Romance vs. Raunch

[kikmosa]

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Welcome, Hornymama. Please to meet you, ma'am. I certainly agree. While I love romance, I also like to get raunchy. Hmm. anyone else here going to give examples?

Really wish I could add more examples. I really haven't had a lot of experience with romance. Only dated two guys growing up. The first one... well I guess the most romantic thing he ever did was take me to a movie. Then afterward, when he took me home he slid close and looked me deep in the eyes and said......."So, do you think your little sister would go out if I asked her?"
The second guy wasn't really dating. I was his cover so his father wouldn't find out he was dating a guy.
As for my ex... not going there. That's over.
So I don't really have a lot to draw on. Just what I feel and what I've seen in others. My brother-in-law cooks dinner every year on my sisters birthday. And he always takes her some place special for their aniversery.

 

[bashfull]

Whooo boy

Kiki~smile, dear. You'll find someone, even if I have to make the introductions.

Horny~I know I already said welcome, I have to say I really like your AV. Causes me to turn all red.

Mysti~Howdy, darlin'. I know your big racin' weekend is comming up. Got the Porshe all tuned?


AS for romance, someone has to have more examples. Okay, how about ideas? Maybe we should write a story. All of us "romantics" can collaborate on it. Start off with a romantic day, leading to a romantic evening with a some teasing, leading to wild passion later...pardon me, ya'll. I think I need to go shower now...*slinking out of room with hat held low*

 

[Mysticcal]

Re: Whooo boy

Kiki~smile, dear. You'll find someone, even if I have to make the introductions.

Horny~I know I already said welcome, I have to say I really like your AV. Causes me to turn all red.

Mysti~Howdy, darlin'. I know your big racin' weekend is comming up. Got the Porshe all tuned?


AS for romance, someone has to have more examples. Okay, how about ideas? Maybe we should write a story. All of us "romantics" can collaborate on it. Start off with a romantic day, leading to a romantic evening with a some teasing, leading to wild passion later...pardon me, ya'll. I think I need to go shower now...*slinking out of room with hat held low*

bashfull hun

WAH! the porsche isn't gonna make it in time for the weekend, and all I can do is drive down on saturday and maybe catch a couple rides *sniff sniff*

hmmmm, was thinking about romantic ideas......been a long time but I am sure with a little thought I can think of some.....will be back in a few with something

 

[rosylady]

just want to say hello.

 

[bashfull]

just want to say hello.

Evenin', ma'am. Always a pleasure to see you here.

 

[bashfull]

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bashfull hun

WAH! the porsche isn't gonna make it in time for the weekend, and all I can do is drive down on saturday and maybe catch a couple rides *sniff sniff*

hmmmm, was thinking about romantic ideas......been a long time but I am sure with a little thought I can think of some.....will be back in a few with something

Mysti, sweetheart, need me to *tweak* ya' to jog your memory? lol. I will pinch you if I have to, now, dear.

 

[Mysticcal]

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Mysti, sweetheart, need me to *tweak* ya' to jog your memory? lol. I will pinch you if I have to, now, dear.

LOL! my engine can definitely use some tweakin' darlin'

hmmmmm, ok ok.....romance.....LOL! guess I have had a lack of this lately as well. One I do remember fondly though is coming home one night (my bf lived thousands of miles away) and finding my mail box full of notes from him, sharing every time he thought of me, reminiscences of his last visit. Cards, pictures, anything nice he could find to share. It wasn't much.....but it was so sweet, romantic, and I loved it.

 

[bashfull]

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LOL! my engine can definitely use some tweakin' darlin'

hmmmmm, ok ok.....romance.....LOL! guess I have had a lack of this lately as well. One I do remember fondly though is coming home one night (my bf lived thousands of miles away) and finding my mail box full of notes from him, sharing every time he thought of me, reminiscences of his last visit. Cards, pictures, anything nice he could find to share. It wasn't much.....but it was so sweet, romantic, and I loved it.

Thanks for sharing, sweetheart. Personally, I believe that was romantic. But what do I know, eh? I'm just a man. **pinching your bottom anyway*

 

[Mysticcal]

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Thanks for sharing, sweetheart. Personally, I believe that was romantic. But what do I know, eh? I'm just a man. **pinching your bottom anyway*

*giggling* I thought it was romantic.....I love the little things like that. Knowing I am on someone's mind.....being told how they remembered a time we spent together.....a sweet whipered comment in a room full of people.....those add up to romance in my mind.

 

[RomanHans]

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Welcome, Hornymama. Please to meet you, ma'am. I certainly agree. While I love romance, I also like to get raunchy. Hmm. anyone else here going to give examples?

Even more challenging, can you be raunchy and romantic AT THE SAME TIME? Why the dichotomy? Are there situations where it is romantic to be raunchy?

