scars????

[dolf]

I have a lot of scars across my back (unpleasant experience with an a-hole and a scalpel) and I'm curious to know...
is this gross or cool? is this something that turns on, or turns off?
I've decided after several years that despite where I got them I still kinda like them (it gives people something to point at and whisper about, when otherwise their lives would be so dull )

so...your opinions?
attractive women with lots of scars, good or bad???
xxi have a lot of scars across my back (unpleasant experience with an a-hole and a scalpel) and i'm curious to know...
is this gross or cool? is this something that turns on, or turns off?
i've decided after several years that despite where i got them i still kinda like them (it gives poeple something to point at and whisper about, when otherwise thier lives would be so dull )

so...your opinions?
attractive women with lots of scars, good or bad???
xx

 

[Birch Twig]

Bad, very bad

S&M is great, but it should not leave marks that stays more than 24 hours, IMO

 

[dolf]

double post

 

[dolf]

tripple post

 

[dolf]

it wasn't s&m...it was just my life.
what can i say? urm...bad things happen sometimes...
anyway, lol, thankyou for your opinion. i'm sure a lot of people will agree with you on that (and i agree that to consent to that in the context of s&m would have been dumb)
xx

 

[Sir_Winston54]

i have a lot of scars across my back (unpleasant experience with an a-hole and a scalpel) and i'm curious to know...
is this gross or cool? is this something that turns on, or turns off?
i've decided after several years that despite where i got them i still kinda like them (it gives poeple something to point at and whisper about, when otherwise thier lives would be so dull )

so...your opinions?
attractive women with lots of scars, good or bad???
xx

For me, it would be neither gross nor cool, neither turn-on nor turn-off. What would be important to me would be the pride of self of their bearer. If she carries herself with the knowledge that she is worthwhile and valuable, she is attractive. The scars are simply flavoring, like strawberry syrup in milk.

 

[dolf]

 

[Ryniver]

I would never love a wo/man who couldn't love me for my scars- be they mental or physical. It's not a matter of what they see in ME but what I see in MYSELF.

 

[graceanne]

Well, I agree, a wo/man should love you, scars or not. But if they're bugging you there is stuff you can put on them. I forget what it's called, but neosporin puts it out,a nd it'll make them either go away, or become so small that they're not a big deal

I had a friend who had a sadistic boyfriend who would sit on her and put his cigarettes out on her back. She used this stuff, and her scars are almost gone.

 

[dolf]

ty
i've heard of the cream...but these are like battle scars and they remind me who i am and where i have been.
i've always found scars on men very sexy (but then we all have our perversions!) and after several years i've started seeing my scars that way too....but i guess i'm alone in that
xx

 

[kjtatts]

ty
i've heard of the cream...but these are like battle scars and they remind me who i am and where i have been.
i've always found scars on men very sexy (but then we all have our perversions!) and after several years i've started seeing my scars that way too....
xx

I agree... I love scars on men. Actually scars in general don't turn me off - I think they just make me more curious about the person....I have scars... and it's only recently that I've decided I don't care what people think. It's a good feeling.

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, I had to come to the realisation back in my teens that anyone who didn't want to be with me because of my scar really wasn't worth bothering with anyway. I have one huge surgical scar that no amount of creams or plastic surgery is ever going to remove or disguise, so it is part of me, have to live with it. Though I have had a few in my life who have accepted it, some who chose to pretend it wasn't there, Master is the only one to lovingly caress it and tell me often he adores it...of course that could be because he likes the way I squirm when he does that.


As to S/m marks, I have a cutting which is not temporary and stands up from the surface of my skin to the extent it is able to be felt through clothing, and we plan to have more. It was one of the biggest challenges I have faced as I had lived with the surgical scar all my adult life and hated having to, so adding another was a big step and took quite some mental work on my part to come to terms with. It was made easier knowing that it was a mark of ownership and had symbolic significance, but still the underlying triggers had to be overcome.

Catalina

 

[joiphulone]

LOL, I had to come to the realisation back in my teens that anyone who didn't want to be with me because of my scar really wasn't worth bothering with anyway. I have one huge surgical scar that no amount of creams or plastic surgery is ever going to remove or disguise, so it is part of me, have to live with it. Though I have had a few in my life who have accepted it, some who chose to pretend it wasn't there, Master is the only one to lovingly caress it and tell me often he adores it...of course that could be because he likes the way I squirm when he does that.


