Own your sexual identity before entrusting it to other person. However, if you can't do that than please take this ad to the BDSM Personal's as this is BDSM Talk.
Since this was your first post. You might want to take some time and educate yourself. You'll soon learn that BDSM is a lifestyle and not a game played online. You should be asked to commit to a contract and in doing so, you will be asked to submit yourself in person. If your not willing to do that at this time, then you need to wait till you are. You'll find many Doms wanting to play online, but wouldn't you rather learn the right way first?