Satisfied?

[T.J. Jackson]

.....But please, make sure (if he allows it)that he knows that it is not because he does not enough, but it is because you wish to do more...there is a difference......

apet4you said this in the face slapping thread. I found this statement interesting. It's all in how you approach expanding your limits, isn't it? If you aren't being completely satisfied or pushed hard enough, how do you approach it?


I have more questions on this subject but I want to see what others might have to say before jumping in completely.

 

[MissTaken]

IF I understand correctly, apet is saying that there are times when a submissive finds herself wanting more of something. More intensity in an act, more time with the Dominant or whatever.

We should always want more of something. Should we not?

How to do so?

Ask?

Really, keep your communication lines open. Give your submissive a chance to evaluate the scene in her way as well. It is difficult to do as sometimes, the submissive may feel she is hurting your feelings by saying "I didn't like..." or "would like more..."

But for you to know what is working or not, give her a time to say so. Perhaps, if conversation is difficult, journaling or the Dominant asking direct questioins can be helpful.

Hmm now I don't know if I answered the question and at this late hour, I don't know if I am making sense.

But there you have it!