Seduce someone...

[arsenalsgirl]

or really just flirting with someone. I'm infamous for being terrible at flirting. No joke. It was left out of my induction into woman-hood. Along with being too sentimental and touchy-feely

 

[mellowyellows]

Ok so I wouldn't do it for everyone.....but u can practice on me....

 

[arsenalsgirl]

Ok so I wouldn't do it for everyone.....but u can practice on me....

Hhahahahahahahaha! ^_^. You should teach me the basics before I can try them out

 

[Matadore]

or really just flirting with someone. I'm infamous for being terrible at flirting. No joke. It was left out of my induction into woman-hood. Along with being too sentimental and touchy-feely

I think that I might be able to help you a little. At least I could give you a start on a set of rules or "Rules of Engagement" to encourage your current atemps to interest an object of your desire or attention.

 

[mellowyellows]

Hhahahahahahahaha! ^_^. You should teach me the basics before I can try them out

I'm just a teaser....I don't know how to seduce.....we will learn together I guess

 

[arsenalsgirl]

I'm just a teaser....I don't know how to seduce.....we will learn together I guess

fair enough. btw, your av...is very nice

 

[arsenalsgirl]

I think that I might be able to help you a little. At least I could give you a start on a set of rules or "Rules of Engagement" to encourage your current atemps to interest an object of your desire or attention.

excellent! I'm down for Rules of the road 101

 

[Sophz_Kandi]

You wanna get to know yourself first.
Identify your strong points and make yourself aware of your best features.

Get a friend to help you out with that part, i know hw difficult it can be seeing the positives in yourself.

Flirting is all about feeling sexy.
Thats stage 1

 

[BiBunny]

I'm this way, too. Believe it or not, a lot of men find an honest, direct, no bullshit approach refreshing.

 

[Duvet_Thief]

We DO! Or at least, I do. While it also terrifies me.
But it takes the pressure off the guy, which is always nice.

However:
It's also about feeling assured, because then you can focus on the other person, and your surroundings. Above all not worry about how things are going to much - I think it's very sexy to see someone who is passionately interested in something OUTSIDE of themselves (you, another person, a movie, food, music, work even) to the extent that they forget themselves to some extent.
If you engage with someone like that, you and they will almost always feel sexy. Flirting then becomes pretending that nothing is happening when you both know it IS, rather than trying desperately to MAKE something happen, which will kill any mood stone dead.

 

[Paxter]

We DO! Or at least, I do. While it also terrifies me.
Flirting then becomes pretending that nothing is happening when you both know it IS, rather than trying desperately to MAKE something happen, which will kill any mood stone dead.

I totally agree. That is when it becomes really good fun.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

You might find some interesting info here.

Personally I've never been much of a flirter. The only flirting I do is on these boards and if it wasn't anonymous and totally without motive I couldn't even manage that.

 

[JamieB]

You know, a woman who's awkward and shy, who doesn't know what to say, blushes, stammers, can be a hell of a turnon. As a guy, it's extremely flattering to have that sort of effect on a woman.

J

 

[arsenalsgirl]

thank you for your excellent guidance

 

[Sophz_Kandi]

thank you for your excellent guidance

My favorite technique (Works great short distance and also up close!)

Is the good old fashioned lip to collarbone to neck to just the top of your chest/cleavage stroke.

Make sure you wet your lips first (Or even better, apply lip gloss!) so that it leaves a tiny, shiny naughty little trail!

Tip.. Try not to flip your hair too much.. a lot of guys take the wrong way!

Instead, try stroking your fingers through your hair at one side then (|If you have long hair) scooping it up into your fingers with a slight grip to show off a tiny bit of scalp and of course your luscious neck!

 

[SoleDesire]

OK, this sounds old-fashioned...

But get him to talk about himself -- not just yes/no questions -- and then be interested. Acting interested includes looking him in the eyes (if that's too intense, look at his nose, he won't be able to tell), nodding/smiling, leaning just slightly towards him, asking questions.

If he's a nice guy, he'll ask you about yourself and that's when you light up like a Christmas tree on your favorite subject.

Really, the difference between flirting and regular conversations is about body language and tone of voice. Don't worry that he doesn't think you're attractive enough physically -- there are studies that show average-looking, high-signaling women are more attractive to men than really attractive low-signaling ones (not that you're not really attractive, but just in case you were worried). If you google it, you can probably find out what specific behaviors men prefer...

 

[arsenalsgirl]

^_^. you people are so rockin'.

 

[naamplao]

To me....a woman who shows an intelligent honest interest in what I am doing... whatever, work, hobbies, interests....whatever

If she does this, she captures my attention everytime. I am not a game player...never learned the rules....I wonder if the same approach works on women. I'm not a good flirter myself

 

[SirLicksAalot]

Try youtube

I am the type who likes to see rather than read on how to's

 

[CowBoy18^]

watch some madtv clips of the Funky Walker Dirty Talker
might help ya lmao

 

[yourheroINfla]

My favorite technique (Works great short distance and also up close!)

Is the good old fashioned lip to collarbone to neck to just the top of your chest/cleavage stroke.

Make sure you wet your lips first (Or even better, apply lip gloss!) so that it leaves a tiny, shiny naughty little trail!

Tip.. Try not to flip your hair too much.. a lot of guys take the wrong way!

Instead, try stroking your fingers through your hair at one side then (|If you have long hair) scooping it up into your fingers with a slight grip to show off a tiny bit of scalp and of course your luscious neck!

If a women does it once, or does it while looking back at me/you its a good thing. More than once, not so much.

 

[age_matters]

too much flirting can be a turn off...

 

[JFisher]

too much flirting can be a turn off...

Because it comes across as desperation?

 

[yourheroINfla]

too much flirting can be a turn off...

Agreed.

Because it comes across as desperation?

Between that and teasing.