Sexless marriages?

JustPlainChad

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I've read a lot about sexless marriages, we had issues after a medical problem but we're back on track. It can be a real problem, a marriage ending problem.

According to polls some 20% of men can be in a sexless marriage. Sexless is defined as less than 3 times per year FYI.

Here's an article that might help anyone that's trying to work their way out of a funk..... http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/OnCall/story?id=4137184&page=1

Reasons for one:

1. Stress - Either at work or around the house. Stress is a mood killer. It is up to you to help your spouse be as relaxed as possible when you're together.

2. An affair - I guess this option may have crossed your mind so I'll say that even though this is a possible cause, it isn't that likely. Affairs don't always cause sexless marriages. However, if you feel like you have to find out for sure, look for telltale signs.

3. A past fight - Often, a fight or an argument between the two of you is enough to spart a withdrawl of your spouse in an attempt to punish you. If that is the case, you have to resolve the issue that caused the fight and help the bad emotions dissipate.

4. A boring routine - A most likely cause. Many married couples fail to preserve the passion that once existed between them when they dated. To renew the passion you need to get back into "dating mode". Do more exciting things together, have a date night with just the two of you, do romantic things. All of this can help reignite the old flames and help you to bring backthe passion.

Our problems seem to be over, but I know of the challenges. Best of luck!

Chad
 
I found this interesting - the second reason with 61% I wonder if they asked if the men tried to make it more enjoyable for her or if simply she doesn't like sex how it is now was the beginning and end of them exploring that.

To me a few of those reason imply there is more going wrong with the marriage then just the sex life and they need to either walk away or to really get some counseling.


WHY MEN SAID THEY STOPPED
reason percentage (%)
She isn't sexually adventurous enough for me - 68
She doesn't seem to enjoy sex - 61
I am interested in sex with others, but not with my wife - 48
I am angry at her - 44
I'm bored - 41
She is depressed - 40
She has gained a significant amount of weight - 38
I am depressed - 34
I no longer find her physically attractive - 32
I suffer from erectile dysfunction - 30
I lost interest and I don't know why - 28
I prefer to masturbate, but not online - 25*
I prefer to watch pornography online and masturbate - 25*
I am on medication that lowered my libido - 21
I am/was having an affair - 20
I suffer from premature ejaculation - 16
I have difficulty achieving orgasm - 15
I am too tired - 14
She is/was having an affair - 9
I don't have the time - 6
I wasn't interested in sex to begin with - 3
I am gay - <1
 
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