Sensual Domination!

[Betticus]

I was a bit disturbed by someones comment about guys pretending to be Doms. A guy that uses fluff and silk to bring his submissive to him. Setting her up for a rude awakening. I am sure that this happens just as I'm sure there are predators posing as Masters/Mistresses and Dom/mes.

There are people in this world that can crush another person just with a look. A word. Their psychological hold upon another is so strong that just the hint of disappointing them hurts.

Not all implements of pain are tangible. Not all whips are leather.

The tools you use to get into another persons mind may suit your personality. You may need to use the canes and the whips and the humiliation. Don't assume that because I don't that I do not genuinely posess a Dominant personality type.

I will try to understand and accept your use of physical tools to Dominate if you will attempt to understand my ability to use my mind to accomplish the same thing.

 

[rosco rathbone]

So, what's in _your_ toybag, betticus?

 

[Betticus]

So, what's in _your_ toybag, betticus?

Shhh...

 

[fallon2]

Yep!

You are right about imposters. I have been told there are quite a few of them out there. The best that we can do is answer questions honestly and make sure we encourage others to read all posts.

 

[graceanne]

There's an article called the acid test, it's on the sub retreat, and it deals with ways to detect imposters. Here's the link:

http://sub-retreat.markandelle.com/memory/acidtest.html

It was really cool. You should check it out.

 

[Betticus]

Reading. Thanks for the link.

It may not be exactly germaine to my message but since there is such a proliferation of posers let's duscuss the problem.

 

[graceanne]

I know it's not exactly what you're talking about, and I for one, acknowledge that there are other ways to dominate that don't involve pain, and that not all dom's are into giving pain. But it does bring up the issue of posers.

 

[Betticus]

I know it's not exactly what you're talking about, and I for one, acknowledge that there are other ways to dominate that don't involve pain, and that not all dom's are into giving pain. But it does bring up the issue of posers.

I see what you mean. I almost perfectly fit the control freak description. That is kind of unflattering.

 

[graceanne]

Well there's a lot in that essay that could be taken exception to. But the rules about watching out for certain people, like rapists and stuff, was pretty cool. I liked where he said to be careful of men who think that you should respect them just cause they say that they're dom's. Respect is earned, not a given.

 

[fallon2]

Seriously

that is a great link and ALL people who visit Lit should read it, seriously!

Thanks graceanne for sharing it! Seriously!

 

[Kajira Callista]

http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/net_idiots.php3

 

[Betticus]

That was a great link. I agree with Fallon on that. Thanks for posting it.

 

[graceanne]

Re: Seriously

that is a great link and ALL people who visit Lit should read it, seriously!

Thanks graceanne for sharing it! Seriously!

Your welcome. I stumbled on it once when I was surfing, and really liked it. It gave me some sturdy ground to stand on, so that I was comfortable posting in groups like this.

 

[graceanne]

http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/net_idiots.php3

LOL I loved that! It was good and funny.

 

[barcaboy]

KC - hilarious!

It is good to laugh. ("Ho Ho Ho" - Green Giant).

 

[Kajira Callista]

 

[Safphyre]

Thank you for those links, KC and grace

 

[Betticus]

You girls, incorrigible...

 

[Kajira Callista]

You girls, incorrigible...

would you want us any other way darling?

 

[graceanne]

Thank you for those links, KC and grace

 

[ethereal~minx]

"A Victim is just that; a victim of physical and or mental abuse that uses D/s as an excuse to continue denying the reality of her tragic situation. These people are disturbingly common as well. "



this is scary, sad & true. Responsibility may be our own but then there is this thing called denial...
thank you~

 

[Kajira Callista]

http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/Lifestyle/online_predators.htm

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

Well, I'm just dropping in to say that there are many who practice D/s without the S/M. Not too many around here, it may seem, but I've known quite a few kinksters like that. So don't feel like you're all alone, Betticus.

 

[Betticus]

Well, I'm just dropping in to say that there are many who practice D/s without the S/M. Not too many around here, it may seem, but I've known quite a few kinksters like that. So don't feel like you're all alone, Betticus.

I'm trying to not feel left out. I'm suspecting that there more like me that are lurking about but just aren't posting.

 

[InnerDarkness]

http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/net_idiots.php3

I just read through this and was giggling almost uncontrollably!

Question: will anyone admit to ever doing these things when they first began exploring this lifestyle?

I remember when I was in college, I explored the #Bondage channel on IRC (or a similar one) and I wonder now if I had ever said anything similar or behaved in any of those ways...at the time I didn't even know what the hell they meant when they talked about collars and such...I just knew I was excited!

anyone else?