Secure your insecirities by sharing them

[tnman03]

This thread is so many kinds of beautiful. Truly.


Insecurities....

I think I am just too much, sexually. I’ve been told that before, so that helps that one along nicely.

I’m not insecure about my looks, they are what I’ve got to work with and that’s okay by me. However, if people compliment me I do inevitably think they’re just being polite.

I am certain most people here dislike me. Some days I don’t care about that, others I do.

Aside from someone making excuses to you I've no other means of comprehending you, or any other healthy woman being "too much sexually". That's just absurd, it anything it would be the other party not being willing. But to tell your partner that is intolerable.

As for people here disliking you I completely disagree. Everyone has people here who they avoid but I've only seen people being very positive towards you. If its a jealousy issue on their part then that speaks for itself. But the not letting it get to you if that's how you feel is a positive outlook.

 

[curvyangel1969]

This thread is so many kinds of beautiful. Truly.


Insecurities....

I think I am just too much, sexually. I’ve been told that before, so that helps that one along nicely.

I’m not insecure about my looks, they are what I’ve got to work with and that’s okay by me. However, if people compliment me I do inevitably think they’re just being polite.

I am certain most people here dislike me. Some days I don’t care about that, others I do.

We've not spoken but I have always only seen positive response to you and seeing you here. I always enjoy your posts and find you to be a nice person.

PS: their inability to keep up with you is their problem, not yours.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Ok....Deep breath.

I have met some genuinely wonderful people here on Lit and I have made friends with people from

countries I would never be in a position to go to. I know my friends love me. This I know to the depths of my soul, but sometimes and please note I said sometimes NOT all the time. There is this wee little voice in the back of my head that says " Don't post after them, they won't like it. Don't
post after that person other people won't like it because you're not funny enough, thin enough, sexy enough, smart enough"

It's bollocks I know but sometimes it's there like a stone in my shoe

there now I've said it

I have had these same thoughts, as well as posting pictures . There are certain people I'm afraid to post pictures after because I feel like in doing so, my picture will just go un-noticed.

 

[beachbaby179]

I've had a very rough couple of years. But as tough as they've been, I feel like they're about to get even tougher. And everybody keeps saying how well I'm doing, how proud they are of me, how they admire me for everything I've done. How "resilient" I am.

All I want to do right now is curl up on someone's lap and have them take over for a while. I'm tired. I'm scared. And I'm not sure I can do the next year by myself.

 

[LostGirlTink]

I've had a very rough couple of years. But as tough as they've been, I feel like they're about to get even tougher. And everybody keeps saying how well I'm doing, how proud they are of me, how they admire me for everything I've done. How "resilient" I am.

All I want to do right now is curl up on someone's lap and have them take over for a while. I'm tired. I'm scared. And I'm not sure I can do the next year by myself.

*hugs*
I want to give everyone in this thread hugs. These are the same issues I have.
Once upon a time, I used to think that there were only certain things to worry about, like "am I too fat or too thin?" or "Am I too short" or "Am I attractive or unattractive" and now I realize that there are so many things I never even considered that could be wrong with me. Everything basically. And I worry about all of it.
The part that has my walls back up though is I spent my life wanting someone to care enough, to like me ENOUGH to not leave... and now I find myself having to worry about what if someone likes me too much because apparently that makes them leave too.

Or maybe everyone just leaves.

 

[DarkSimian]

Zombies.

That's right, I am deathly (no pun intended) afraid of the living dead. And I catch a lot of shit from people over it. Don't tell me how great "TWD" is, or how you can't wait for "Zombieland 2". Nope, nope, nope. Don't want to hear it.

Yes, I KNOW they aren't real. But as a creature of the night, I have seen some pretty weird shit. And sometimes the things that go bump in the night really shouldn't be seen by the light of day. So I'll keep the lights on, thank you very much....

 

[LWulf]

My insecurities are that by posting my insecurities will be used by others to retaliate to things I say, that they don't like.

In an aside, Hi Snexxer!

 

[lavendersugar420]

My biggest insecurity the feeling that I'm never quite good enough. I focus too much on what I'm not doing right instead of everything that is going well. Type A personality here so I try to be as perfect as possible in all things that I do, and while I know it isn't realistic to be perfect in everything, I still push for perfection.

 

[LWulf]

Insecurities are a good thing. Whether imagined or real, they are perceived weaknesses about ourselves for us to work on. If you perceive an unlocked front door to be an insecurity, then you work on it to make it more secure.

The trick is knowing when you've become fixated on your insecurities, and start putting 10 locks on your front door.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I fear allowing myself to be vulnerable with someone, having it end poorly, and then being remembered at my worst.
Or at my neediest. Or whatever.