I can think of at least one occasion...when my wife and I were a bit tipsy, had just seen a suggestive show on Broadway, and went browsing through a few adult toy stores to see what we might want to experiment with later that night. No question that the environment and activity was raunchy, but it was also like an extended private joke just between the two of us--and in that sense, certainly romantic.

Roman

 

[RomanHans]

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*sigh* That made me all warm and fuzzy just reading it.

And it sounds to me like you aren't the one that doesn't understand pampering and romance, she is. Just my opinion.

Bashful, from a male point of view, I agree that what you described would probably qualify as romantic under most any conditions. Definitely gives me ideas on how to improve my own record at romance.

One issue I see is that romance by definition requires some response--i.e. it's not romance unless it's romantic for both (or more) parties involved. Otherwise, I'd label it something like unrequited love, or wooing, or (in the worst circumstances) stalking!

Roman

 

[RomanHans]

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Really wish I could add more examples. I really haven't had a lot of experience with romance. Only dated two guys growing up. The first one... well I guess the most romantic thing he ever did was take me to a movie. Then afterward, when he took me home he slid close and looked me deep in the eyes and said......."So, do you think your little sister would go out if I asked her?"
The second guy wasn't really dating. I was his cover so his father wouldn't find out he was dating a guy.
As for my ex... not going there. That's over.
So I don't really have a lot to draw on. Just what I feel and what I've seen in others. My brother-in-law cooks dinner every year on my sisters birthday. And he always takes her some place special for their aniversery.

So, what would make you feel romantic (or romanced)? BTW, I think your avatar is pretty hot as well--it's not what is explicit that's attractive, it's what is inticing and suggestive of things to come...



Roman

 

[MsAngel]

Bashful.. thank you for starting this post. Yes there can be both raunchy and romance in every relationship. Though I have not had that much experience with either I have seen it. I will not dog the men of my past for they are the reason I am who I am today. I have learnt from my mistakes in choosing them as potential b/f's or at least I hope I have learned from my experiences.

But for examples of romance.. I watched my grandpa growing up take care of my grandma till she died. She had had several strokes and at last was bedridden. Instead of putting her in a nursing home he had her here in a bed to care for her. Changed her, bathed her and when my father could help they both would wash her hair. I was only 12 or 13 at the time and could see how much loved and cared for her. After she passed on I thought it wouldn't be long till he went too. No to my surprise he lived to be 94 years old. He still drove up till the last month of his life. A few days before though he had drove his g/f to the doctor. Yes I said g/f. After my grandma passed on he brought out pictures of her and his first wife that he had taken care of till she had passed on (very long story there). But he was lonely and started going to the Senior Center. We were happy for him to get out and have someone to go places with. He was a true romantic and I compare all the men I date to him and my father. I want someone that is going to stand by me as I will him when one of us is ill.

Now I could go on and on about other things I have seen (not really experienced) that I thought was romantic but you asked about raunchy too.

To combine the two would be like having a nice evening out, dinner, dancing, light caresses on the arm, back, neck. Looking in the eyes of the person you are with and just getting that fluttery feeling deep in your stomach. Sweet light kisses on the cheek... then to lean into your partner and whisper into his/her ear and tell them exactly how you want to make love to/or just fuck them at first chance you get. And throughout the evening whisper things in their ear you know drives them wild. Letting them know how special they are to letting them know you don't have any panties/boxers on.

Ok.. I think I gave more then my two cents. When I get on a roll I can't seem to stop. Take care!

Ms Angel

 

[RomanHans]

Ok.. I think I gave more then my two cents. When I get on a roll I can't seem to stop. Take care!

Ms Angel [/B]

I think that getting on a roll is the point of this thread--no apologies necessary. Thanks, Ms. Angel.

Here are some more combinations of raunch and romance--an intimate dinner for two at an out-of-the-way table at a strip club...or a fancy dinner in an exclusive restaurant, with neither person wearing any undergarments...(maybe that is too similar to the scene with Jennifer Beals and Michael Nouri in 'Flashdance').

Roman

 

[MsAngel]

I think that getting on a roll is the point of this thread--no apologies necessary. Thanks, Ms. Angel.

Here are some more combinations of raunch and romance--an intimate dinner for two at an out-of-the-way table at a strip club...or a fancy dinner in an exclusive restaurant, with neither person wearing any undergarments...(maybe that is too similar to the scene with Jennifer Beals and Michael Nouri in 'Flashdance').

Roman

Thank you Roman. Well considering that I have grown up in the country where alcohol is only sold in one town out of the whole county. There are no strip clubs for hours away. So my idea of romantic nights are sitting in a swing under the stars holding hands, long walks in the woods during the day. sitting along the edge of creek/pond listening to the music of the night. I live in a simple life would not know what to do in the bigger cities for a romantic night out. And as for "Flashdance"... lol Well I would not just whip my bra off in front of a man on the first date..lol Unless of course he had a very good mix of romance and raunchiness in him!!

