not you, and he wants it to be HER desire, not yours. It does not matter if you tell the other guy that your wife wants him. He has to see evidence that she wants him.

I suggest that you let your wife know that you will back away and leave it up to them. Also let her know that whatever happens, if it happens, and whether or not you are allowed to be present when it happens is up to them. And then back away, and leave it up to them.

The last thing the other guy wants is to have sex with some wife who has been pressured into it, and then, in the middle of activities, have the whole situation devolve into a crying woman and a marital disaster. I can assure you that this is the number one concern for single guys on a swing site.

Take your time, and be patient, and allow the other parties the freedom and the space to make their own decisions.

Good luck!

 

[policywank]

Littlecordelera is right. Your message is filled with references to what you like and what you want her to be and what turns you on. This is just another variation of a selfish and male centric approach to sex.

Get your nose out of her business. Any scenario where a 3rd party is telling two other people how to go about their sexual interactions is not likely to be well received - it’s creepy and none of your fucking business. Being her husband doesn’t make it more acceptable (and maybe makes it less so). She isn’t yours to pimp out.

Make sure she knows you support her then shut the fuck up. If it is a healthy dynamic between them neither one of them is likely be enthusiastic about doing this for you. And if either is doing it for you that will lead to problems.