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S-Des

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I've become a fan of the radio show Love Line again after an absence of several years. It's a non-judgemental show dealing with sex, both for safety and for enjoyment. I've been quite interested to hear the Doctor (I'm assuming he's as qualified as he says he is) talk about a wide variety of subjects ranging from physiological to mental health. There have been so many stories that most of us have stumbled across with sexual claims that make us :rolleyes: or :D out loud.

One subject I have been particularly interested in is multiple/G-spot orgasms. It's interesting to hear people who've discovered the ability to have or to cause them try to tell others what they need to do. What I've heard over and over from the show is much different, that it is as simple as most women are not wired that way and are incapable of such orgasms (one immediately after the other until she is so tired she can't continue). I was wondering what things men and women around here have discovered through personal experience or research for stories. Which are universal truths, and which are just as much misconceptions as when our parents told us that babies came from the stork (yes, I'm that old :p ).

I happened to call the show to ask about a subject Kiten and I have dealt with, her fondness for anal sex, but the difficulty she experiences with pain the next day or so afterwards. On our second weekend together, I tried a different position (for no reason other than it looked sexy) and she was shocked to find that she felt no residual pain for the first time. I was curious if there was a way to tell what other positions that might be equally pain-free, since we don't have much time together to experiment. Halfway through my question, Dr. Drew interrupted and guessed exactly what her position was (all the way down to which side she laid on). Turns out, through dumb luck I stumbled on the position doctor's prefer for their patients.

So if you have an issue with anal sex, the woman on her left side, with her left leg straight & right leg bent, is a position you should try (at least that's what he told me :eek: ). Have others here found that as well? What other things have you found work for you that you believe should work for everyone? Or even what myths you have discovered through your experience.

BTW, we've also found that pineapple/tropical fruit for 24-36 hours before makes things much more pleasant for giving oral pleasure (for both of us).
 
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I think the pain comes from clenching (on her part).

If she has both legs beneath her, either doggie or her astride, it's easier to clench those muscles during orgasm - and she wouldn't be aware of the pain until later.

So having her on her side, with one leg stretched, one bent, is a terrific way to eliminate that.

Good show, it seems. Is it syndicated to Kansas? (No - what am I SAYING???)

:rolleyes:
 
sweetsubsarahh said:
If she has both legs beneath her, either doggie or her astride, it's easier to clench those muscles during orgasm - and she wouldn't be aware of the pain until later.

So having her on her side, with one leg stretched, one bent, is a terrific way to eliminate that.

Actually it is not the "anal" area that hurts afterwards. I wind up with a "bellyache". We're talking sharp stabbing pains in my abdomen... :confused:
 
kiten69 said:
Actually it is not the "anal" area that hurts afterwards. I wind up with a "bellyache". We're talking sharp stabbing pains in my abdomen... :confused:

But not if you lay on your left side?

So it has something to do with Des, then. Angles and penetrations and such?

Glad you talked to the doc.

;)
 
sweetsubsarahh said:
But not if you lay on your left side?

So it has something to do with Des, then. Angles and penetrations and such?

Left side, left leg straight, right leg bent...WOOHOO!! No pain at all!! :nana:

*snicker* It may come from the way Mr. Happy bends to the left. :cool:
 
kiten69 said:
Left side, left leg straight, right leg bent...WOOHOO!! No pain at all!! :nana:

*snicker* It may come from the way Mr. Happy bends to the left. :cool:

I didn't want to go there.

:cathappy:
 
He really is a doctor.. I can't remember what kind though, LOL.
I used to watch that show all the time. It was interesting. That's neat that ya called and even better that you got advice. :)
Dr. Drew also runs a rehab facility in California (I think) hell, I don't remember. Anyhow, he wrote a book called 'Cracked' - very good book, btw- about drug addiction. The book deals with his day to day cases of patients in rehab. The studies of how the brain and addiction come together.
Anyway, when I got the book I thought his name sounded familiar... and he talks about his show a little in the book. It's nifty.