 

[bashfull]

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Even more challenging, can you be raunchy and romantic AT THE SAME TIME? Why the dichotomy? Are there situations where it is romantic to be raunchy?

I can think of at least one occasion...when my wife and I were a bit tipsy, had just seen a suggestive show on Broadway, and went browsing through a few adult toy stores to see what we might want to experiment with later that night. No question that the environment and activity was raunchy, but it was also like an extended private joke just between the two of us--and in that sense, certainly romantic.

Roman

Roman~I would argue that there is not a dichotomy. Rather, it is in the interlacing of the two that brings both to greater heights and awareness. "The sum is greater than the parts".

Also, you mentioned that having a receptive audience is essential. I had never considered this before. Pondering that statement, I would absolutely agree with you. Perhaps that is why I doubt my own romanticism. hmmm.

BTW, I appreciate the depth of thought you put into your posts, here and on Nerdy Chicks. We'll have to have a beer together if ya' ever make it to good ole' Virginia.

 

[bashfull]

I just gotta' say it

Bashful.. thank you for starting this post. Yes there can be both raunchy and romance in every relationship.

He was a true romantic and I compare all the men I date to him and my father.

Ms Angel

Who's your Daddy!?! Sorry, hon, I just couldn't help myself. lol. Welcome the thread. And thank you for posting.

 

[IrishWolfhound]

Hello...a friend sent me here. She said it reminds her of our early word play. And yes a man can have romance & raunch (I prefer eroticism).

True story: The lady I love was being barraged with some low class raunch one night. I happened to say something romantic to her. We were drawn together by that.

Not to plug...but read my "As You lay sleeping" for erotic romanticism.

 

[bashfull]

Howdy

Hello...a friend sent me here. She said it reminds her of our early word play. And yes a man can have romance & raunch (I prefer eroticism).

True story: The lady I love was being barraged with some low class raunch one night. I happened to say something romantic to her. We were drawn together by that.

Not to plug...but read my "As You lay sleeping" for erotic romanticism.

Howdy, Irish. Welcome to the thread and thanks for posting. I don't know if I would categorize raunch and eroticism together. For me, eroticism can be more alluring and teasing. Raunch, to me, is more "dirty and naughty". I would think that eroticism is broader.

 

[IrishWolfhound]

Re: Howdy

Howdy, Irish. Welcome to the thread and thanks for posting. I don't know if I would categorize raunch and eroticism together. For me, eroticism can be more alluring and teasing. Raunch, to me, is more "dirty and naughty". I would think that eroticism is broader.

Then I guess I run in the gray zone between. I will be dirty...but in a romantic context. Soft candle light & wine...and teeth sucking & biting a nipple. Leading her quietly to our bed...then marking her with my teeth. Romance & raunch if you like that term.

 

[bashfull]

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Then I guess I run in the gray zone between. I will be dirty...but in a romantic context. Soft candle light & wine...and teeth sucking & biting a nipple. Leading her quietly to our bed...then marking her with my teeth. Romance & raunch if you like that term.

I was just suggesting that eroticism need not be raunchy. I believe a simple smile or glance with undertones can be highly erotic. A quick glimpse of a thigh, a slight caress when touching that lasts just a moment longer than necessary...making the receiver wonder "was it intentional?'...One can tease and be erotic while never being raunchy. However, ruanch, by its definition includes eroticism...or so I believe the definition of eroticism to be. Please pardon me, ya'll while I go find my dictionary.

 

[IrishWolfhound]

Most certainly. The lightest caress on the cheek is far more erotic than any raunch. I only submit that the two are not incompatible. The caress on the cheek may be followed a grope on the tush, and still be romantic.

 

[bashfull]

ooops

Most certainly. The lightest caress on the cheek is far more erotic than any raunch. I only submit that the two are not incompatible. The caress on the cheek may be followed a grope on the tush, and still be romantic.

appears I edited at the same time you posted.

 

[IrishWolfhound]

So it appears. I think we are saying the same thing, just with different words.

The bottom line I think...it is as important to appeal to your lovers heart and mind as his/her body & libido.

 

[bozinka]

Is it possible for a man to be both a gentleman and the "bad boy" that women want him to be? Can there coexist romance and ruanch?

Hi Bashfull!!!

Just saw that this was your thread, so had to pop in....

I do think so. If I can be both, I think a guy can too. I am sure there are plenty of men out there who are completely polite, romantic etc during the day, outside of the bedroom. But get them going, and they can be as dirty and raunchy as the next guy. They are just the ones who have learned there is a time and place for everything....

And dear - I'd be willing to wager you were one of the above....