Sexless Marriages

[drobert44]

Details? Inquiring minds need to know ... OK I need to know because I'm perverted like that!

She is a h s classmate. When I go back for reunions, we meet old friends and find out how they are doing.....I figgered she needed a nice man, been fucking her whenever I go back.

 

[KeenVoyeur]

She is a h s classmate. When I go back for reunions, we meet old friends and find out how they are doing.....I figgered she needed a nice man, been fucking her whenever I go back.

That cleared up some confusion ... thought you'd been part of a very close family when you mentioned "granny"

 

[drobert44]

She had never had an orgasm, never heard of G spot, never sucked a cock........I fixed all that; now is is my 80 y o animal.

 

[drobert44]

That cleared up some confusion ... thought you'd been part of a very close family when you mentioned "granny"

No; she is a granny; and I am a grandpa.

 

[drobert44]

And people wonder why women stray.............when he dies I am taking her far; she has never left Kansas.

 

[KeenVoyeur]

No; she is a granny; and I am a grandpa.

Only ever been to one school reunion ... my wife also went which put the dampeners on any possible meets with ex-girlfriends (but there were't any there anyway!)

I'm also a grandfather and I'm sure the afore-mentioned girls are grannies too so if I did meet any of them, I'd probably be wanting to see if the old spark could be ignited

 

[drobert44]

Only ever been to one school reunion ... my wife also went which put the dampeners on any possible meets with ex-girlfriends (but there were't any there anyway!)

I'm also a grandfather and I'm sure the afore-mentioned girls are grannies too so if I did meet any of them, I'd probably be wanting to see if the old spark could be ignited

I walked her into the reunion; nobody said a word, nobody cares........We meet again in Oct as we are 80. I wonder how many of them are fucking?

 

[KeenVoyeur]

I walked her into the reunion; nobody said a word, nobody cares........We meet again in Oct as we are 80. I wonder how many of them are fucking?

If she's an old friend, why would anyone bother? And as long as you can get it up and she wants to climb aboard, you go for it!

You would like to think over 50% of them have something going on that their SO doesn't know about, especially if they travel a long way for the reunion ...

 

[drobert44]

If she's an old friend, why would anyone bother? And as long as you can get it up and she wants to climb aboard, you go for it!

You would like to think over 50% of them have something going on that their SO doesn't know about, especially if they travel a long way for the reunion ...

One never knows. I dont know many married couples still fucking........esp those over 40, etc.

 

[KeenVoyeur]

One never knows. I dont know many married couples still fucking........esp those over 40, etc.

Mine is sexless - has been since 2007 when my wife found out I'd been seeing a woman from down the street ...

Ultimatum was "You can stay if you want, but there's no more fucking here!" Now I can't remember the last time we did have sex!

 

[drobert44]

Mine is sexless - has been since 2007 when my wife found out I'd been seeing a woman from down the street ...

Ultimatum was "You can stay if you want, but there's no more fucking here!" Now I can't remember the last time we did have sex!

Guess that's a hall pass.

 

[KeenVoyeur]

Guess that's a hall pass.

I should be so lucky ... but I wouldn't say "No"

 

[drobert44]

I should be so lucky ... but I wouldn't say "No"

I bet there are a lot of sexless marriages............for all the usual reasons. I wont date locally; they all wanna own my after we fuck.

 

[KeenVoyeur]

I bet there are a lot of sexless marriages............for all the usual reasons. I wont date locally; they all wanna own my after we fuck.

The problem with dating locally for me is that it's a rural area and everyone knows everyone else - and their business!

 

[7inchglory]

Going through it right now.

My wife doesn't feel sexy after gaining weight from pregnancy. We have a beautiful baby boy who is a handful and tires us out, but her work is what's causing the rift. She's overworked and exhausted, coupled with not liking her body - so sex happens maybe once every 2 months if I'm lucky. I ask for it, sometimes flat out beg. If I wasn't allowed to play with others online or have an in real life play partner to do what I please with, I would be in dire straits. Even with that, my babygirl can't always be around -- so it's virtual play until her work frees up and she come over to get spanked and then ride me.

 

[Bbl87]

The problem with dating locally for me is that it's a rural area and everyone knows everyone else - and their business!

Yaaaaaa, even if I did get a free pass from my wife, that combined with me being somewhat known locally working higher up in a state agency, I'd be kinda screwed.

 

[Bbl87]

Her mind has betrayed her... there are things us as woman can do to get back our sexual desire, but she has to WANT to change her mind and seek medical help/ hypnosis/ therapy and desire for her beautiful body to become an expression of love, intimacy and connection once again!
I don't buy the fact that her body betrayed her. Menopause is a natural occurance but the MIND Body connection revived can be achieved...

I think that is the core issue here. I don't think she wants things to change, or at least doesn't care about it enough to want to. There are lots of things we can attribute it to (work, weight gain, kids, etc) but the reason always changes from one thing to another when we talk about it. I can't address one issue without another being the next thing to blame.