I'm rambling. I've had way too much coffee. :D

And yes, laying on the side for anal sex works much better.
Doggy-style for that isn't all that its cracked up to be, LOL. :p
 
EmeraldKitten said:
And yes, laying on the side for anal sex works much better.
Doggy-style for that isn't all that its cracked up to be, LOL. :p

Oh, now I don't know about THAT!

:D

(Me like doggie style for lots of things. Ahem.)
 
sweetsubsarahh said:
Oh, now I don't know about THAT!

:D

(Me like doggie style for lots of things. Ahem.)

I can see the appeal of doggie for anal, but I just can't do it...well I can, but I pay for it for the next few days. :(

It's a fun position indeed, specially with that lil bend he has...*snicker*...he hits all the "right" places. :D
 
EmeraldKitten said:
He really is a doctor.. I can't remember what kind though, LOL.
I used to watch that show all the time. It was interesting. That's neat that ya called and even better that you got advice. :)
Dr. Drew also runs a rehab facility in California (I think) hell, I don't remember. Anyhow, he wrote a book called 'Cracked' - very good book, btw- about drug addiction. The book deals with his day to day cases of patients in rehab. The studies of how the brain and addiction come together.
Anyway, when I got the book I thought his name sounded familiar... and he talks about his show a little in the book. It's nifty.

I'm rambling. I've had way too much coffee. :D

And yes, laying on the side for anal sex works much better.
Doggy-style for that isn't all that its cracked up to be, LOL. :p

He's a psychiatrist with specialty in addictions. He also had the Lovelines show on MTV in the mid-late 90s co-hosted by Adam Corolla. Good show.
 
rgraham666 said:
(Said in a squeaky, slurry voice) I'm fine. ;)

Cool.

:cathappy:

(edited to add: Said while walking away, hips swishing, looking over my shoulder at you with a serious grin.)
 
sweetsubsarahh said:
Cool.

:cathappy:

(edited to add: Said while walking away, hips swishing, looking over my shoulder at you with a serious grin.)

Sproing! You know what that does to me.

Now I'll take Fool's advice.

Get back here so I can worship that lovely ass properly. :devil:
 
rgraham666 said:
Sproing! You know what that does to me.

Now I'll take Fool's advice.

Get back here so I can worship that lovely ass properly. :devil:

[THREADJACK]

Anything you say, Rob. :kiss: :kiss: :kiss:

[/THREADJACK]
 
sweetsubsarahh said:
Good show, it seems. Is it syndicated to Kansas? (No - what am I SAYING???)

:rolleyes:
They run it at midnight so they can discuss anything without FCC problems. It's a good show for kids (they get a lot of callers 15-20), because they get real information without any encouragement or discouragement. They play up the naughtiness a bit, but it's fairly clinical (except for the guest stars they bring in, who are always in the gutter). I liked being able to talk to someone who had heard all this stuff before. I wonder if I asked that question to a normal doctor if he'd know the answer (or would give me good advice if he didn't)?

Anyone else have any random knowledge they'd like to share? I remember a lot of good pointers on a sex thread a while back, but can't remember the name. Imp told me something really cool to try when we were at the Lit-together. I'd love to share (she's got a great mind :heart: ), but I want to surprise Kiten with it the next time she's in town. It sounds like it'll be quite fun. :nana:
 
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TheeGoatPig said:
I may as well be a virgin at this point in my life :(
I went through a long dry spell myself. Luckily, I used the time wisely. I worried that I'd be out of practice, but all the stuff I read, listened to, saw, etc... helped me be a much better lover. You'll get there, buddy. Just don't give up.
 
S-Des said:
Imp told me something really cool to try when we were at the Lit-together. I'd love to share (she's got a great mind :heart: ), but I want to surprise Kiten with it the next time she's in town. It sounds like it'll be quite fun. :nana:

Weren't you supposed to do that last time I was up there? *raises eyebrow* :catroar:
 
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