Sexless Marriages

[Fortunatehsband]

I’m a married, male, age 65. Though I am in a Near sexless marriage, it’s the lack of passion and spontaneity that I miss so much. I crave passion and seek it outside of my marriage. I’ve not cheated in 10 years but honestly would do so at any time with the right woman. My sex drive is not much different than it was when I was in my 20’s. I hope to find that passion again before my fire burns out, though I don’t see that happening soon. I masturbate ever few days, sometimes 2 or 3 times in a 24 hour period. I live in Central Texas and hope to hear from women that seek same no string or life changing situations… just sexual passion sharing.

Hardhubby2020, I share your story and I feel so deeply for all of us in this type of situation, either male or female. Personally, my ED problem combined with her post menopausal issues such as the lack of lubrication and pain from penetration have led us to a several year ambivalence about intimacy. During discussions, treatments, and self recriminations she described her even deeper problem is a "lack of desire". Knowing that problem has led me to search for alternate sources of sexual fulfillment. I now come here along with feeding my fetish of displaying my wife at times and thrill to the excitement of men appreciating my wife's body. We used to share to the thrill of my fetish and her fetish of being an exhibitionist within limits. In summation I am only able to orgasm within the fictional mindset of having my wife aroused, satisfied, and ravaged with or without her consent through erotic stories and seeing beautiful women's bodies. So, we all have to find a way to express our desires as safely as possible. Thank you for 'listening'!

 

[Mtnmike]

Well the old adage is true when u stop looking so hard it comes when u least expect it it didn't for me but one things for sure u have to love yourself and be positive to attract just that

This is so true, I think that's been part of my problem, both marriages have had their problems & both have taken a big toll on my mentality, just can't seem to get past it unfortunately.

 

[Mtnmike]

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Sex is easy fucking someone is easy if ur looking for connection that's where the work comes in

Sex & Fucking has never came easy for me personally, I seem to need at least some kind of connection, way I was raised I guess. I have honestly been trying to work on this aspect of it but it is hard (no pun intended).

 

[Yorkiemom66]

This is so true, I think that's been part of my problem, both marriages have had their problems & both have taken a big toll on my mentality, just can't seem to get past it unfortunately.

It's difficult I've been there 2x unfortunately but what I came to understand it wasn't about me it was about them and what they couldn't let go of in their psyche just have to plow thru

 

[Yorkiemom66]

Sex & Fucking has never came easy for me personally, I seem to need at least some kind of connection, way I was raised I guess. I have honestly been trying to work on this aspect of it but it is hard (no pun intended).

Agreed the connection is where the work comes in in my case it took alot of frogs to find a trustworthy one and I do mean TRUST,he and I match and have the same wants out of what we have at this point so who knows things change but you do have to put yourself out their and as a huge agoraphobia it's been difficult to get where I am today with mine but im proof I can and does happen

 

[Mtnmike]

It's difficult I've been there 2x unfortunately but what I came to understand it wasn't about me it was about them and what they couldn't let go of in their psyche just have to plow thru

This is what friends have been telling me for year's, it's her not me, I just can't seem to get it thru my thick scull.

 

[Yorkiemom66]

This is what friends have been telling me for year's, it's her not me, I just can't seem to get it thru my thick scull.

Let her go man trust me as a woman it was her and I get ur manhood has been beaten up (so to speak) put u 1st now drops those damn bricks man and make u happy

 

[Mtnmike]

Agreed the connection is where the work comes in in my case it took alot of frogs to find a trustworthy one and I do mean TRUST,he and I match and have the same wants out of what we have at this point so who knows things change but you do have to put yourself out their and as a huge agoraphobia it's been difficult to get where I am today with mine but im proof I can and does happen

That's Awesome, happy for you. Your story gives inspiration to people like me, I thank you so much for sharing.

 

[Mtnmike]

Let her go man trust me as a woman it was her and I get ur manhood has been beaten up (so to speak) put u 1st now drops those damn bricks man and make u happy

Thanks, i've been trying but it's hard. After 35 year's starting over is scary, plus 2 failed marriages, i'm doubting myself.

 

[Yorkiemom66]

Just be you and put you 1st that was the hardest for me to learn it does work mtnmike at this stage in my life it's about happy positivity and orgasms

 

[Yorkiemom66]

Thanks, i've been trying but it's hard. After 35 year's starting over is scary, plus 2 failed marriages, i'm doubting myself.

Been there myself,1st step is ALWAYS THE HARDEST!!!!!!

 

[Yorkiemom66]

My marriage was 34 yrs so I get it

 

[LittleSwitchy]

If I can chime in.
Would you rather have 1-2 years going through leaving? That or a lifetime of being unhappy in relationship that isn’t working out for you and probably her.

Thanks, i've been trying but it's hard. After 35 year's starting over is scary, plus 2 failed marriages, i'm doubting myself.

 

[Mtnmike]

Just be you and put you 1st that was the hardest for me to learn it does work mtnmike at this stage in my life it's about happy positivity and orgasms

Ah to be happy and to have an orgasm, not sure I remember what those are.

 

[Yorkiemom66]

Ah to be happy and to have an orgasm, not sure I remember what those are.

It will come hell I pulled a man over 10 yrs younger so the process works

 

[Mtnmike]

If I can chime in.
Would you rather have 1-2 years going through leaving? That or a lifetime of being unhappy in relationship that isn’t working out for you and probably her.

No problem, that's a good question & one I ask myself all the time. At my age i'm just not sure if or how to start again, not sure I want to.

 

[Yorkiemom66]

It's about one's own happiness the way u talk the way you carry yourself confidence is very attractive to a woman for me its 100%about being a real damn MAN!!!!!!

 

[Mtnmike]

It will come hell I pulled a man over 10 yrs younger so the process works

Nice, it is easier for a woman, just my experience.

 

[Yorkiemom66]

No problem, that's a good question & one I ask myself all the time. At my age i'm just not sure if or how to start again, not sure I want to.

Don't say that, he'll we get one life ,live it with gusto and no regrets as I said im proof it can happen

 

[Yorkiemom66]

Nice, it is easier for a woman, just my experience.

NOT TRUE AT ALL!!!!!!

 

[Mtnmike]

It's about one's own happiness the way u talk the way you carry yourself confidence is very attractive to a woman for me its 100%about being a real damn MAN!!!!!!

I understand, I have quite a few female friends just no prospects unfortunately. Yes I have asked or tried, they just like being my friend's without the benefits lol.

 

[LittleSwitchy]

No problem, that's a good question & one I ask myself all the time. At my age i'm just not sure if or how to start again, not sure I want to.

How is your relationship aside from the sex or lack of? Is the relationship something you can or want to work out?

 

[Strixaluco]

Nice, it is easier for a woman, just my experience.

The main difference between genders when divorcing is that women tend to have more close friends, better social support system to help survive it.

 

[Mtnmike]

NOT TRUE AT ALL!!

You're kidding right? O maybe you're saying to find o good man?

 

[Mtnmike]

How is your relationship aside from the sex or lack of? Is the relationship something you can or want to work out?

It's ok, nothing to write home about.