Romance vs. Raunch

[kikmosa]

Hey!
From a guy's perspective getting a call just to see how I am and getting a card is very romantic.

That's right. We're talking a lot about what's romantic to a woman. What's romantic to a man? What melts your hearts? I for one would love to know.

 

[dpod]

even more

I'll post more of what I think is romantic. Listening to me when I have a bad day. Just being there. Saying you like my goofy ideas. Gentle caressing. Letting me do something screw it up and don't say anything. I love all of these.

 

[rosylady]

Re: even more

I'll post more of what I think is romantic. Listening to me when I have a bad day. Just being there. Saying you like my goofy ideas. Gentle caressing. Letting me do something screw it up and don't say anything. I love all of these.

Thanks for sharing dpod.

 

[RomanHans]

Hey!
From a guy's perspective getting a call just to see how I am and getting a card is very romantic.

So here's a question dpod--would it still be romantic if I sent you a card?

 

[RomanHans]

That's right. We're talking a lot about what's romantic to a woman. What's romantic to a man? What melts your hearts? I for one would love to know.

Maybe I have stringent standards, but I like to think of romance as a 'transporting experience' (to use the vocabulary of a Zagat's guide)...I think it's romantic when a woman chooses to focus her attention on me, and I on her, and we can act like we're the only two people in the world with reality as an afterthought swirling around us.

I've had that experience probably just a few times in my life, and in circumstances ranging from a dinner at a ritzy restaurant to sharing a private joke while watching a terrible movie in a crowded theater.

Roman

 

[Starfyre]

I'd agree that romantic moments happen in a variety of settings... last summer I went to see a friend from high school... hadn't seen him in 15 years but we talked for hours and hours on the phone once we got back in touch... He convinced me to visit, for just a getaway weekend... renew the friendship, without other ties, and the promise of trying to seduce me.. =) I went expecting it to be somewhat less of an experience than I hoped for... yet I wanted to see him.

One day, while touring a museum, he came running into the room where I was and took my hand... saying, "you have to see this!" and smiling.. and when I went to look and agreed, it was amazing, he kissed me. The security guard was blushing, and so was I!

I wasn't expecting him to be public about our relationship in his town.. We both knew it was a dimension of our friendship and not an engagement, and I expected we'd behave like 'just friends' in public. I thought he was terribly romantic and impulsive.

A different evening, we were sitting together just watching tv and I was so tired... just drifting in and out of sleep, leaning against him. He put his arm around me and kissed my hair.. and whispered, "I'm so glad you're here with me."

The whole visit was great, in bed and out, but those two moments completely stand out to me... his unguarded affection really got to me.

While I was married, my husband once gave me a gift... was a pin to wear on my jacket, but much... gaudier.. than I'd normally choose... I thought to myself, what made him choose this? And then he told me... he thought the design would show up when I'm on stage performing, and that it would go with my concert dress. I think that was romance, too.

Just my thoughts for now.. thanks for 'listening!'
~Starfyre

 

[RomanHans]

Starfyre--Very beautiful.

Roman

 

[bashfull]

Evening

Evening, Ladies. howdy, guys.

Looks like this thread is getting some attention.

Roman~I'm inclined to agree with you regarding the "just doing my job" attitude. I do not believe that is something that is exceptional but is, or should be, responsible.

An example of something romantic I have done that is a little above the responsibility? hmmm...I called her during the day. She informed me she was "losing it". I cleared my schedule. Called a local salon. Booked a facial, manicure, and pedicure for her that afternoon. Stopped by the florist. Took her irises. Took the kids. Told her she had thirty minutes to get to the salon. When she got home, she had the house to herself. There was a note telling her to relax and we would take care of dinner. We came home, cooked an extravegant dinner, then played a family game together. I bathed and bedded the kids. After they were down, I ran a hot bath. I placed a (not sure of what it is called but big smelly bath ball that evaporates) in the tub. I also placed a bunch of those little scented candles around the tub and lit them. Extra candle behind her so she could read. I then called her in and instructed her to relax. Her response for the whole evening: "what's this for? are you going to mow the yard tomorrow? Can we go to my mothers this weekend?" Guess I don't understand pampering and romance.

Which leads me to Kiki's question regarding what is romantic to men? Can't speak for the other gents, but romancing me is fairly simple: Let me pamper and romance and be appreciative of what I do. Let me faun all over you and make your eyes twinkle. Accept and appreciate what I do and who I am.

Whew, didn't mean to wear ya'll out this evening.

 

[Curious_Fem]

Re: Evening

Evening, Ladies. howdy, guys.

Looks like this thread is getting some attention.

Roman~I'm inclined to agree with you regarding the "just doing my job" attitude. I do not believe that is something that is exceptional but is, or should be, responsible.

An example of something romantic I have done that is a little above the responsibility? hmmm...I called her during the day. She informed me she was "losing it". I cleared my schedule. Called a local salon. Booked a facial, manicure, and pedicure for her that afternoon. Stopped by the florist. Took her irises. Took the kids. Told her she had thirty minutes to get to the salon. When she got home, she had the house to herself. There was a note telling her to relax and we would take care of dinner. We came home, cooked an extravegant dinner, then played a family game together. I bathed and bedded the kids. After they were down, I ran a hot bath. I placed a (not sure of what it is called but big smelly bath ball that evaporates) in the tub. I also placed a bunch of those little scented candles around the tub and lit them. Extra candle behind her so she could read. I then called her in and instructed her to relax. Her response for the whole evening: "what's this for? are you going to mow the yard tomorrow? Can we go to my mothers this weekend?" Guess I don't understand pampering and romance.

