Sapiosexuality aka Freaks n Geeks

[Cabeza]

Wow I never expected this thread to get so much traction! I'm going to go read through all the new posts now!

 

[Cabeza]

Yes, please!

I also love the precision of certain words...how they say exactly what you need without needing cumbersome phrasing to get there.

Some of my favorite 'precise' words:
-hyperbole
-reciprocity
-disingenuous
-elucidate
-subterfuge
-synchronicity
(so many more)

It's like semantic porn for me.

There are words that I just have always liked for indefinable reasons. Rhythm, perhaps, rather than precision or concision. They may or may not be seductive; YMMV.
-miasma
-interstitial
-antediluvian
-elegiac
-verisimilitude
-synaesthesia
-stygian
-bacchanalia

...off the top of my head.

 

[Cabeza]

So, silliness, triviality, in other words becomes an existential reminder that we are all, essentially, just passing through existence and that we truly know nothing? The same way, as SlyderInside said, a satire pokes fun at the serious issues of the day?

Or, another take on "silliness" is that intelligent people tend to be introspective. Which in turn can be bloody depressing in excess. So we learn that sometimes we need to stop over-thinking things and laugh about it. Or as one great philosopher said... "Why so serious?"

 

[Susurration]

I greatly value and appreciate intelligent conversation which both intrigues me and stimulates my mind. I do like to mix it in with less serious discussion as well though, otherwise I tend to get bogged down with talking about issues which may drive others to distraction after a while.

 

[fire_breeze]

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I have had some wonderful conversations with folks I encountered here, but I run into this irony of being very awkward when initiating conversation. I love the idea of discussing a variety of topics, but the nature of this site leaves that sexual issue dangling over everything.

While I recognize this post may offer little contribution, I'm hoping someone might see something worth pursuing a conversation.

Intelligence is sexy; engaging conversation can be very much like foreplay, even if nothing sexual, explicit or implicit, is discussed. Just saying.

Or, another take on "silliness" is that intelligent people tend to be introspective. Which in turn can be bloody depressing in excess. So we learn that sometimes we need to stop over-thinking things and laugh about it. Or as one great philosopher said... "Why so serious?"

Perhaps. While deep, intro-perspective thoughts can be depressing, it can still fuel creativity. And besides, deep thinking does not necessarily automatically equate to seriousness. Or does it?

Damn you. I was hoping not to think today!

 

[Cabeza]

Intelligence is sexy; engaging conversation can be very much like foreplay, even if nothing sexual, explicit or implicit, is discussed. Just saying.

Perhaps. While deep, intro-perspective thoughts can be depressing, it can still fuel creativity. And besides, deep thinking does not necessarily automatically equate to seriousness. Or does it?

Damn you. I was hoping not to think today!

I don't think deep thinking implies (in the logical sense of p->q) seriousness. I imagine most of us on this thread have active (maybe even hyperactive!) minds that can be switching between different threads of thought, some of which might be serious and some of which might be "I just thought of a hilarious way I could mess with my cat", all at the same time. I'm also not disparaging depression; it too can fuel creativity, as evidenced by the depressed / suicidal artist archetype.

I will say for me, I can't keep thinking Seriously and Deeply for too long before something crosses my mind that cracks me up. I just find the world too fun and amusing to stay serious for too long. I mean, when I'm not depressed.

Yes, I probably need therapy.

 

[FelicityJohns]

There are words that I just have always liked for indefinable reasons. Rhythm, perhaps, rather than precision or concision. They may or may not be seductive; YMMV.
-miasma
-interstitial
-antediluvian
-elegiac
-verisimilitude
-synaesthesia
-stygian
-bacchanalia

...off the top of my head.

Ahem... remind me never to play Words with this dude!

I like S words. Symbionic, simpatico, surreal, synergy... not fancy words, but they make me pause and taste them when used.

 

[Cabeza]

Ahem... remind me never to play Words with this dude!

I like S words. Symbionic, simpatico, surreal, synergy... not fancy words, but they make me pause and taste them when used.

Haha, don't worry I had to look up how to spell half of them!

"pause and taste them"... yes! exactly! And we won't get in to how saying words involves the mouth, and lips, and tongue.

 

[frictional]

My wife is a college professor and we've been having deep conversations for going on 20 years now. We're actually a good team, because she's better at research and I'm better at synthesis. A common thing for us to do is for her to tell me a whole bunch of new stuff she's discovered or thought about, and then I look for patterns or structures within the data.

 

[Sensualista]

*raises hand

What an amazing post. Great to see I am not the only one.

I have an almost exclusively mental approach to sexuality. Do something to me and unless you are masterfully skilled it does little. Tell me what you are going to do and get me thinking about it and I am instantly ready.

