Sex with Friends

[SeXy ReDHeD]

Have you ever been hit on by a good friend that you got along great with but weren't physically attracted to and knew you just couldn't be with that way?

Did you accept? Did you reject? Was it wierd afterward?

How about sex? Have you had sex with a friend you weren't attracted to... in the "heat of the moment" perhaps? How did that turn out?

 

[Juspar Emvan]

Sorry Hon, can't answer those questions. Sex has been few and far between for me, and certainly hasn't included 'friends' that I wasn't attracted to. BUT, it's damn good to see you here again, I was just asking after you yesterday. *muah*

 

[Gamelover221]

My long time best friend admitted to me on New Years that he was bi and had been fantasizing about me for years. Lets just say I wasn't favorable in accepting any of his offers. He told me I was his ideal man, but I knew it was never gonna happen.

 

[rexfelis]

I have had sex with a few of my friends, and I would like to have sex with a few more before I die.

Most of the time it does not work out. I decide that there's not enough there for sex to work between us and we drop back to just friends. It has ended a couple of friendships as well.

I have one friend, though, who I have a most unusual relationship with. She and I are more than friends, but less than romantic. We love one another dearly, but we also know we will not end up together. I have made love and had sex with her several times. It does not happen regularly, or even all that often, but it has happened. Not in a while now, though, since circumstances will not alow it.

Oh, as to how the sex was, by friend:

Bad, ok, good, very good.

I have turned down as many as I have accepted, or asked, and I have been turned down as well.

My advice is listen to your gut, your head and your body. Then make the best choice based on what those three say.

Sex with friends can work, but it depends on the people. I can't just have meaningless sex with someone without feeling like shit. Consequently, if the right emotions aren't there, it does not work. Finding someone who fits "more than friends' and "less than romantic" is difficult for me. I think I would prefer romantic remationship sex anyway, though.

 

[SeXy ReDHeD]

JUSPAR!! Let me tell you... it's good to be back! I didn't have home internet access for awhile and it was awful! I had to BUY porn... can you imagine?!? Tee hee... how's Mustang Sally?

Thanks for responding, too guys. I'm having such trouble with this... I'm really horny lately and this guy, my friend, asked me to go out "like that" tomorrow night... I would like to have sex--but that's all. I don't know! I'll probably just have to tell him just friends, huh?

 

[Juspar Emvan]

Sall's well. It was her I was talking too, surprise. She's not arround much either. I hear ya about porn, gotta have it - somehow. Why aren't you on MSN? Hmmm?

 

[Beethoven'sFire]

I've had the opportunity to do such, but refused.

 

[Xander]

Sexy Redhed. Its so good to see you are back again.
You HAVE been missed you know. *HUGS* my friend.

Anyway to answer your question.

Yes I have been in that situation, and I also acted upon it. It was a spur of the moment, in the heat of the night kinda thing.
There has been times where I didnt really feel bad about it, since both she and I knew what it was and it was to...uhm release the tention.
There has been, on the other hand times where I thought "SHit!! this should NEVER have happend"

My best advice is. If both parties know that it's only a tension reliever and thats all. Well go for it.
On the other hand, if there is something deeper behind it...dont go there.

 

[GuyJD]

I had two occassions with two different friends, neither of whom I was attracted to.

The first turned out to be the worst sex that I ever had.

The second gave the greatest BJ that I ever had. Then when we had sex, I achieved the strongest orgasm that I ever had in my life. To this day, she still vows that we will do it again and probably end up getting married. Despite the fact that we're thousands of miles away from each other now.

 

[Sabineteas]

Yes, I have had sex with a friend and it was more of him comforting me that went further and further and further until we were naked and in bed. It was not good or bad. I was just so happy that he was with me and so kind and gentle. I felt loved and safe, then the next morning I felt embarrassed and a little uncomfortable.

Would I do it again? Not with him and probably not with anyone else.

It just seemed natural as it progressed that night.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

I actualy refuse to do anything with a freind in fear it coule queer the friendship in the future.
Howerve. if it was made clear that they had feelings for me and I them, then perhaps I'd act.

 

[nasty]

I was told by someone I was handsome. I don't really know if that qualifies as being hit on. She was 52, and married, so, it didn't amount to anything. As for the sex...virgin, honey, so, nope. Although, in the near future, I'm thinking I may tell this guy friend how I feel, and, see how that goes. Now, if I could find a woman, as well.