Sensual Sadists, Daddy Doms, and... Knights in Domly Armor?

[NemoAlia]

It seems like the field of Domination is increasingly splintering into specializations. (See the title of this thread for a witty list.) But you know what I mean. Dom/mes who only spank for punishment, Dom/mes who like to tie you up and tease you with three kinds of feathers... but do you know what's been kinda driving me nuts lately? Those Dom/mes who can only assert their dominance if their subs are "inferior" to them to start off with.

God help you if you're a sub who has a good education, likes his/her job, and doesn't need to quit sharecropping and move in with a rescuer. Because you're obviously not submissive.

Unless you come with a recent severe breakup or some mental illness. Those might be mitigating enough to earn you the attention of a Knight in Domly Armor.

Hm, should this have been part of the rant thread?

 

[pandoravampire]

'should this be part of a rant thread?"

Yep.

Stop hanging around with kids lol try the grown up versions lol.

Seriously, im well aware of what you are talking about, but its not just dominants. Resquers come in vanilla frames of life too. And good job too, coz there's a lot of people who need them.

As long as there are victims in life, there will be a need for rescuers. And the two go together like red wine and cheese. Perfect.

Doesnt sound like this is the type of dominant that you seek though. Look at what it is you dont need from a Dom, look at what you do need?

But for the vertibrates amoungst us submissives, there are some dominants who seek not to resque, but to nurture, or those that like to challenge us, keep us on our toes. Those that like to make us dance as fast as we can, but still they remain one step ahead, delicious!

There are plenty to go around, something for everyone. Patience is a virtue you can learn whilst you wait for the wankers to get out your god damn way so you can see the right one come along.

And sometimes, your so defended and independant, you can miss real gold mines slipping right past your nose

 

[ThorkelGriersen]

Diminished Expectations?

'should this be part of a rant thread?"

Yep.

Stop hanging around with kids lol try the grown up versions lol.

Seriously, im well aware of what you are talking about, but its not just dominants. Resquers come in vanilla frames of life too. And good job too, coz there's a lot of people who need them.

As long as there are victims in life, there will be a need for rescuers. And the two go together like red wine and cheese. Perfect.

Doesnt sound like this is the type of dominant that you seek though. Look at what it is you dont need from a Dom, look at what you do need?

But for the vertibrates amoungst us submissives, there are some dominants who seek not to resque, but to nurture, or those that like to challenge us, keep us on our toes. Those that like to make us dance as fast as we can, but still they remain one step ahead, delicious!

There are plenty to go around, something for everyone. Patience is a virtue you can learn whilst you wait for the wankers to get out your god damn way so you can see the right one come along.

And sometimes, your so defended and independant, you can miss real gold mines slipping right past your nose

Well said.

Of course, the problem is the smarter and more succesful one is the smaller the field. Patience is the key. It gets difficult but compromises usually cost more than they are worth. If you could pay only once....? Accepting less than you need and deserve really is a bargin with the devil and the payments never end.

 

[catalina_francisco]

And then of course, there are other ways to see it also. I don't know how many subs/slaves I have heard here and elsewhere, who prefer to promote themselves as being inferior, not wanting to have a thought or decision or task, wanting to be looked down on, and even more so those wanting to be 'taken care of' because they are too submissive to take care of themselves or be trusted to keep themselves safe. It goes both ways, which makes one wonder then why like types do not team up with each other instead of often banging their heads against virtual brick walls trying to convince opposites to be who they would like them to be.

Catalina

 

[ppaddleman]

sub problem normally

My experience is that, on the few occasions this occurs it's a sub problem. ie A few subs who have a problem with doms who aren't more successful than they are.

And, of course, this happens in the vanillia world too.

All a ture dom requires is a sub who is submissive.

 

[JupitersGirl]

My experience is that, on the few occasions this occurs it's a sub problem. ie A few subs who have a problem with doms who aren't more successful than they are.

And, of course, this happens in the vanillia world too.

All a ture dom requires is a sub who is submissive.

ok

 

[FurryFury]

Okay, I believe, from my own experiences, that most men have a "knight in shinnying armor" inside them. Some have tried to play this role and learned that the "damsel in distress" will often simply keep remaking her "comfort zone," and in fact can't be rescued at all. She will just use the knight until he is broken and all worn out. (This can and does happen with the sexes reversed.)

Now, personally, I need and want no rescue. I'm much more likely to do the rescuing but only if they really want their lives to change and will let me gently guide them whilst thinking it's all their idea. (This is subtle and delicate manipulation when done right folks.)

However I have NO doubt I would quite enjoy a sensual sadist, and a Daddy Dom. I find these arch types delicious but any Dom who is experienced, respectful, secure and caring would be on my short list of yum.

The Doms that don't have "it" reveal themselves pretty fucking fast. They go on another of my lists, at the bottom.

Fury