Sex problem

[DevilRider13]

So I have been hornier then a mother fucker here lately and want it morning, noon, night, and six or seven times in between...

But my significant other on the other hand would rather not have anything to do with me...

He has an extreme foot fetish...or let me say... foot in dirty sock or stocking fetish... He wants me to put on dirty socks that have been sweated in and just are gross and let him play with my feet and put them in his mouth... That seriously grosses me out.. The stocking thing doesn't bother me and if it was clear socks, it wouldn't be so bad...but unfortunately he doesnt' like clean socks and stockings are basically a once a month thing, even if I volunteer to wear them...

I just want to bang my head against the wall...

How am I supposed to get some from him, when all he wants is my feet? He has told me after I expressed the fact I want nookie that he would rather just play with me feet then fuck me...

Ideas would be great... Thanks

 

[wicked woman]

Tell him you'd rather just fuck him than have him play with your feet.

Two in the relationship. Sounds like you need a bit more give and take in your relationship.

 

[DevilRider13]

Tell him you'd rather just fuck him than have him play with your feet.

Two in the relationship. Sounds like you need a bit more give and take in your relationship.

Unfortunately I have told him that... I've gotten on top of him and done my damnest to get him to do me... He was hard, but he just rolled over and said he was to tired... This was after he slept for twelve hours and had only been up for three...

I'm so sick of damn vibrators... Its just not the same

 

[NippleMuncher]

So tie his ass to the bed, stuff a dirty sock in his mouth and fuck his brains out.

I'm only half kidding ...

 

[wicked woman]

Unfortunately I have told him that... I've gotten on top of him and done my damnest to get him to do me... He was hard, but he just rolled over and said he was to tired... This was after he slept for twelve hours and had only been up for three...

I'm so sick of damn vibrators... Its just not the same

I was thinking about my response after I posted it. It was based on the 'fact' that if you're (generic 'you') in a relationship that you're intimate with someone, it should be important to both parties that both of you take pleasure in your sex life.

If he doesn't care whether you're getting pleasure from your sex life, in my mind, there's a bigger problem here than just sex.

 

[Adakgirl]

Sounds to me like if you wanna get fucked then you'll have to get over being grossed out and go with whatever gets him to fuck you. You can use his fetish as a tool to manipulate him into getting what you want from him.

"I'll wear filthy socks for you if you do this and that for me" type of thing. "I'll use my filthy dirty socks to gag you with while you fuck me from behind real hard like I like it, if you wanna baby" or

"I'll put a dirty socks on my feet and let you fuck them tonight if you fuck me how I want you to tomorrow"

But realistically, if that's the only way he can get it up, and it grosses you out and you are unhappy with your sex life with him, then kick his ass to the curb. He's not worth it if he won't put any effort into pleasing you and his only concern is getting his nut off in his own way. Fuck that shit, it won't get better.

 

[MaleThonger]

Gotta agree with the group here. I'm all for people having certain things that really get them off, but if you are that repulsed by it, you damn well better be getting some in return. (but make him give it to you first. Maybe even teasing. "fuck me harder baby, and I'll put those dirty socks on... oooooh you gotta fuck me harder than that!" That kind of thing...

If in the end, he doesnt want to fuck you, just obessess over your feet, then I would say you have to go elsewhere to get fucked. Either with his permission by redrawing the boundries of your relationship, or without permission and having affairs, or getting rid of him altogether.

Just my two cents...

 

[viper2000]

I think he and you should combine the two but i see your point maybe he could tone it done for you whilst turning his fucking up a bit. Communication is the key on this.

 

[Vixandra]

Sounds to me like you have a severe incompatibility issue working here.

He needs dirty clad feet to get it up.
You just want (need) be made love to/fucked/insert sex type here.

Some things can be worked around, like if his favorite sex style was doggy and yours was woman on top. But for him to have such a distinctive kink that isn't one you share that he can't work around, well that's very tough to live with.

I'd recommend sitting him down in a non-sex environment and having a very frank discussion about your sexual compatibility. A compromise is possible, so try for it if the other aspects of your relationship work well. If you're drowning in other problems, its okay to let this be the straw that broke the camels back and end things. Life is far to short to not have your needs met.

 

[insert____here]

as a neat compromise....

wear your icky stocking socks to bed, get him to fuck you with your legs up in the air so he can play wth your feet at the same time...

it's not a permanent solution, but it'll provide a stop gap while you two sort your issues out.

 

[kimkgrove]

I agree with Vixandra. You also mentioned him sleeping for 12 hours. It sounds, just from what you've said, that things aren't going well.

So if it were my situation, i would weigh the +'s against the -'s and make a decision on if it's worth sticking around. Me and my man have gone through a few rough periods where we argued a lot but the sex was always great, no matter what we were fighting about.

Good luck to you.

 

[Mesachie]

Like adakgirls says, look at moving on. If you won't make him happy, I'm no sure he has some sort of obligation to keep you happy either. But the bottom line is you are both not getting what it is you want.

You can talk about it with him and if you are a couple committed to making it work, both of you will try to find a solution for the other. If you are not a committed couple, then do each other a favor, quit pointing fingers and start sorting out your stuff.

 

[mrtbear1956]

Hi

Iagee with them , work it out or move on , i have sex pro, but i 53 and not in best helth , ed, and blood suger high . and wife not in good heath too, but i make by, going to try a freind if can find right one soon , and see if it me or her, sex only . you may have to do that, or put your foot down hard , no feet for you , no sex for me , give me sex ,you get feet , take or leave it. let me know how it goes , ,karl

 

[GrnEyedGrl]

I was thinking about my response after I posted it. It was based on the 'fact' that if you're (generic 'you') in a relationship that you're intimate with someone, it should be important to both parties that both of you take pleasure in your sex life.

If he doesn't care whether you're getting pleasure from your sex life, in my mind, there's a bigger problem here than just sex.

Ditto. There are plenty of men out there that are more into pussy than feet. Find you one and get fucked like you've never been fucked before. You deserve it

 

[mentionME]

this is not a situation that occurs early in a relationship so i'm wondering ...how long has he been anti-sex? pro-foot?

 

[insert____here]

uhh, i just had a thought...and shoot me down if you want, but has your need for sex increased directly with his need for your feet and refusal to have sex??

if so, that may an area worth exploring

 

[human_male]

It sounds like you're totally incompatible with each other. People have suggested that you compromise, but if all he's interested in is his fetish and nothing else, and he's not prepared to make any effort to give you what you need, and his fetish literally grosses you out then it sounds like you're at an impass. I don't think you should have to indulge him in something that you find so distasteful just to bribe your husband/boyfriend into having sex with you.

How are other aspects of the relationship? Is there warmth and closeness and affection and stuff like that? If not then I personally would ask myself if I wanted to spend the rest of my life like that.

 

[Hiliburn]

I haven't been in quite that position but sex is a typically hot button issue with most couples. I have been arguing about sex for nearly 10 years, but have no desire to leave my hubby. It is a give and take. He gets off on things I don't particuarly like and vice versa. I make the decision to get him off like he wants so I can get what I want later. We are slowly evolving into anal- his dream- but I love the man, so I am 'trying'. And with love he is more willing to fuck me like I like. So really the question is how important is this person to you? If not very, move on. If he is, compromise.

 

[subwannabe]

You probably don't want to hear this but you only have two solutions:

1. Get used to wearing smelly socks

2. Find a different SO