Sex therapists: A few minutes is best

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Sex therapists: A few minutes is best
By MEGAN K. SCOTT

NEW YORK - Maybe men had it right all along: It doesn't take long to satisfy a woman in bed. A survey of sex therapists concluded the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutes. The findings, to be published in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, strike at the notion that endurance is the key to a great sex life.

If that sounds like good news to you, don't cheer too loudly. The time does not count foreplay, and the therapists did rate sexual intercourse that lasts from 1 to 2 minutes as "too short."

Researcher Eric Corty said he hoped to ease the minds of those who believe that "more of something good is better, and if you really want to satisfy your partner, you should last forever."

The questions were not gender-specific, said Corty (who, it must be noted, is male). But he said prior research has shown that both men and women want foreplay and sexual intercourse to last longer.

Dr. Irwin Goldstein, editor of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, cited a four-week study of 1,500 couples in 2005 that found the median time for sexual intercourse was 7.3 minutes. (Women were armed with stopwatches.)

It's difficult for both older men and young men to make sexual intercourse last much longer, said Marianne Brandon, a clinical psychologist and director of Wellminds Wellbodies in Annapolis, Md.

"There are so many myths in our culture of what other people are doing sexually," Brandon said. "Most people's sex lives are not as exciting as other people think they are."

Fifty members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research in the U.S. and Canada were surveyed by Corty, an associate professor of psychology at Penn State Erie, The Behrend College, and student Jenay Guardiani. Thirty-four members, or 68 percent, responded, although some said the optimal time depended on the couple.

Corty said he hoped to give an idea of what therapists find to be normal and satisfactory among the couples they see.

"People who read this will say, 'I last five minutes or my partner lasts 8 minutes,' and say, 'That's OK,'" he said. "They will relax a little bit."


Well, with lots and lots of foreplay, that will work, I guess.
 
I have to wonder how the women managed a stopwatch. I mean, if it's really good sex (never mind the length), I rather think you'd forget all about the stopwatch.

And isn't it ironic that the women got the stopwatch.
 
I can imagine how this went.

Him: Was it good for you too, baby?
Her: Oh yeah, Harry. That was the greatest 30 seconds of my entire life.

:rolleyes:
 
:confused:

I really have to see the raw data and the data gathering methods for this one.
 
It annoys me when researchers, the media, etc. equate satisfactory sex with the amount of time the penis is inside the vagina. C'mon! There are so many other insertibles -- and places to insert them. :devil:

Satisfactory sex is about exploration, variety, adventure, location, taboo, trust.

Actual intercourse? If that's all there was to it, I'd probably write in a different genre.
 
3 to 13 minutes of PV humping. Sounds about right.

Longer than that, I'll get bored and switch to boxmunching for a while or something.

/Liar the romantic
 
It annoys me when researchers, the media, etc. equate satisfactory sex with the amount of time the penis is inside the vagina. C'mon! There are so many other insertibles -- and places to insert them.
Well, to be fair, they DO say that everyone wants foreplay and such and that all those extras are important to good sex. And their research WAS on only the actual intercourse part and they say as much; you can't blame them if they're presenting the facts on the research they did (intercourse) and not on the research they didn't do (foreplay and all that other stuff). But I kinda think that this research actually supports what you're saying.

They're saying, "Don't be all worried if the actual humping is short. That's not all there is to sex. If the actual intercourse lasts at least three minutes, it's normal and satisfying."

I think this message is actually pretty great. I'm sure there are plenty of guys and gals who wonder if there is something wrong if they're not going at it for more than fifteen minutes. They and their partners are satisfied, but is this normal? This research might give guys an excuse for "Wam-bam-thank-you-ma'am," ;) but it also assures guys and gals that if sex doesn't last all night, it's okay.

It doesn't say that foreplay or any other play should be ignored.
 
Pshaw! When it doesn't happen often enough, it needs to happen for a long while, thank-you very much.
 
Sex therapists: A few minutes is best
By MEGAN K. SCOTT

"There are so many myths in our culture of what other people are doing sexually," Brandon said. "Most people's sex lives are not as exciting as other people think they are."

Wanna bet! For empirical validation, hide (or not) and watch.

But I would agree with rgraham666, I would like to see the data.

Regards...
 
Hmmm...because you think it takes longer or shorter?

That depends on how much time we have and how tired she is. I aim for longer, a lot longer, but not long enough to rub her raw. And that's after extended foreplay.

Of course, being old does help. ;)
 
That depends on how much time we have and how tired she is. I aim for longer, a lot longer, but not long enough to rub her raw. And that's after extended foreplay.

Of course, being old does help. ;)

LOL Being old helps to last longer? God, I hope so. Then at least I have something to look forward to! LOL
 
I've always heard this from doctors dealing with sex. For the most part, it has coincided with one, very strong exception. It's bad for me because I tend to last longer than that (and the orgasms are definitely better when I do). The study should at least mention the women who are different and like to go for longer (no pun intended). The way it reads comes across as one size fits all (see previous pun alert). If people are going to seriously talk about sex, they need to do it in a way that doesn't make people feel like their weird for liking something different.
 
LOL Being old helps to last longer? God, I hope so. Then at least I have something to look forward to! LOL

Yup, it does. Of course, that may be the only thing you have to look forward to . . . except more money, I guess. Yeah, more money and longer sex are about the only things that aging gives you. Everything else, it takes away.
 
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