Sexually bored Tasmanian hiker

[Tasman69]

Gees how hard is it to have an affair!
I've tried a few dating sites where women are "lining up" for a discreet liaison.
What are they looking for? James Fucking BOND?!
I love my wife and don't want to split up with her, but she's not into what I am and doesn't want to be adventurous sexually.
I just want a friend to hike, skinny dip, have fun, and fuck with in whatever depraved way our imaginations can come up with.
Is it too much to ask?

 

[Bramblethorn]

Gees how hard is it to have an affair!
I've tried a few dating sites where women are "lining up" for a discreet liaison.
What are they looking for? James Fucking BOND?!
I love my wife and don't want to split up with her, but she's not into what I am and doesn't want to be adventurous sexually.
I just want a friend to hike, skinny dip, have fun, and fuck with in whatever depraved way our imaginations can come up with.
Is it too much to ask?

Sites like that sometimes exaggerate how many women they have signed up. Ashley Madison marketed themselves as having something like a 70/30 male/female split, when they actually had more than a thousand men signed up for every real woman. Most of the female profiles were fake, created just to attract male customers.

 

[LTMMC]

Sites like that sometimes exaggerate how many women they have signed up. Ashley Madison marketed themselves as having something like a 70/30 male/female split, when they actually had more than a thousand men signed up for every real woman. Most of the female profiles were fake, created just to attract male customers.

Bramblethorn, I wonder whether you may be missing an important point?

IMHO, the number of women frequenting a forum does not matter nearly as much as their mental make-up. A large number of non-desirable women in a room or at a party or anywhere cannot help anybody. What Tasman is looking for – or I for that matter – is one woman who is right for himself.

So the trick is targeting that one woman. But I regret to admit: I have not mastered the art of targeting yet either.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Bramblethorn, I wonder whether you may be missing an important point?

IMHO, the number of women frequenting a forum does not matter nearly as much as their mental make-up. A large number of non-desirable women in a room or at a party or anywhere cannot help anybody. What Tasman is looking for – or I for that matter – is one woman who is right for himself.

So the trick is targeting that one woman. But I regret to admit: I have not mastered the art of targeting yet either.

LTMMC, interesting take. It sounds to me more like he’s only finding women who aren’t interested in him. Like Bramblethorn indicates, the male to female ratio on sites like these typically allow women to be extra choosy.

Gees how hard is it to have an affair!
I've tried a few dating sites where women are "lining up" for a discreet liaison.
What are they looking for? James Fucking BOND?!
I love my wife and don't want to split up with her, but she's not into what I am and doesn't want to be adventurous sexually.
I just want a friend to hike, skinny dip, have fun, and fuck with in whatever depraved way our imaginations can come up with.
Is it too much to ask?

I do hope you find what you’re looking for. As someone who’s been there, I would very much encourage you to consider ending your current relationship before engaging in the extramarital fun. The latter usually ends in considerable pain for both the cheater and the cheated on. It’s not worth it.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Bramblethorn, I wonder whether you may be missing an important point?

IMHO, the number of women frequenting a forum does not matter nearly as much as their mental make-up.

To a point. But on fraudulent websites like AM where the ratio is 1000:1, it's going to be tough for a guy to find any real woman, desirable or otherwise. It may be worth finding out whether it's even possible to "win" on the site he's using before finessing the approach.

(Also, seconding TPH's encouragement either to end the current relationship or to negotiate for honest non-monogamy. It's a tough situation and none of the options are easy, but dishonesty has a way of blowing up and causing a lot of pain down the road.)

 

[LTMMC]

To a point. But on fraudulent websites like AM where the ratio is 1000:1, it's going to be tough for a guy to find any real woman, desirable or otherwise. It may be worth finding out whether it's even possible to "win" on the site he's using before finessing the approach.

(Also, seconding TPH's encouragement either to end the current relationship or to negotiate for honest non-monogamy. It's a tough situation and none of the options are easy, but dishonesty has a way of blowing up and causing a lot of pain down the road.)

I agree Bramblethorn. Some situations are so hopeless that it pays to change the boundary conditions, rather than plodding on.

 

[RoperTrace]

Gees how hard is it to have an affair!
I've tried a few dating sites where women are "lining up" for a discreet liaison.
What are they looking for? James Fucking BOND?!
I love my wife and don't want to split up with her, but she's not into what I am and doesn't want to be adventurous sexually.
I just want a friend to hike, skinny dip, have fun, and fuck with in whatever depraved way our imaginations can come up with.
Is it too much to ask?

Not trying to be a smart ass, but maybe a counselor would be a better place to start. I wished I'd done that a couple decades ago. Unfortunately, or fortunately, depending on your POV, it was fairly easy using Yahoo personals, Adultfriendfinder, Alt.com, POF, etc. All of them to my knowledge were free for initial contacts, now I think they're all pay sites. The ratios back then were close to 50/50.