Shadow War on BDSM Forums (not this one)

[VandalHeart]

Collarchat.com, the message boards for collarme.com, has a poisoner in their ranks. One of the moderators has taken it upon herself to be the riteous hand of her own god complex and is seriously abusing her powers as moderator. She is cracking down on anyone she doesn't like while covering for her little army of followers and friends when they violate TOS. My question is this: How does one wage a shadow war against a tyrant online? Any suggestions would be wonderful and greatly appreciated, no matter their usefulness.

BTW, suggestions on hacking accounts are not completely, but mostly exempt from this appreciation, not only because of the lack of honor it eschews, but because I believe she has already done it to several of her on-forum targets, and I think I'm being saved for last. I will not compromise my honor for the sake of ripping down this bitch, but anything short of that is fair game. Again, thank you in advance for the suggestions.

 

[Chicklet]

perhaps they should move over to a better forum... anyone know of a good bdsm forum?

 

[chris9]

I'd contact the people who run the site.

 

[SleazyButterfly]

I don't know that there is any way to stop it. Probably the best thing would be to do what so many do and just walk away from the whole thing. There are other sites out here, though that is a decent one. Maybe contacting the main mod. would work to help a bit. Those jobs just seem to go to peoples heads sometimes, not much can be done to stop it. One of the drawbacks to a free site like that.

 

[lne_iii]

perhaps they should move over to a better forum... anyone know of a good bdsm forum?

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[brioche]

perhaps they should move over to a better forum... anyone know of a good bdsm forum?

Their forum is way, way different from ours.
I'm not saying it's bad at all, just really different. They'd have a hard time adapting. It's more regimented into certain topics, whereas we only have the two. But I suppose most people know that.
Aw, fuck it.

 

[Xelebes]

Do not run a shadow war on any sites. In most serious cases, you can be DDOS'd from the internet from your ISP. I have had to endure against "shadow wars" on a few sites and we made sure it bit back on them by contacting the ISPs of users involved.

If you have an issue with a moderator, consult the administrator of the forums. Do not actually try to wage war with moderators as it might be construed as an attack on the entirety of the site.

 

[snowy ciara]

What a wise lil blue alien.... Daemon, I'd just move on.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Hi VH,

You can only do so much:

1) Report the abuses to the site administrator.
2) Report the TOS violations she is covering up.
3) Share your truth, quietly, with dignity. Hold your head up and walk proudly. Character will shine through.

YIK,
-Geoff
(EvilGeoff without the underscore on Collarme)

 

[VandalHeart]

Thank you Geoff. I'm trying to invite all of my friends over here to Lit so that we'll have somewhere more tolerant and enlightened to hang out. Thanks everyone.

 

[PatPowers]

You can't wage a shadow war on an ISP because waging a shadow war requires anonymity, and thanks to ISP logging you don't have that. If you're dealing with a mod with unchecked power who is abusing it, then the best thing you can do is walk away.

That said, it isn't always possible to just walk away from someone who has harmed you. If you feel they've REALLY fucked you over and just walking away would leave you fuming at the injustice of it all for a very long time, then you probably need to get back at them in some way just so the wound won't fester.

Fortunately, you can get redress pretty easily if you're so upset you're willing to walk away from the board, or even if you're not. A letter to the owner of the site could help you feel redress, and let you stay on the site. The mistake most people make in such cases is that they vent, describing every bad thing the mod or whomever has ever done. Don't do that. Pick out only those things you can demonstrate with links to posts on the site, and just cite the 5 or 10 worst -- enough to demonstrate a pattern of misbehavior without getting into MEGO territory. Don't assume that the owner hates the mod like you do -- the owner is probably grateful for the mod's contribution in helping to police the board. Even if the owner is reluctant to discipline the mod on your behalf, it will at least be a red flag so that when you or others similar misbehavior on the mod's part, the owner might take more notice.

At this point, if you can walk away, you win. You've made your point, gotten your redress, and maybe you'll be able to post on the board in the future, and maybe not.

If you've invested a LOT of time in the board and you're sure the owner will ignore your post, you could post pretty much what you wrote to the mod about on the appropriate forum (lots of message boards have places to complain about the modding). This might get you banned, or not, but if your claims are couched in reasonable terms and have links, it will be hard for the owner to justify deleting your post, in which case you have just lodged a big stick in the mod's craw that she can't dislodge. That can really help with that redress thing, especially if other board members post supporting your claims.

The one thing I would advise you not to do is is quit or get banned and then go back to the board and stir up shit under a sock. I have seen posters do this, and it'spretty sad. The mods ignore them except to delete their posts and ban their sock. And the people using the sock are just fruitlessly picking at an old wound and keeping it fresh -- they are not going to get redress and should move on.

You can also post warnings about the site on other boards, to the extent that's allowed on those boards. Nobody likes walking into a bandsaw, which is what encountering the more crazed mods/admins on some boards without warning can be like.