The brain truly is the biggest sex organ, however the number of skilled navigators seems to be limited. The higher your intelligence (or any particular skill/ability), the less people can meet you on your level and that can be frustrating.

 

[cliteatingman]

Raises hand!

It seems like I'm forever trying to find someone who shares a reciprocal appreciation of intelligence. I find myself often wishing I can tell them to look up and inside (my mind).

I would love to have a really good conversation with you. What is your favorite subject ro talk about?

 

[Chris_Michael]

I have spent hours creating these characters for my game. I think that makes me a geek. Regardless, I'm ready to explore the wasteland.

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[Cabeza]

Question for the group: How do you think your intelligence, and that of your partner(s) (if any) affects your sexuality? E.g. a preference for written erotica over visual porn? A more active imagination or willingness to try new things? Higher standards for partners? A more inclusive view of what constitutes sex / foreplay?

Let's hear it!

 

[Sensualista]

Great question.

I would say, yes, definitely a more active and kinkier imagination.
There is no place my mind cannot travel. My curiosity, the lust for new experiences that stretch and expand my understanding of the world and myself has always made me the more experimental and adventurous one in relationships.

Words, written or spoken matter greatly. Intelligent banter is very sexy. A man or woman's mental prowess turns me on, especially if we are arguing about something we are passionate about...

Do we have higher standards? If we are wise, yes. It is very difficult to be in a relationship where the mind and its capacity to dream and explore is unmet.

I enjoy visual porn, but erotic fiction engages me in a much more powerful way.

 

[Cabeza]

Great question.

I would say, yes, definitely a more active and kinkier imagination.
There is no place my mind cannot travel. My curiosity, the lust for new experiences that stretch and expand my understanding of the world and myself has always made me the more experimental and adventurous one in relationships.

Words, written or spoken matter greatly. Intelligent banter is very sexy. A man or woman's mental prowess turns me on, especially if we are arguing about something we are passionate about...

Do we have higher standards? If we are wise, yes. It is very difficult to be in a relationship where the mind and its capacity to dream and explore is unmet.

I enjoy visual porn, but erotic fiction engages me in a much more powerful way.

I think I really want to have a conversation with you. ;-)

I feel like a sexual experience that doesn't engage my mind as well as my body is... unsatisfactory. Even if said experience is with myself.

 

[Interested_Girl]

Since everyone here obviously has a certain level of intelligence, if not at least a respect for it, here's a question:

Has your partner/someone you were interested in ever found your intelligence intimidating? How did you, or would you react? More generally, what are your thoughts on being seen as intellectually intimidating?

Partners, friends, collegues etc.

I think that intelligence is multifaceted, and there isn't only one type of intelligence. I put that into perspective. I had an ex-partner who went to college and here in Canada, college tends to be frowned upon, whereas if you to University, you are automatically more intelligent. Which certainly isnt true.

Anyway, this was clearly an issue for him. I was book smart, and he was e-business smart. I would just point out we had different intelligences. He was also far more emotionally intelligent, which to this day I struggle with.

I try to think everyone has value, even if I thoroughly dislike them.

I also belive that those who stray away from common venacular and speak above a group of people, tend to be quite unintelligent. If you can't speak plainly to people so that everyone understands each other than you lack a good portion of what intelligence is, which is to effectively communicate ideas and opinions.

 

[Cabeza]

Partners, friends, collegues etc.

I think that intelligence is multifaceted, and there isn't only one type of intelligence. I put that into perspective. I had an ex-partner who went to college and here in Canada, college tends to be frowned upon, whereas if you to University, you are automatically more intelligent. Which certainly isnt true.

Anyway, this was clearly an issue for him. I was book smart, and he was e-business smart. I would just point out we had different intelligences. He was also far more emotionally intelligent, which to this day I struggle with.

I try to think everyone has value, even if I thoroughly dislike them.

I also belive that those who stray away from common venacular and speak above a group of people, tend to be quite unintelligent. If you can't speak plainly to people so that everyone understands each other than you lack a good portion of what intelligence is, which is to effectively communicate ideas and opinions.

Well said!

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

To me, Intelligence is a spark in someones eyes. An alertness, an awareness of themselves and their surroundings. There are so many people who do not have that. Their eyes are dull, listless, they are bored and jaded by anything you say.

No luster. No life. No intelligence. Turn on some more reality Tv.

 

[Lunation]

Question for the group: How do you think your intelligence, and that of your partner(s) (if any) affects your sexuality? E.g. a preference for written erotica over visual porn? A more active imagination or willingness to try new things? Higher standards for partners? A more inclusive view of what constitutes sex / foreplay?

Let's hear it!

The sexiest thing about a woman is her mind.

I want a woman who is articulate, intelligent, and strong-willed. I want a woman with a sly smile and a cunning intellect.

