San Francisco Bay Area Community

[sufi]

Hey all you fine sexy people, how about a local coop?

I'm thinking non-brick&mortar based hub around which we may um...circulate.

There are some big operations out there telling us they can take care of our desires/needs. I'm not buying it. Emphasis on the word "buying".

We are strong, intelligent, creative and resourceful people and we have the tools right in front of us (no, not that tool, silly) to take matters into our own hands. We can guide ourselves to realization of what dreams we want to come true.

This invitation is open to any alternate sexual lifestyle. I personally will avoid involvement with certain aspects of the community that exists around me. I'm not gay, don't get into watersports, or heavy duty bdsm, etc. But I will faithfull support your grass roots, non profit efforts to build a community.

Check it out we could become the model of self determined sexual community!

This thread will test if I can reach enough people thru lit to make a start. I'm excited!

If I have struck a chord amoung you liberated populists on lit post here!

 

[Ukin]

Hey all you fine sexy people, how about a local coop?

I'm thinking non-brick&mortar based hub around which we may um...circulate.

There are some big operations out there telling us they can take care of our desires/needs. I'm not buying it. Emphasis on the word "buying".

We are strong, intelligent, creative and resourceful people and we have the tools right in front of us (no, not that tool, silly) to take matters into our own hands. We can guide ourselves to realization of what dreams we want to come true.

This invitation is open to any alternate sexual lifestyle. I personally will avoid involvement with certain aspects of the community that exists around me. I'm not gay, don't get into watersports, or heavy duty bdsm, etc. But I will faithfull support your grass roots, non profit efforts to build a community.

Check it out we could become the model of self determined sexual community!

This thread will test if I can reach enough people thru lit to make a start. I'm excited!

If I have struck a chord amoung you liberated populists on lit post here!

Well, I am up for anything that gets this thread moving...there must be enough of us in the Bay area to sort something out..I am in favor of a meeting too...just a social get together somewhere in the City....I don't mean an orgy kind of meeting, just a few drinks together, a few laughs...I am not gay either..but anything else I am willing to try - or I may have already done so

 

[bubman]

i'm out in the east bay... near the delta. so if anything getts going please let me know..... i would love to go have a drink. and meet some like mined people

 

[musicalnotes]

I'm only wishing you had done this about three weeks ago . I come out here all the time, usually stay on the peninsula but end up in the city almost every night. And I'm here this week, wishing your could get this together FAST. ;-)

Sounds like a reasonable, fun thing to do.

mwahhh

 

[Ukin]

I'm only wishing you had done this about three weeks ago . I come out here all the time, usually stay on the peninsula but end up in the city almost every night. And I'm here this week, wishing your could get this together FAST. ;-)

Sounds like a reasonable, fun thing to do.

mwahhh

I agree...but it takes time

 

[musicalnotes]

ah, yes...anything sustainable does take a little time. But still, one can always hope--if there were a large number of respondents here from the city, we could just say, well, hell, let's meet thursday night at xxxxxxx!

See? It could happen...

 

[icy]

Too bad

Darn..I'm in California, but the southern part..I am currently trying to organize a Litogether as well...I also have a So Cal thread where we all meet...It will take some time but i am sure the results will be great...Good Luck honey.....

 

[Ukin]

Re: Too bad

Darn..I'm in California, but the southern part..I am currently trying to organize a Litogether as well...I also have a So Cal thread where we all meet...It will take some time but i am sure the results will be great...Good Luck honey.....

hell..if there is one in the South..I fancy a short vacation

 

[sufi]

meeting

I am so excited you all posted.
Everything everybody said sounds right on.

Thanx for your encouragement and well wishes, Icy, and good luck in socal.

Any meeting will certainly welcome a distinguished guest from Denver.

I gather you're from sf proper, Ukin?
Perhaps you might suggest a specific location for said meeting.

Bubman, you're married? Can you convince you partner to attend?
Goodness knows this should not be stag!

My wife does not know I have started this thread, but I think I can get her to come. yeah, that way I know!

I don't wanna go off half cocked, so let's see what we can cook up in the next few weeks, OK?

 

[Ukin]

Re: meeting

I am so excited you all posted.
Everything everybody said sounds right on.

Thanx for your encouragement and well wishes, Icy, and good luck in socal.

Any meeting will certainly welcome a distinguished guest from Denver.

I gather you're from sf proper, Ukin?
Perhaps you might suggest a specific location for said meeting.

B]

No mate..I am from Santa Rosa...so I don't really know anywhere...but a hotel would be best to meet.

 

[bubman]

and as for me, no im not married, so i go off half cocked everywhere i go.............

 

[on_the_verge]

I would love to see how this develops -- the San Francisco aspect -- and what may come of it/ However, it's so lovely just to hang in parts of the city and never knowing what to expect…

Forget all the pretense, let's just see if there is something about SF that does not turn in before the "Witching Hours". Another endearing and crooked connection would be to see how we are in the flesh. The meetig can be fun and the air thick, I do recall a few of the "Lit" sesions I attended before, but in another city.

 

[musicalnotes]

where to go....