As to S/m marks, I have a cutting which is not temporary and stands up from the surface of my skin to the extent it is able to be felt through clothing, and we plan to have more. It was one of the biggest challenges I have faced as I had lived with the surgical scar all my adult life and hated having to, so adding another was a big step and took quite some mental work on my part to come to terms with. It was made easier knowing that it was a mark of ownership and had symbolic significance, but still the underlying triggers had to be overcome.

Catalina

thanks for such a great topic!

I, too have a rather large scar (not s/m related) and several other scars that bubble up as was just mentioned. I am a keloid former (i overheal, hence the bubbling up and often dark coloring). I struggle sometimes with acceptance of these marks.

I am interested in hearing more pov's on this topic as I struggle with showing mine. Can people really find scars sexy? I know many can accept them as part of a person, but to find them erotic is an interesting notion. I personally do not find them sexy on myself.....

 

[dolf]

hmm...on men it really turns me on. I like it when very attractive, smart men have facial scars. perhaps it's the contrast? I don't know...I just want to touch and kiss them, run my tongue along them...
mmm...
I've not seen many scars on women (perhaps we just work harder at hiding them?) but it doesn't do quite the same thing for me (which is why I asked the question)
scars show how much a person has survived through. a person who has enough confidence not to feel self conscious of their scars is very appealing to me.
I hate remembering how I got mine but I don't hate them.
on men or women they fascinate me.
xx

 

[graceanne]

ty
i've heard of the cream...but these are like battle scars and they remind me who i am and where i have been.
i've always found scars on men very sexy (but then we all have our perversions!) and after several years i've started seeing my scars that way too....but i guess i'm alone in that
xx

Then you know what? If they don't like your scars tell them to go screw themselves! It's what you think that's important.
I also have a lot of scars. The biggest is on my stomach from three cesarians. But I also have scars on my arms from when I was a teenager and I would claw myself whenever I'd get mad or stressed. (They look like stretch marks.) My husband personally loves my cesarian scar. He sees it as a symbol of our children, and what I went through to have them.

 

[dolf]

graceanne, that's really beautiful

I've never had a really bad reaction...though some guys do burst into tears ("wah! how could someone do that?") or get angry and demand to be told who to beat up for it (not that I'd ever tell them). I'm pretty open about them...if I wear a vest top the ones that curve up to my shoulders are visible...so if they don't like them we never get that far.

{stamping my feet and pouting} I went through hell getting them and it'd be nice if it was worth it in some way...if to some people it emphasised my beauty rather than "I still think you're beautiful".

ok...I'm just acting spoilt and stroppy now but watcha gonna do, spank me?

 

[shamble]

I must confess a strange attraction to women with scars/missing limbs. I'm not sadistic enough to want to cause any of these things, but I do find them sexy.

I agree with Sir Winston that the way a woman carries herself is the main source of attraction, and I like a woman that can accept her physical flaws. Unfortunately, most of the women I know don't have tha kind of internal fortitude.

There's only so much you can do to a pretty face and good body before you realize that it's just become another form of masturbation.

 

[graceanne]

There's only so much you can do to a pretty face and good body before you realize that it's just become another form of masturbation.

LOL

 

[graceanne]

graceanne, that's really beatiful

i've never had a really bad reaction...though some guys do burst into tears ("wah! how could someone do that?") or get angry and demand to be told who to beat up for it (not that i'd ever tell them). i'm pretty open about them...if i wear a vest top the ones that curve up to my shoulders are visable...so if they don't like them we never get that far.

{stamping my feet and pouting} i went through hell getting them and it'd be nice if it was worth it in some way...if to some people it emphasised my beauty rather than "i still think you're beautiful".

ok...i'm just acting spoilt and stroppy now but watcha gonna do, spank me?

thanks

I think you have a great attitude about them. And who gets the right to decide what's beautiful. Everyone has scars some people just carry them on the outside. You wouldn't go up to a rape or abuse victim and say "I still think you're beautiful." would you?

As to the spanking, I prefer to be on the recieving end, but I"m sure you can get some guys here to . . .

And the next guy who flips about your scars, tell him it was an initiation ritual into your 'church', and that if he wants to be with you he'll have to go through it, too. Then sit back and laugh your ass off.

