Sex drive

[Easyvirtue]

How do you, how am I, supposed to handle an aggressive sex drive vs my wife’s lack there of. She doesn’t like sexy texting, she doesn’t like me talking dirty during sex or trying new and adventurous ways of love making. How has anyone gotten past these differences in their relationships?

 

[Crownvic]

How do you, how am I, supposed to handle an aggressive sex drive vs my wife’s lack there of. She doesn’t like sexy texting, she doesn’t like me talking dirty during sex or trying new and adventurous ways of love making. How has anyone gotten past these differences in their relationships?

Found someone that does enjoy it....been there!

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

How do you, how am I, supposed to handle an aggressive sex drive vs my wife’s lack there of. She doesn’t like sexy texting, she doesn’t like me talking dirty during sex or trying new and adventurous ways of love making. How has anyone gotten past these differences in their relationships?

S-L-O-W-L-Y

in some instances like mine, painfully slow.


Start by touching her like you trying to unwrap an explosive device
that you didn't build and don't want to explode.

AFTER SHE GET'S USED TO THAT...

come back and I'll tell you the rest.

 

[hulmule]

Same boat as you and a lot of others on Lit- male or female. Not sure ,tried like the other said, get a slow burn going. But my wife is in menopause , takes depression meds so i have a tuff road. No drive at all. Unlike me, wake up daily with wood. Good luck my friend

 

[jckontharocks]

How do you, how am I, supposed to handle an aggressive sex drive vs my wife’s lack there of. She doesn’t like sexy texting, she doesn’t like me talking dirty during sex or trying new and adventurous ways of love making. How has anyone gotten past these differences in their relationships?

What is your home situation?
Kids?
Your age?

 

[foxtrot963]

Wish I could help. My wife had breast cancer over 3 years ago, she recovered fine but lost all her drive. The only sex I've had in since then has been with myself. Good luck.

 

[Easyvirtue]

What is your home situation?
Kids?
Your age?

Married 18 years, 1 son in high school. I’m 48 and highly aroused constantly.

 

[jckontharocks]

Married 18 years, 1 son in high school. I’m 48 and highly aroused constantly.

We had tons of luck sharing a book together. Recommend 5 love languages.

How often do you cook, dishes, take over what she's doing to get her off her feet? Without being asked.

 

[FL30]

How do you, how am I, supposed to handle an aggressive sex drive vs my wife’s lack there of. She doesn’t like sexy texting, she doesn’t like me talking dirty during sex or trying new and adventurous ways of love making. How has anyone gotten past these differences in their relationships?

divorce, you married wrong

should have gone for a test drive with her before marriage

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

divorce, you married wrong

should have gone for a test drive with her before marriage

test drives don't mean shit...
especially when the only thing you can ALWAYS count on
is her changing her mind.

 

[Maleboobs]

How do you, how am I, supposed to handle an aggressive sex drive vs my wife’s lack there of. She doesn’t like sexy texting, she doesn’t like me talking dirty during sex or trying new and adventurous ways of love making. How has anyone gotten past these differences in their relationships?

Unfortunately not really...my wife isn't into erotic stories, not into my breast fantasies, let alone into my secret dreams of her slowly beginning to adore my breasts, nothing of that...just ordinary straight sex (once in a while)...a pity to waste all my erotic dreams and fantasies...

 

[PEAKER44]

It’s the main reason I’m on these kinda sites. Wife has slightly more than no sex drive. Once a week if I’m lucky & one way only. She will let me take some pics but that’s the extent of her adventurous side.

 

[Escierto]

You probably need to go gay, dude, and start sucking some cock.

 

[Saintdragonslayer]

test drives don't mean shit...
especially when the only thing you can ALWAYS count on
is her changing her mind.

Aint that the truth!

 

[Xxxmmmxxx47]

:-/

Will she let you have a phone friend? If she doesn’t want to play is it ok if you at least get to be satisfied in other ways?