Sexuality is in the becoming.

I want to see her strong will break as I tease her clit and she whimpers for more. I want to listen as her witty word play slips into vulgarity and then finally into meaningless moans and animal grunts. I want to watch the intelligence behind her eyes drain away as she becomes a wild, feral thing bouncing up and down on my cock. I want to feel her sly smile becoming a gasping, dribbling mouth as I clamp my hand over it. I want to witness all of the careful disguises of culture and civility stripped from her until she is a quivering, groaning thing. I want to see the animal she becomes when I fuck her.

The sexiest thing about a woman is her mind, and making her lose it.

 

[Lunation]

I have a tremendous intelligence. And the best words. Believe me. The best words. Bigly.

 

[Jacques_Corbin]

Very well said. That is why I like this site, the women here do not try to dumb themselves down to make guys like them. Not only guys, my sister the lesbian does that when talking to other women. It's really messed up. I mean, what if the other woman tries that too? How long before they are both resorting to grunts, gestures, and drawing in the dirt with sticks?

Favorite words:
Dichotomy
Hypothetical
Psychosomatic
Prognostication
Thermostatic

 

[Sensualista]

@ Cabeza: I would like that... Always great to connect with a fellow sapiophile

@ Lunation *melts hmmm, your first post certainly hit the spot ;-)

I would agree that we are different but equal of value. I think for me the question is not of superior/ inferior, it is around compatibility. There are many variations of smart as intelligent_girl said, for me, something magical happens, when two people meet who express intelligence in a similar way, a meeting of equals in one particular aspect of the mind. The potency of such a meeting is just exhilarating.

 

[Lunation]

@ Cabeza: I would like that... Always great to connect with a fellow sapiophile

@ Lunation *melts hmmm, your first post certainly hit the spot ;-)

I would agree that we are different but equal of value. I think for me the question is not of superior/ inferior, it is around compatibility. There are many variations of smart as intelligent_girl said, for me, something magical happens, when two people meet who express intelligence in a similar way, a meeting of equals in one particular aspect of the mind. The potency of such a meeting is just exhilarating.

Glad you liked it.

It has taken me a while to come to terms with the fact that my version of intelligence is pure cleverness. It's all pretty words and subtle tricks and smoke and mirrors, but no depth. I make it work though.

There is something to be said for complimenting each other. A relationship doesn't need two of me.

 

[MaybeTwins]

Partners, friends, collegues etc.

I think that intelligence is multifaceted, and there isn't only one type of intelligence. I put that into perspective. I had an ex-partner who went to college and here in Canada, college tends to be frowned upon, whereas if you to University, you are automatically more intelligent. Which certainly isnt true.

Anyway, this was clearly an issue for him. I was book smart, and he was e-business smart. I would just point out we had different intelligences. He was also far more emotionally intelligent, which to this day I struggle with.

I try to think everyone has value, even if I thoroughly dislike them.

I also belive that those who stray away from common venacular and speak above a group of people, tend to be quite unintelligent. If you can't speak plainly to people so that everyone understands each other than you lack a good portion of what intelligence is, which is to effectively communicate ideas and opinions.

The last paragraph is important. I work in academia among people who are extremely well-educated and well-read. They can talk at length and off-the-cuff about Hegel, Wittgenstein and Kant. But there is a big difference between those who do that because they genuinely understand it, and those who do it simply because they are very well-educated and happen to have read the right books and like to show off. Figuring out the distinction between those two types of people can be difficult - but being able to explain in plain language is a good indicator that somebody is in the former category.

 

[djchatter]

Maybe a slightly different take on it...

Unlike your average porn star, I can only orgasm so many times in a day. And I can only last so long with direct physical stimulation. However, I can be mentally, sexually stimulated for hours at a time. And despite was the viagra ads warn, I love the extended stimulation.

The situation is magnified in situations like this. Yes, we can trade photos here, but many don't. And most here do not have an endless supply of new and different pictures of themselves. And, while VR is getting good, we don't yet have the ability to physically stimulate over long distances. But, let me chat with a woman who can discuss topic intelligently for hours. Let me email a woman who can paint a picture with her words. Let me trade stories with a woman who can transport me with her phrases. In those cases, I have had intense, sexual experiences, regardless of the distance.

Equally (if not more) important is that I want more... Gloryholes, anonymous quickies, stripclub encounters, happy endings, etc all have their place on the erotic continuum. Each can be exciting and lead to fantastic climaxes. I want more though. Part of the reason I chat is because I feel lonely, and I want to connect with someone. I want, for a few minutes, to feel like somebody else gives a damn about me. In those cases, I think the purely physical is a shallow substitute. I want to connect, and that is more likely with someone who is intellectually and emotionally available and capable.

For what it is worth, those are my thoughts... I love intelligent women.