And it's been almost our entire 12 year marriage, so it's not like there was something new that changed things.

 

[SensualKat78]

I think that is the core issue here. I don't think she wants things to change, or at least doesn't care about it enough to want to. There are lots of things we can attribute it to (work, weight gain, kids, etc) but the reason always changes from one thing to another when we talk about it. I can't address one issue without another being the next thing to blame.

And it's been almost our entire 12 year marriage, so it's not like there was something new that changed things.

People get stuck and there's always root causes, which lead to a string of excuses. But what I've learn by being a hypnotherapist is that all of the things one says are the so called problems really are the symptoms of deeper issues, which compound if you don't want to heal... sadly.

 

[Stoicbutfun]

Hey All, I am also in a sexless marrage I am 40 female we have been together 10 years. I didn't realize so many other people had similar situations. My hubby just isn't very interested. We might have sex every other month but that is generally me using my mouth on him and him giving me a hand. Or early in the morning no foreplay no stimulation and it dorsn't do anything for me. Its not satisfying for me. We touch, cuddle talk we just dont have sex. I am pretty interested all the time. I have run the gammit of emotions is it me, am I not enough was there someone else?? I have come to realize even though he might make sexual jokes, or slap my but and tease me he just is not interested in sex and finds it sinful or dirty. He is embarrased he has a low sex drive and just doesn't want it. I tried to just turn off my sex drive for a long time but that didn't work. So I am just frustrated and disappointed in that part of my life. Dont want a divorce, I truely love him. Just would rather have a sex life with it.

I know this is post from a while ago, but yes I was in a marriage where my drive was much higher than hers, when we got together it was great, but very seldom.
I went through the emotions of someone else, something more I could have done etc etc, but recently she has filed for divorce and is with a female friend. Am I bitter, no, not a healthy response, but I am getting on with making the rest of my life as wonderful as possible.
Literotica and of course porn has been helpful, very at times but looking forward to being desired and wanted for sure, we all need it. I wish you well !

 

[Deepdesrp]

So an update. I’m still really horny and still not getting very far with my wonderful wife who struggles being in the mood. A couple of months ago I did manage to finger her to a nice orgasm hoping this would restart some of the passion. I didn’t force on her anything in return - but have to admit I would have liked something - even if it was a handjob or a bit of playing.

So not really upset with her but finding it difficult not being able to share this part of our lives. Despite her saying that when things are more settled (what ever that is) I know this isn’t really going to improve.

The worst thing is I now have an online relationship with my Ex’s Sister (hadn’t spoken in 20 years but we used have the odd catch up) and found myself opening up and getting a bit fruity on our chats.

She knows I am married so has stayed away from meeting up - but enjoys our chats.

For me I’ve been physically faithful - but I worry that something might tip me into trouble - I yearn for some shared fun time.

 

[Drinkmein]

So I’m not married but long term live in relationship. His health has not only caused ED but total and complete lack of libido at only 57 years old. I’m not even 50 yet. He’s not touched me sexually in a year. It was bearable during my long term relationship on lit but it’s since ended many Months ago so now just here. lol thanks for reading my ramblings

 

[Beachfun51]

So I’m not married but long term live in relationship. His health has not only caused ED but total and complete lack of libido at only 57 years old. I’m not even 50 yet. He’s not touched me sexually in a year. It was bearable during my long term relationship on lit but it’s since ended many Months ago so now just here. lol thanks for reading my ramblings

Sorry this has happened to you. Let me know if you need anything.

 

[Drinkmein]

Sorry this has happened to you. Let me know if you need anything.

Very kind. Thank you

 

[KeenVoyeur]

So I’m not married but long term live in relationship. His health has not only caused ED but total and complete lack of libido at only 57 years old. I’m not even 50 yet. He’s not touched me sexually in a year. It was bearable during my long term relationship on lit but it’s since ended many Months ago so now just here. lol thanks for reading my ramblings

Sorry to hear about your situation ... Sadly health issues are often at the heart of any loss of sexual feelings and it's not something we can do anything about other than be patient, reassuring and caring.

I do hope you find a way to solve your problem without necessarily affecting your relationship ... there are guys on here who would happily offer to help with an online relationship (or more if their location allows - sadly I'm a very long way away and relocating to another continent is perhaps not feasible!)

 

[Drinkmein]

Sorry to hear about your situation ... Sadly health issues are often at the heart of any loss of sexual feelings and it's not something we can do anything about other than be patient, reassuring and caring.

I do hope you find a way to solve your problem without necessarily affecting your relationship ... there are guys on here who would happily offer to help with an online relationship (or more if their location allows - sadly I'm a very long way away and relocating to another continent is perhaps not feasible!)

I did have a long-term thing on here and then he just ghosted me in March and a seen or heard from him since