Sensory Depravation?

[Twenty2INM]

So, I've been seeing this girl. I'm totally crazy about her, which is great. One problem. We're both somewhat inexperienced in regards to certain sexual things. Such as bondage. Well, while trying some things out we found she's VERY responsive to it. She was blindfolded and her hands were tied. Part of it seemed that she had to concentrate on where she was being touched. So, my question is in regards to tips and help. And how to broach certain things with her. Of note should be she wishes to wait until marriage for ACTUAL sex. This is still very good for her though. THanks for any help i get.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I really like sensory deprivation. Master has gone as far as to bind me, blindfold me and also muffle my hearing so that I'm completely unprepared for whatever he does. Obviously this requires a lot of trust and some people might freak out under similar circumstances.

He uses ice, clips and clamps, tingly stuff like soda etc. He also enjoys using ginger, which give a mild hot sensation. Possibilities are endless really.

If you're interested in BDSM, you might want to repost this over there for a different flavour of responses.

Enjoy what you do.

 

[desertslave]

For absolute starting out, there are a lot of fun, non-threatening things to do, just to amp up other senses.

Instead of all out bondage, find a pair of inexpensive gloves or mittens and stitch them together, palms facing. Have her put them on and just ask her to keep them on. You can do the same thing with a pair of ankle-high socks, on the inside edges. Use a scarf or sleep mask as a blindfold, and a pair of drugstore earplugs (the foamy ones).

Have a quiet room or play soft instrumental music very low. Then the fun begins.

Velvet's suggestions are great, though you might want to ramp up slowly to something like clamps. But there are other ways to play with her remaining senses. Get fruits or juices and drip them intermittently on her lips. If she's lying down, use care not to choke her, just a few drops to wet her lips. Use ice water on either pair of lips, if you have access. Alternate with very warm water, or a smooth object that's been warmed (maybe a vibe that you've held under your arm for a few minutes, or even the back of a spoon). Use a fuzzy sweater or a silky necktie; a piece of medium-fine sandpaper and a plastic bag. The possibilities for varying textures are all around you!

Depending on how you define 'actual sex' you can use your fingers or your cock to touch her, as well. Just work your way around her body and surprise her. Keep her guessing about where you'll touch her next.

Have fun!

 

[infinity706]

I really like sensory deprivation. Master has gone as far as to bind me, blindfold me and also muffle my hearing so that I'm completely unprepared for whatever he does. Obviously this requires a lot of trust and some people might freak out under similar circumstances.

He uses ice, clips and clamps, tingly stuff like soda etc. He also enjoys using ginger, which give a mild hot sensation. Possibilities are endless really.

If you're interested in BDSM, you might want to repost this over there for a different flavour of responses.

Enjoy what you do.

Well, if you're not worried about the possiblity of minor burns, you could try cinnamon, too.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Well, if you're not worried about the possiblity of minor burns, you could try cinnamon, too.

Hmm. Burns are generally not fun. Ginger is though. Master sometimes liquidises it and freezes it in ice cubes to give me a hot/cold sensation that's very intense.

Not so hot when you accidentally put it in a drink though.

 

[desertslave]

Not to derail the thread, but try mint iced tea with just a touch of ginger juice & honey sometime. It's an old Middle-Eastern drink, very cooling on a hot day. Yum!

 

[Twenty2INM]

Wow. First off, Thanks. Secondly, I'm going to a hardware store and getting some sand paper . Now, I doubt I'll have time before our next....encounter but how does one do the liquidized ginger? Because ice cubes have done wonders but spICE cubes sound interesting. One thing that did work well was some sparkling apple cider i had on hand. As far as the only really inventive thing i did was after making her guess where my touch would be next, I left one hand in a spot for a while and touched other areas with the other. After several minutes I removed my hand and didn't touch her for a while. She writhed from this.
Anything else from the very helpful crowd?

 

[desertslave]

Shred or finely chop some ginger (maybe 1" of a root) and simmer it in just a few tablespoons of boiling water. Strain off the liquid and you've got yourself some ginger juice.

Just peel a piece of root and apply briefly to mucus membranes for a more intense effect.

 

[WriterDom]

Ear plugs are a nice touch to go along with a blindfold.

 

[simplegirl]

I would also introduce a safe word. When you're looking at sensory deprivation, as Velvet said, it can pretty intense. A safe word is a word she can use if things get to be too much, she's getting freaked out and she wants the activity to stop *immediately*. She may never need to use it, but best to be safe than sorry.

hmm...some other sensory things.... a feather or feather duster. warming massage oil. you can make a flogger out of super-soft nylon rope (doesn't hurt or leave lasting marks, just gives a nice little sting. the super soft texture feels divine when it's just trailed along your body too. mmmm) And don't forget the many talents of your lips and tongue too!