 

[graceanne]

ty
i've heard of the cream...but these are like battle scars and they remind me who i am and where i have been.
i've always found scars on men very sexy (but then we all have our perversions!) and after several years i've started seeing my scars that way too....but i guess i'm alone in that
xx

I was thinking about this thread and I got curious. There are lots of women who likes scars on men. Me included. But can you find guys who say that they actually LIKE scars on women? I mean, there, obviously, are some who don't mind them, but are their any who LIKE them? And why not? Are only men allowed to have 'battle scars'? Cause that's what our scars are, they're battle scars.
Mine are a symbol of my battle with depression and my battle to bring children into the world when I was told I can't.

I have other scars that symbolize battles, I have the one on my arm from when I was battling my fear of riding my bike down hill, and I ran into a barb wire fence. I have a small one on my face from when I was bit by a dog when I was 5. I have scars from the staff infection that nearly killed me (blood poisoning). Dammit, we should be proud of our scars! They mark us as survivors!

 

[cynter]

scars? oh, lets see, zipper in between my breasts from open heart surgery. another on my tummy from a c-section. my right forearm is banged up a bit from a tangle with a rather large and extremely pissed off tabby cat. countless others that are far less noticeable. who doesn't get through life w/out scars, battle wise or otherwise?
for someone to 'judge' you worthy or for that matter 'fuckable' based soley on appearance? not someone i'd waste my time and certainly not the energy required for a memorable interlude..lol.
my scars are just one part of who i am, they are not all of me. even the ones that are blatantly obvious. the heart surgery scar is definitely an indication that i am not only a survivor but a fighter and on occasion one tough old biddy! which is not to say pride is involved, just an acknowledgement that life is not for pussies! LMFAO!!!

 

[dolf]

You wouldn't go up to a rape or abuse victim and say "I still think you're beautiful." would you?

actually lots of men actually say shite like that...at that point I lose all respect for them and tell then that I faked every time
more scars...rope burn scar round the back of one ankle, dog bite on upper thigh, SI scars on the soles of my feet and far too many on my knees where I used to climb trees

I must confess a strange attraction to women with scars/missing limbs. I'm not sadistic enough to want to cause any of these things, but I do find them sexy.

suddenly I don't feel scarred enough, lol!thanks for sharing that, it's exactly what I was curious about....but do you know what it is about them that appeals?

scars? oh, lets see, zipper in between my breasts from open heart surgery.

mmm...that sounds like one to lick! I just love scars like that on men and women

xx

 

[Betticus]

i have a lot of scars across my back (unpleasant experience with an a-hole and a scalpel) and i'm curious to know...
is this gross or cool? is this something that turns on, or turns off?
i've decided after several years that despite where i got them i still kinda like them (it gives poeple something to point at and whisper about, when otherwise thier lives would be so dull )

so...your opinions?
attractive women with lots of scars, good or bad???
xx

It wouldn't turn me off at all. One tough battle scarred kitty stepping back into the ring is all. The overall effect would probably be me being less inhibited if I were to fuck you. Most of my scars have faded to nothingness. I had one on my face from when someone thought I was just too pretty. At least that's what he said before he cut me. I honestly liked being pretty before that.

They would probably turn me on.

 

[shamble]

"suddenly i don't feel scarred enough, lol!thanks for sharing that, it's exactly what i was curious about....but do you know what it is about them that appeals?"

It's hard to say. There's just something about seeing a beautiful body/face that's been marked by so much pain. There's a certain dichotomy to it, physically, that intrigues me. Yet, it also shows a certain unity of body and mind if an attractive woman doesn't hide obvious scars.

I don't necessarily mean in public, because most people can't accept physical deformities in another; and I could see how it would definitely make life more difficult for her at times. But, if she has the strength to allow her lover to know her scars, she's actually sharing her past pain without saying a word.

Plus, they probably appeal to some base, animal part of me that just likes pain.

 

[cynter]

actually lots of men actually say shite like that...at that point i lose all respect for them and tell then that i faked every time
more scars...rope burn scar round the back of one ankle, dog bite on upper thigh, SI scars on the soles of my feet and far too many on my knees where i used to climb trees


suddenly i don't feel scarred enough, lol!thanks for sharing that, it's exactly what i was curious about....but do you know what it is about them that appeals?


mmm...that sounds like one to lick! i just love scars like that on men and women

xx

lick, eh? funny you should mention that...the scar tissue itself seems to be w/out sensation BUT the skin surrounding it seems to be hypersensitive...hhmm....lol....
i don't think i'd be comfortable being w/ someone simply for the 'scar attraction' but as part of the whole package of foreplay it can make for some interesting sensations. as for healing in general...time does help. also sorting through one's feelings w/ people you trust. and stepping out on faith in yourself that the next time will be alright.