You folks know the city...I don't, really. So where are the clubs that are best to go to to find like-minded (open) adults out to have a great time? I'm staring at a couple of free nights, and want to use my time wisely, but am willing to do about anything

Love your town, btw...even after the 'witching hours'

pianist66@hotmail.com

 

[sufi]

to all

notes, yer hot to trot. Clubs tend to be members only.
one famous name is Lush. $80/mo
don't know where it is exactly.

A club I think might be more flexible is in Oakland, called The Edgewater Inn. They have a website. They operate a hotel, restaurant, and meeting rooms. And they host special events. Clothing optional.
I think a hotel is a good place for us to meet, yes.

Perhaps someone might inquire of the Edgewater for our purposes?

on the verge, your comments are facinating. I like how you set a pace. Would you elaborate?

Bubman, i'm sorry. I must have got confused again. Bring yer hunky self.

 

[on_the_verge]

Re: to all

notes, yer hot to trot. Clubs tend to be members only.
one famous name is Lush. $80/mo
don't know where it is exactly.

A club I think might be more flexible is in Oakland, called The Edgewater Inn. They have a website. They operate a hotel, restaurant, and meeting rooms. And they host special events. Clothing optional.
I think a hotel is a good place for us to meet, yes.

Perhaps someone might inquire of the Edgewater for our purposes?

on the verge, your comments are facinating. I like how you set a pace. Would you elaborate?

Bubman, i'm sorry. I must have got confused again. Bring yer hunky self.

To elaborate in it's simplist ways, which I tend to deny the reader at times, is like so:

The pretense is that "some" people might think of this as some elaborate way or a mask to meet others for ecounters or sex relations. It makes things quite out of place when the digits become the physical. All I am saying is that people should meet (of like minds and vice) and be able to just mingle.

More later…

 

[Saint Turgid]

San fran area meeting

Hi all,

I live in the Bay Area and a San Francisco get together sounds like a smashing idea, though the issue of an appropriate venue could be problematic. I thought the Edewater closed last year (the one I'm thinking of is located near the Oakland Airport) and was remodeled as a regular hotel. I've heard of Lush. I believe it's a couple's only club. As for drinks, there's only about one billion great bars and restaurants in the Bay Area, so that shouldn't be a problem (anyone for Polynesian Basque cuisine?).

Suggestions anyone?

St. T

 

[sufi]

wir havin way too much fun now

On the verge,
If you make me concentrate on what you mean any harder, smoke'll pour out of my ears.

Oh, I didn't know the Edgewater is no more..

If I don't start hearing from actual denizens of the city, I'll definitely hold out for an eastbay meeting place.

 

[cymbidia]

I'm in the north bay, also in the Santa Rosa area. I'm active on the General Board, a moderator on the BDSM Forum here, and out in my local BDSM community.

I don't like stupid people or liars and smarmy men make me move into "bitch" mode. I like sunsets, long walks on the beach, and candlelit dinners...oh wait. That's my bondage.com ad.
[insert smirking smilie here]

I need to make something very clear with regard to the little words game we're all playing at present: i'm totally uninterested in meeting anyone from Lit for any reason other than as a completely social group get-together in a public place. Unless you're an experienced dominant, there's nothing that will ever happen between us beyond a smile and a hug, maybe, so let's not waste any time there, okay?

Now a purely social get-together? Possibly. Maybe. Has the makings of some fun. But, why the east bay? ~whine whine whine whine whine~ Do you know how far that is from Santa Rosa?

 

[Ukin]

I'm in the north bay, also in the Santa Rosa area. I'm active on the General Board, a moderator on the BDSM Forum here, and out in my local BDSM community.

I don't like stupid people or liars and smarmy men make me move into "bitch" mode. I like sunsets, long walks on the beach, and candlelit dinners...oh wait. That's my bondage.com ad.
[insert smirking smilie here]

I need to make something very clear with regard to the little words game we're all playing at present: i'm totally uninterested in meeting anyone from Lit for any reason other than as a completely social group get-together in a public place. Unless you're an experienced dominant, there's nothing that will ever happen between us beyond a smile and a hug, maybe, so let's not waste any time there, okay?

Now a purely social get-together? Possibly. Maybe. Has the makings of some fun. But, why the east bay? ~whine whine whine whine whine~ Do you know how far that is from Santa Rosa?

I have no idea how far it is...but if you want a lift - if it ever get's going- let me know...and yes, I have read and understood every word you wrote

 

[Huntress]

Hu-man interest

Sufi, love...

There seems to be a surfeit of male posters in your thread! What a tempting and glorious selection for one gal to contemplate, but methinks we'd better try and attract a few ladies besides myself, or you'll be using a big spatula to peel me off the floor when all is said and done.

Ladies? Where are you? There's are some luscious masculine types hungering for attention here!

~H

P.S.

Damned cross-posting gremlin managed to get it's sticky little fingers on this thread before I'd seen your post, Cymbidia. Nice to see a NorCal lady showing some interest.

I'm pretty sure that Sufi would be open to a west bay locale -- and a preliminary social gathering is an unqualified "must" before moving into any other arena or venue.

One inviolable rule for any gathering, social or intimate, is that respect of the individual is paramount -- unassailable. Should you decide to join us, your wishes and preferences will be honored, m'lady.