I couldn’t imagine being with someone who doesn’t understand my sex drive… but my relationships dont last long, I usually wear their dicks out in a matter of months…

 

[mustang_driver]

How do you, how am I, supposed to handle an aggressive sex drive vs my wife’s lack there of. She doesn’t like sexy texting, she doesn’t like me talking dirty during sex or trying new and adventurous ways of love making. How has anyone gotten past these differences in their relationships?

My wife and I were the same way. I tried to push my way and we needed up not having sex for more than 8 years. We are having sex again, but I had to change my expectations and stifle those types of desires.

 

[mustang_driver]

We had tons of luck sharing a book together. Recommend 5 love languages.

How often do you cook, dishes, take over what she's doing to get her off her feet? Without being asked.

That's the book that led to us having sex again after 8 years without.

 

[Sex_Crazed]

How do you, how am I, supposed to handle an aggressive sex drive vs my wife’s lack there of. She doesn’t like sexy texting, she doesn’t like me talking dirty during sex or trying new and adventurous ways of love making. How has anyone gotten past these differences in their relationships?

There could be a host of different reasons for the loss. Best thing to do is for the 2 of you talk to doctor. Hopefully she would be willing.

 

[dannyboy1958]

sex drive

talk and take it slowly, ive been in a similar situation, wifes had cancer and really put a stop on things, with deformed boobs caused by aggressive surgery, she lost all confidence in her looks, that slowly took its toll ad from 3-4 times a eek, its now 1-2 per month - ive tried films, erotic stories, small dirty talk and flat out lets take on lovers. much of it caused damage and she retreated even further back.
so i tried compliments from me, than compliments via me, from people i know but she hasnt met yet. then playing on her like, she bi curios, so again remarking on how that lady that just passed us, smiled at you, she was hot!
Ive noticed that shes beginning to warm, even dressing a little more provocatively, but its a slow process but i love challenge and im determined to see it through and get back to what we had before and maybe fulfill my fantasies, of which i have many
good luck

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

It’s the main reason I’m on these kinda sites. Wife has slightly more than no sex drive. Once a week if I’m lucky & one way only. She will let me take some pics but that’s the extent of her adventurous side.

maaaan, you doing better than me...at least you get to take pictures.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

Will she let you have a phone friend? If she doesn’t want to play is it ok if you at least get to be satisfied in other ways?

I couldn’t imagine being with someone who doesn’t understand my sex drive… but my relationships dont last long, I usually wear their dicks out in a matter of months…

I find it hard to believe that you "wear their dicks out in a matter of months...", because --, well mostly becuz I've never met anyone man or woman where their s/o has ever said, I gotta rid of this person they just wearing my sex drive out. Never in the 55 plus years I been having sex or a reasonable facsimile thereof, have I ever heard that complaint or that brag.

 

[StrongMaster7]

Same situation here. I agree that it's not your fault. I had a five year 'test drive' where there was sex every night we were together and sometimes the next morning. There was oral and the promise of a little back-door action, toys, sexy undies, etc.

Then we got married.

Once a week, if I'm lucky. Eleven minutes. Very limited menu.

After 30 years of marriage, when the kids were gone, it began to get a little better. Very slowly, very, very slowly. It does help to do chores and surprise her with flowers and treat her well. And then try to find a way to ask for a little of what you want. And if she says 'no', ask her what she thinks most men would do it such a situation. She may say yes to a little bit of something. Inch by inch the tallest tree does grow.

 

[Easyvirtue]

Same situation here. I agree that it's not your fault. I had a five year 'test drive' where there was sex every night we were together and sometimes the next morning. There was oral and the promise of a little back-door action, toys, sexy undies, etc.

Then we got married.

Once a week, if I'm lucky. Eleven minutes. Very limited menu.

After 30 years of marriage, when the kids were gone, it began to get a little better. Very slowly, very, very slowly. It does help to do chores and surprise her with flowers and treat her well. And then try to find a way to ask for a little of what you want. And if she says 'no', ask her what she thinks most men would do it such a situation. She may say yes to a little bit of something. Inch by inch the tallest tree does grow.

I mean it’s getting a lil better BUT, I want more oral, licking her pussy, I want some kinky shit, I want more than missionary, I want to get freaky