Seducing a kinky cancer - astrology minded

[stutterclutter]

I have a first time play date with a submissive Cancer female, and I'm wondering if anyone has any tips. I do take astrology with a grain of salt, but I find there to be some truth at times when it comes to sensitive spots on the body, and perhaps the type of kinks which they might be more responsive too.

We've established she enjoys rough sex, and likes to be surprised. I'm betting there are a number of you who have had experience with or are of this particular sign, and might find it fun to toss out suggestions for BDSM scenarios between new partners, and other techniquesgeared towards her sign to give her the fuck of the century.

 

[Netzach]

M is a cancer, and his personality is it to a T.

I dunno about your girl, but "making him feel safe and comfortable enough to be put into discomfort" is something I have to spend a lot of time on. If I do, I get back all what I put in and more, but I've never had to spend as much time on that with anyone else.

 

[Fuckette]

Cancer is submissive by nature. The breasts and upper torso good spot for Cancer.
Remember Cancer is a sensitive sign

What sign are you?

 

[Caitlynne]

M is a cancer, and his personality is it to a T.

I dunno about your girl, but "making him feel safe and comfortable enough to be put into discomfort" is something I have to spend a lot of time on. If I do, I get back all what I put in and more, but I've never had to spend as much time on that with anyone else.

Yes. This is one of the major things you have to do with a Cancer. Make them feel safe and secure. That's their primary issue. If you build trust, then they are loyal to a fault. They will metaphorically [and sometimes literally] die for anyone they love. They are strong minded and independent, so their submission can be powerful when they give it.

They sometimes get a bad reputation because of their emotional nature, but they are a Cardinal sign [begins summer], and therefore are emotionally strong, using that strength as easily as others breathe. When everyone else is panicking and emotionally overwhelmed, a Cancer can step in and calm things down. They are moody but seem to possess an inner emotional strength. What we see can look to be overly emotional, but to a Cancer it's just a simple expression of feeling. I've never seen a sign more comfortable with expressions of emotion, nor a sign that could shut it off and withdraw faster when they feel threatened or insecure.

But the key to intimate and/or kinky relationships is trust, and I mean that in more than the usual yeah yeah yeah you have to build trust. Providing a safe and secure environment is essential to obtaining the love and/or submission of a Cancer.

 

[Caitlynne]

Cancer is submissive by nature.

Actually, no they are not submissive by nature. They are certainly emotional by nature, but not necessarily submissive.

Cancer is a Cardinal sign and initiates one of the seasons. ALL Cardinal signs are aggressive by virtue of their placement and because they begin new seasons. That's not to say that Cardinal signs can't be submissive, but generally speaking, Cardinal signs are aggressive not passive.

It's a general misunderstanding that Cancer's are naturally submissive because of their nurturing and emotional nature, but it's better to think of Cancer's in terms of a mother lion nurturing her cubs. She's purring like a cat when they are safe, but threaten her cubs and you'll see just how deadly a Cancer can be. That's an over simplification of a Cancer's nature, but I'm on limited time right now.

Again, that's not to say Cancer's aren't submissive, because they can be. In fact because of their devotion, they can make a really good submissive. It's just not necessarily their nature by virtue of their sun sign alone.

I'm not sure you can quantify a sign as to Dominant or submissive characteristics. Aries is considered a strong and dominating sign and I know many Aries' who are submissive. Virgo is a more passive sign, and yet almost all of the Dominants I've known personally were Virgo's.

If anything, the sign will dictate what kind of submissive or Dominant a person is. A Virgo that is a Dominant will be into the precision stuff--bondage, etc., and an Aries submissive will be what we used to call around here 'A warrior submissive'. They submit the way a solider submits to a commanding officer.

The sign will dictate the manner in which these things manifest, but I'm not sure it has anything to do with the preference -- one way or the other. Not to get too overly analytical here, but you'd have to look at the relationships between Venus and Mars in relationship to Pluto in a chart to find kink tendencies [and maybe the Moon sign--maybe??]. Control and power are ruled by Saturn, so that planet would play into this as well. You can look at a chart and find D/s qualities, but not just to the sun sign.

 

[BiBunny]

Cancer is submissive by nature.

Hahahahaha! Bullshit.

The only Cancer I've ever been with was the most dominant, sadistic sonofabitch ever (and I loved it). Didn't require a lot to "seduce" him, either. All I had to do was just show up.

 

[rosco rathbone]

a submissive Cancer female,

I've known a couple of them and it's a great combination.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I'm a submissive Cancer and everything Caitlynne said resonates very strongly with me. Although you need to work extra hard at gaining trust, once I trust somebody completely there are very few places I won't go with them. I am my Master's slave and we enjoy a lot of S&M, humiliation play and other stuff that I never imagined I would be comfortable with a couple of years ago. I am very secure in his love for me and the respect he has for me so trust is almost a non-issue for us now.

I like quite rough play on my nipples and very occasionally, I can O from nipple stimulation alone. I can take a lot of impactplay on my breasts and ass but not my thighs so much. My spine is very sensitive and I go into a total trance when my ears and neck are stroked.

I find sensory deprivation some of the most stimulating play. Sometimes Master will have me wear earplugs and a blindfold and it's a very intense experience because nothing else exists except sensation and I can subspace out very easily. I also love knowing that I have no clue what he's up to or what he's planning to do next.

When Cancer people fall in love, they fall a long way. They will do their utmost to make a relationship work once they have committed to it. The Cancer people I know are not the type to play the field or get much out of NSA arrangements. Because of this, I'd caution you to be careful if you're not looking for a long term relationship.

 

[unpredictablebijou]

I'm a Cancer, and while I have my occasional switchy moment I would most definitely say that we are not all "submissive by nature." Not by a looooooooong shot. In fact, the older I get the less switchy and more dommy I become, as it turns out.

Aside from the advice to create deep security and trust, which is excellent, please let me add that Cancerians tend to be very nurturing and caretaking; they like to feed people, they tend to be a bit on the codependent side and like to make sure everyone's happy and comfy, and therefore giving her clear ways to nourish you and meet your needs will be a very successful thing. She may enjoy domestic and food-oriented tasks more than some other signs.

Even as a domme, I find that Cancerian nature coming out; my sub is a cherished pet, a prized possession, and while I will gleefully inflict great pain in the right context, I do so with the idea that I'm sending him somewhere, "taking care of him" in a sense. And I'll flog him all damn night, or whatever sort of 'discomfort' I feel like inflicting, but if he were cold I'd immediately turn up the heat in the room; if he were hungry I'd stop everything and feed him. Funny, that, but there it is.

bj

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Even as a domme, I find that Cancerian nature coming out; my sub is a cherished pet, a prized possession, and while I will gleefully inflict great pain in the right context, I do so with the idea that I'm sending him somewhere, "taking care of him" in a sense. And I'll flog him all damn night, or whatever sort of 'discomfort' I feel like inflicting, but if he were cold I'd immediately turn up the heat in the room; if he were hungry I'd stop everything and feed him. Funny, that, but there it is.

bj

Master is also Cancerian, our birthdays are only 2 days apart (well, 2 days and 4 years) and he is very much like this. No matter what boundaries we push in play and what decisions he makes that affect me and my life, I have absolutely no doubt that he has my best interests very much at heart.

 

[alexa_82]

LOL, I'm a cancer, I like to be submissive and I like rough play - but only if I'm comfortable and with someone I trust.. My bf is Taurean..

How strange... following this thread with great interest!