Secure your insecirities by sharing them

[hotwords229_A]

I post my insecurities daily and no one wants to hear more, so I will just thank Hotwords and say that you all have my sympathy and my shoulder if needed.

My pleasure. I think posting your insecurities helps other people, even if they don't respond they will probably relate to what you say and see your courage in admitting to your own self-consciousness. Maybe I'm a silver lining kind of guy, but I bet that you've helped someone with your words and you're completely unaware of it.

Where to start?
I overthink.
Olympic gold level overthinker.
I question whether anyone will ever think I'm worth the effort.
That I'm too much. Whatever that means. Work mostly I think?
That I'm not pretty enough, smart enough, interesting enough.
Too fat, too thin, that my hair is stupid and my breasts too big for my frame.
That I'm short and not cute short but too short.
That my thighs are too big, I'm not young enough. I worry about things like the quirk of my eyebrow and the wrinkles I'm starting to see peek through even with good skin care.
I worry about the gray and the fact that my eyes are weird and change colors.
That I'm boring and dull and not exciting enough.
That I'm crazy and high maintenance and that I don't do naughty pictures and that I am terrible at flirting and lack the basic sexting skills of you average middleschooler these days.
That I want things that I can't even begin to put into words and that I question everything to the point of ridiculousness.
And that's just what I could come up with in the 2 minutes I gave myself to focus on this.
How's that?

Yeah, but other than that what's wrong with you?


As long as you're aware that you're overthinking things, then you are halfway there. Now you just have to convince yourself that overthinking is fine as long as you control it.

Control it, Tink, I know you can!

And by the way, your eyes are sexy as hell!!!

You're perfect.

If I were gay
I would give you my heart
And if I were gay
You'd be my work of art
And if I were gay
We would swim in romance
But I'm not gay
So get your hand out of my pants

This made me laugh audibly! Well done, Indie.

 

[hotwords229_A]

What scares me...time.

Time scares me because it seems to go at it's own pace.

One moment, it shows you your little girl who needs her dad all the time before you blink and she's all grown up.

Things like that scare me.

The uncontrollable is the scariest thing. There's no way to deal with that other than accept that there is a time clock ticking and there is no stopping it, so enjoy everything you possibly can while you can.

 

[hotwords229_A]

being left... abandoned

You would be fine--nothing to worry about. You are more resourceful, more resilient and stronger than you realize.

We can't always see in ourselves what others can see in us.

 

[Apisto42]

“This too shall pass.”

Is both comforting and sad at the same time.

Insecure about saying too much, or possibly not enough earlier. Once my words are spoken, written, they are out there, on their lonesome. Did they need more context? What if they’re not understood the way I meant them? Intentions count for shit.

Fuck it. Still alive.

 

[Leigh81]

I'm extremely hard on myself so failure is my insecurity

L

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

You would be fine--nothing to worry about. You are more resourceful, more resilient and stronger than you realize.

We can't always see in ourselves what others can see in us.

You need to learn to do L.U.V. talk.

You're such a fixer.

 

[Cwtchseeker]

I lack confidence in myself even I know something or someone well. It has cost me both jobs and relationships in the past because I haven’t been bold enough. Need to change that.

 

[hotwords229_A]

You need to learn to do L.U.V. talk.

You're such a fixer.

I don't know what that is. I looked it up and now I'm more confused.

I need to stop commenting on everyone's posts, because who cares what I think, but sometimes I can't help it!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I don't know what that is. I looked it up and now I'm more confused.

I need to stop commenting on everyone's posts, because who cares what I think, but sometimes I can't help it!

You're so cute, you know that?

 

[Mindfondler]

I fear that, despite my best efforts to persuade them otherwise, I'm perceived by people to be a lot duller than I believe myself to be.
.

 

[LikeableMe]

I can often say this about myself. I am trying to like myself and I know it will be a long road ahead. But it is hard to do when I seem to scare more away then keep. Hell. Even one of the ones singing praises of another was one of the ones to quickly dump me when someone better came along. Always something close by to remind me how disposable I can be.

Good luck with it! I honestly believe that loving yourself is the best relationship you’ll ever have, it leads on to so much more.

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

I guess if I'm talking about real things I'm afraid if...

I'm afraid that I really am lazy, weak, incompetent and stupid. That everyone has been right about me my whole life, that it's all been my fault, that I don't deserve to better my situation, or have someone love me, because I've screwed everything up so far beyond repair, that this is the bed I've made for myself. That the long, slow, grinding, bone crushing decline into homelessness, sickness, madness, prison and death, is what I deserve.

 

[angelofthenorth]

i have too many to list and i don't trust enough to share

 

[hotwords229_A]

You're so cute, you know that?

Probably more goofy than cute, but I'll take it!

 

[curvyangel1969]

Weight. I've struggled since I was a tween. When it comes to men. I always got you have such a pretty face....but.. spoken or unspoken. So now when a man isn't interested in me or care to chat with me I always assume it's because I'm not a size 2. It's a horrible stiffling insecurity.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I used to give off a "fuck off" vibe to people without realizing it. I'm super shy and when someone would talk to me (especially a girl) I would kind of look away and mumble, creating the illusion that I didn't want to talk when, in fact, I did. I was just too shy. My friends told me about this and I was surprised to hear it--I just assumed everyone thought I sucked.

I had no idea at all that I was driving people away by giving off that vibe.

My insecurity was creating a situation that lead to intensifying itself.