 

[on_the_verge]

I'm in the north bay, also in the Santa Rosa area. I'm active on the General Board, a moderator on the BDSM Forum here, and out in my local BDSM community.

I don't like stupid people or liars and smarmy men make me move into "bitch" mode. I like sunsets, long walks on the beach, and candlelit dinners...oh wait. That's my bondage.com ad.
[insert smirking smilie here]

I need to make something very clear with regard to the little words game we're all playing at present: i'm totally uninterested in meeting anyone from Lit for any reason other than as a completely social group get-together in a public place. Unless you're an experienced dominant, there's nothing that will ever happen between us beyond a smile and a hug, maybe, so let's not waste any time there, okay?

Now a purely social get-together? Possibly. Maybe. Has the makings of some fun. But, why the east bay? ~whine whine whine whine whine~ Do you know how far that is from Santa Rosa?

I am all too ready to exercise that I am willing to engage in group get-togethers only, and do not care for any one-on-one as well. I imagine in so many complex words -- where my thoughts are ahead of my typing -- that I am trying too state as quoted above, whew!

 

[on_the_verge]

Re: wir havin way too much fun now

On the verge,
If you make me concentrate on what you mean any harder, smoke'll pour out of my ears.

Sorry, I lost my lighter earlier. Anyway, with no more steam or smoke, all I am saying is that I have done a few Lit meetings (not to say I would lump any of them in one particular opinion) and I think they are an interesting invitiation beyond the digits. The crooked connection is that you cannot always expect or transfer what "we" do on Lit into "Real Life." The key thing is to respect each other as a community in the physical as "we so do" online. Let's just notate that getting people together is a splendid idea, but to be selfish to fulfill ones own devices are not. Besides, I enjoy thhe sensual draw of life within the box and outside of it all -- where the eyes draw many angles and tones that digits cannot always do.

So, how is the smoke or is the flames we (as like minds) should be discussing?

 

[sufi]

this is getting heavy

Verge,

As always thought provoking, you raise an interesting point.
Certainly an under appreciated feature of the virtual community as a whole is that we don't usually do as we write.

An online hunk may be a balding overweight accountant (no offense to balding overweight accountants-but I hope we all know why we lie). Anyone who attends a meeting face to face must be ready to accept each of us whom we have 'known' online as they really are. Conversely we should be ready accept changes in our online relationships as a result of having surprised our online friends with our real faces!

This is a challenge for us. Maybe it'll take courage to come clean if we have not been forthright or stand up for our image of ouselves if we've been 'misperceived'.

Cym:

The meeting to my mind, is to enlarge our social world to engage anyone socially who will accept us and all of our idiosyncratic (clinically, deviant) sexual proclivities.

Maybe it's because I'm new to this lifestyle that I don't have a wide body of friendships that are so non-judgemental as to accept me in how my intimate life is enlarging. I can think of nothing as self-affirming as the kind of acceptance I envision.

Certainly, I want something out of this community besides a glass of wine and some tittilating innuendos. Let me speak to this specifically.

• The most innocent desire is to have friends who can see other's deviance as just as valid and meaningful as our own.
  
  Psychologically, we are often judgemental, even vindictive towards lezzies, cuckolds, fags, breeders, fucksluts, bulls, dom/subs, swingers, whatever, largely because our identities are left at the edge of the bell curve. We are WOUNDED and we can be as self absorbed and cruel to others out here on the edge as the vanilla hetero-monogamous hegemony is to ourselves.
  
  We need to give each other a break, this community can perform a vital healing function for its constituents. I hope I'm clear in my thoughts about this.

• Yes, I hope this community can also ultimately provide me intimate partners. We already have some sense of each other in how that could possibly happen. No one has posted (to my knowledge) with the aim of hiding their predilections. Any woman member of 'this community' may anticipate that I would look at her with some interest as a possible match for my intimate prerogatives. My wife would be looking at the personalities and crotches of any men she meets here. But I will not invest my time or energy to create a meat market. We can find that in any number of places here in Babylon West. Our opposite numbers will not find myself or my wife 'easy', we are looking for love (strangelove?).

My wife says I'm being defensive. Not direct.
Let me say more simply, Cym, I wish to invite all my neighbors to participate, feel accepted, and accept each other. I want to engender a warm, safe place to be who we are more fully than we have felt we can be, in person, amoung a group larger than our intimate partners. I mean this group to include those who would not be our intimate partners due to their interests.

I'm sorry to hand you such a thick book. I will step down now and put the soap back in the soap box. I hope we can live up to this 'rhetoric'.

humbly,
sufi

 

[sufi]

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[chromefreak]

Count Me In...

Another Santa Rosan here...

I'd love to meet with the rest of the bay area literoticans (almost sounds like a new political party or something) I'm a social animal, I love other people's company, especially if they make me laugh. I'm also always up for a few pints of beer or cups of coffee.

The last time I met a large group of people from the internet, it was a bunch of the regulars from AOL's Car Chat. We met at the races out at Sears Point. I've learned that when meeting people from my online life, the only thing I can expect is that I won't know what to expect.