Which leads me to Kiki's question regarding what is romantic to men? Can't speak for the other gents, but romancing me is fairly simple: Let me pamper and romance and be appreciative of what I do. Let me faun all over you and make your eyes twinkle. Accept and appreciate what I do and who I am.

Whew, didn't mean to wear ya'll out this evening.

*sigh* That made me all warm and fuzzy just reading it.

And it sounds to me like you aren't the one that doesn't understand pampering and romance, she is. Just my opinion.

 

[lustforlife74]

Definately

Romance and Raunch can never be separted. One is intertwined with the other sometimes lovers want hot raunchy sex and other times the sensual loving side takes over. Either way it is fun. The slow loving is what is best in my opinion. Just staring into a womans eyes can be the most sensual thing in the world sometimes. Getting kinky can be just as fun. It is a sliding scale.

 

[Starfyre]

I think lovers can have both sides... I have a lover who amazes me every time... sometimes just with the things he says...! *blushes*

but what I love is that he remembers little things that never fail to push me over the edge... He remembers my reactions to the slightest things... like it's not just his whispering that makes me crazy... it's when he does it with his lips just barely touching my ear... and the way he is always asking me to tell him what I liked most...

he listens, and doesn't forget

Do you think there is romance in that? I do...

 

[bashfull]

Warm and fuzzy

Warm and fuzzy, hmmm. Looking at you, I believe the warm part, but I am thinking, forgive me for saying so, that you are nicely smooth.

As for my previous post, that is one of the least "romantic" activities that I have done in the past. Alas, as they become less and less appreciated, I must confess I just don't do much anymore. One time she commented how she just loved fresh wildflowers. So every other day for month I would stop and get some on the way home. I gave up b/c she would just set them off in a corner, neglected. Wouldn't even get a thank you from her. Really upset me as it would take my time to go and get them. I could have used my time much better.

 

[Curious_Fem]

Re: Warm and fuzzy

Warm and fuzzy, hmmm. Looking at you, I believe the warm part, but I am thinking, forgive me for saying so, that you are nicely smooth.

As for my previous post, that is one of the least "romantic" activities that I have done in the past. Alas, as they become less and less appreciated, I must confess I just don't do much anymore. One time she commented how she just loved fresh wildflowers. So every other day for month I would stop and get some on the way home. I gave up b/c she would just set them off in a corner, neglected. Wouldn't even get a thank you from her. Really upset me as it would take my time to go and get them. I could have used my time much better.

And forgive me for saying this, but you are exactly what my dreams consist of.

 

[bashfull]

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And forgive me for saying this, but you are exactly what my dreams consist of.

Darlin', you don't need forgive for that! But you shoudn't set such low standards. I am not worthy of your dreams.

 

[Curious_Fem]

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Darlin', you don't need forgive for that! But you shoudn't set such low standards. I am not worthy of your dreams.

And you, my dear, underestimate yourself.

 

[bashfull]

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And you, my dear, underestimate yourself.

True, romance is one of the few areas where I might actually do that.

 

[Curious_Fem]

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True, romance is one of the few areas where I might actually do that.

I beg to differ.

 

[bashfull]

Oversight

Ooops, please forgive me for overlooking the new posters.

Lust~welcome. I believe that is what this thread is all about.

Star~Welcome and thank you for sharing, ma'am. I believe we are all awaiting more examples.

 

[Starfyre]

no need to apologize...

It's an interesting topic. =)

And seems to me you're about to get caught up in some romance yourself, sir...

 

[bashfull]

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I beg to differ.

Ahhh, my curiosity is contrary.

for you Curious.

 

[bashfull]

Re: no need to apologize...

It's an interesting topic. =)

And seems to me you're about to get caught up in some romance yourself, sir...

Not sure what you mean by that, ma'am. And I am glad to see you are still around.

 

[Curious_Fem]

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Ahhh, my curiosity is contrary.

for you Curious.

Why thank you bashfull. *blush*

 

[Hornymama]

Is it possible for a man to be both a gentleman and the "bad boy" that women want him to be? Can there coexist romance and ruanch?

I think they it's very possible if not necessary. Us womwn are strange creatures; we want the romance when we want it and the ruanch when we want that. Your job(here's where the hard part comes in) is figuring out what we want when. Seriously though, I know I love the romance but i also love the get down dirty times also. They go hand in hand to me. Especially if what two people have is special between them.

 

[dpod]

Well it would be friendly. I really can't get romantic with other guys. Just not my thing.

So here's a question dpod--would it still be romantic if I sent you a card?

 

[bashfull]

Re: Re: Romance vs. Raunch

I think they it's very possible if not necessary. Us womwn are strange creatures; we want the romance when we want it and the ruanch when we want that. Your job(here's where the hard part comes in) is figuring out what we want when. Seriously though, I know I love the romance but i also love the get down dirty times also. They go hand in hand to me. Especially if what two people have is special between them.

Welcome, Hornymama. Please to meet you, ma'am. I certainly agree. While I love romance, I also like to get raunchy. Hmm. anyone else here going to give examples?