pplwatching
Full grown man
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- Jul 4, 2003
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I'm both a huge fan of sex and a huge fan of marriage. In the many years I've been hanging around Lit, a common topic is "She/he did {whatever it was} before we got married, but no more." Sometimes the tone is light, other times it seems that if the poster had known what was in store they wouldn't have gotten married in the first place. It's not uncommon to see replies posted about feeling obligated before marriage and so on.
How do you feel about the role of sex in choosing a husband/wife/life partner? Is the quality of sex is either a criteria for marriage? Are changes in sex after marriage a deal breaker? I'd like to hear why.
Based on personal experience I wouldn't take the quality of sex before marriage as any indicator of sex after marriage, especially after kids and the other stresses of marriage come along. I'm not advocating abstinance before marriage. My wife was not the first woman that I had sex with. I just don't think that the quality/quantity of our sex was the basis for our marriage.
How do you feel about the role of sex in choosing a husband/wife/life partner? Is the quality of sex is either a criteria for marriage? Are changes in sex after marriage a deal breaker? I'd like to hear why.
Based on personal experience I wouldn't take the quality of sex before marriage as any indicator of sex after marriage, especially after kids and the other stresses of marriage come along. I'm not advocating abstinance before marriage. My wife was not the first woman that I had sex with. I just don't think that the quality/quantity of our sex was the basis for our marriage.