I still have to focus on not acting like that, but there has been a noticeable difference since I became aware of it.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

I could be knocked down a peg lol. In all seriousness I am very competitive, I look where someone has an edge over me and strive to improve that part of myself. I fuck up and not perfect, but I am always improving

 

[LanguageOfLove]

What am I afraid of? Being hurt. I think that's why i try to have a good outlook on life, I've been hurt many times in my life, and its taught me to appreciate what I have right now.

I tend to see things through rose colored glasses to avoid the pain....when it hits, it hits hard.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Okay, let's "positive" this place up a bit:

Do you think your insecurities have a beneficial side?

Do they make you try to be better, stronger, more in control of your life because you feel insecure?

Give some examples of how your insecurities (or fears) help, or have helped, you in life.

p.s.--I totally stole JSG's format from the Endless Curiosity thread just now.

 

[havu]

Okay, let's "positive" this place up a bit:

Do you think your insecurities have a beneficial side?

Do they make you try to be better, stronger, more in control of your life because you feel insecure?

Give some examples of how your insecurities (or fears) help, or have helped, you in life.

p.s.--I totally stole JSG's format from the Endless Curiosity thread just now.

I believe my insecurities have a beneficial side.

My insecurities make me be better, stronger and more in control of my life now then when I was in my teenage years and growing into adulthood.

One example is showing myself to other people. What I mean by that is my body, my face and personality (which is crazy and awkward at the same time but eh that's me as a person). I found my true self after 12 years of pleasing everyone. I was like drop it. Not worth your life and time.

Another example is being shunned or my thoughts being misunderstood. My emotions would get the best of me over and over so many times until I finally said no more. Whatever I think or whatever I say from a time I mean it. No one likes it he or she can move on.

I have more examples but these are to name a few that are positive and beneficial to me.

~H

 

[hotwords229_A]

I believe my insecurities have a beneficial side . . .

I agree, my insecurities benefit me too (sometimes). For the last few weeks I had been working on a project where I was kind of in over my head. When asked if I wanted the job I wanted to say "No", but instead said "Yes", and then I followed that with a fear-inducing "I will not fail you." (very dramatic, I know, but that's how I roll )

My insecurity and fear of failure is what motivated me to work nearly around the clock and wear myself down to the point of exhaustion, BUT the project is now complete, I accomplished my goals, I delivered the goods early and vastly over-performed--in short, I fucking crushed it!

That feeling of accomplishment is overwhelming and can only come when you face your fear, accept your insecurity and move forward anyway. (Sometimes the only way out is straight through)

The only problem is, the people I worked for now know I am reliable and good, which means they're probably going to hire me again, and then I'll have to go through this horror, fear, insecurity and sleeplessness all over again!

But fear not, for I will not fail!

 

[havu]

I agree, my insecurities benefit me too (sometimes). For the last few weeks I had been working on a project where I was kind of in over my head. When asked if I wanted the job I wanted to say "No", but instead said "Yes", and then I followed that with a fear-inducing "I will not fail you." (very dramatic, I know, but that's how I roll )

My insecurity and fear of failure is what motivated me to work nearly around the clock and wear myself down to the point of exhaustion, BUT the project is now complete, I accomplished my goals, I delivered the goods early and vastly over-performed--in short, I fucking crushed it!

That feeling of accomplishment is overwhelming and can only come when you face your fear, accept your insecurity and move forward anyway. (Sometimes the only way out is straight through)

The only problem is, the people I worked for now know I am reliable and good, which means they're probably going to hire me again, and then I'll have to go through this horror, fear, insecurity and sleeplessness all over again!

But fear not, for I will not fail!

I can relate to you. XD I used to work for a place until something happened. All the people enjoyed working with me and including the boss and my friend. I felt like I found a job where I can be myself. Of course I ran into people with ill or bad intentions at me for no reason and I did my job and got them out the door as fast possible. I met more people with alot heart and soul. I was shocked until a few of them went to talk to my supervisor and managers at the same time about me. I was in tears. My coworkers all came up to me and smiled and gave me a pat on the back. I was in total shock and went back to work with an even better attitude and personality for the rest of shift.

I am happy for you. (You are awesome! I mean every word.)

Aww. I am sorry you worked around the clock and to the point of exhaustion. I can relate to you. (You nailed it! d^-^b)

You will fail! I believe in you! If it ever gets tough always know you have people behind you to bring you back up no matter how far you have fallen.

 

[angelofthenorth]

Ok....Deep breath.

I have met some genuinely wonderful people here on Lit and I have made friends with people from

countries I would never be in a position to go to. I know my friends love me. This I know to the depths of my soul, but sometimes and please note I said sometimes NOT all the time. There is this wee little voice in the back of my head that says " Don't post after them, they won't like it. Don't
post after that person other people won't like it because you're not funny enough, thin enough, sexy enough, smart enough"

It's bollocks I know but sometimes it's there like a stone in my shoe

there now I've said it

 

[Jada59]

I'm probably going to sound like I'm boasting and that's not how I want to come across. I don't think that I have insecurities. I'm not perfect. I know that. I just am who I am. I always try to do better for myself, to do better for other people, to make the world a better place.

I also love to laugh and make people laugh. And even if they're laughing at me, it's still all good.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I am certain most people here dislike me. Some days I don’t care about that, others I do.

WHAT!!!! I always think of you as extremely sweet and wonderful