Romance vs. Raunch

[bashfull]

Yeah, you better seek an answer..

And you just need a more compatible woman that is all. The chickies you have found thus far are perhaps not worthy of you?

Just an idea.
Go and find another woman to paint..lolo....it is late..sorry......

Thank you, Batch. Perhaps it is I who is not worthy? Per chance I believe myself romantic but, in truth, am naught but dull? Or am I lacking in measure? (I am referring to romance, people! lol)

Hmmm, poses interesting question: How do we not only define romance, but measure its worth?

 

[rosylady]

IMO, what is romantic to one person may be raunchy to the next. Perception is key. You need to experiment with each person. That is part of getting to know someone, finding their likes and dislikes.

(p.s very romantic av , Bash.)

 

[bashfull]

IMO, ...

(p.s very romantic av , Bash.)

Thanks, rosylady. And I am assuming you are referring the the "romantic" AV I had up earlier and not this one?

BTW, forgive my ignorance. What does IMO mean?

 

[rosylady]

Thanks, rosylady. And I am assuming you are referring the the "romantic" AV I had up earlier and not this one?

BTW, forgive my ignorance. What does IMO mean?

yes was referring to the other AV. IMO- in my opinion.

 

[bashfull]

yes was referring to the other AV. IMO- in my opinion.

Thank you, ma'am. I had the not so nice AV b/c of "I Hate It When..." thread. Arden was accusing me of starting to like "twinkies". Apparently, all this mushy stuff is leading some to the wrong impression.

 

[rosylady]

Thank you, ma'am. I had the not so nice AV b/c of "I Hate It When..." thread. Arden was accusing me of starting to like "twinkies". Apparently, all this mushy stuff is leading some to the wrong impression.

I like mushy stuff, and thanks for putting the av back.

 

[bashfull]

I like mushy stuff, and thanks for putting the av back.

For you, ma'am, anything.

 

[rosylady]

For you, ma'am, anything.

Thank you. And some might say that being called ma'am makes them feel old. but I know your only being polite.

 

[bashfull]

Thank you. And some might say that being called ma'am makes them feel old. but I know your only being polite.

Ma'am, I am older than you. And I use words, not for offense (well, maybe sometimes) but as terms of endearment. Thank you for realizing the difference. And contributing to this thread.

 

[rosylady]

Ma'am, I am older than you. And I use words, not for offense (well, maybe sometimes) but as terms of endearment. Thank you for realizing the difference. And contributing to this thread.

LOL, when you said you were older, I was thinking maybe late 40's but your not that much older at all. Thanks for being a sweetie.

 

[bashfull]

LOL, when you said you were older, I was thinking maybe late 40's but your not that much older at all. Thanks for being a sweetie.

I don't know if I am sweet or not. I just believe in manners.

 

[Mysticcal]

Thank you, Batch. Perhaps it is I who is not worthy? Per chance I believe myself romantic but, in truth, am naught but dull? Or am I lacking in measure? (I am referring to romance, people! lol)

Hmmm, poses interesting question: How do we not only define romance, but measure its worth?

I have to say, I find you anything but dull or lacking bash.....and I think that romance is a feeling shared between two people. A gift one gives to the other.....sometimes "mushy" other times sweet....always thoughtful and caring.

Anything else is a game, and that to me falls out of romance, and can lead to hurt. Not knocking games, they are fun, but I like boundaries then, knowing the rules up front.

As for measuring it's worth, no idea.....and I like to think that I don't measure the worth of anyone I care about. And hopefully, they aren't measuring my worth either. lol....IMHO

 

[rosylady]

I don't know if I am sweet or not. I just believe in manners.

Manners define whether you are a neanderthal or a gentleman. So good for you. (p.s my friends call me Rosy.)

 

[kikmosa]

A romantic, to me, is someone who cares more for the person s/he is with then themselves. Someone that goes a step further to make the other feel wanted and needed. I believe many have romantic feelings but are afraid to show them because they don't want others to belittle them or think less of them.
Romance doesn't require candlelight, soft music, or wine. Sometimes it's better expressed in the little things. Like making sure their favorite show gets taped if they have to miss it. Or going to a show you think boring or too bloody just so they can enjoy it. Or having a warm cup of cocoa waiting when they come in from the cold. Or even just a hug when they need one.
Those are the things that make a romantic, not the trappings, but the heart and soul behind them.

 

[bashfull]

Welcome

Welcome Kiki. And thank you for posting.

Rosy~I am honored.

 

[bashfull]

How about some examples?

Kiki~thank you for your insight, dear.

For the other posters and lurkers out there, how about sharing some examples of romance? Come on, help a boy out? Please?

 

[rosylady]

This is Romantic to me.......

Husband comes home with take-out and offers to watch the kids while I have a nap and a nice leisurely bath.

Not much but it means alot.

 

[RomanHans]

This is Romantic to me.......

Husband comes home with take-out and offers to watch the kids while I have a nap and a nice leisurely bath.

Not much but it means alot.

Hey, not fair! Romance in the context of married with kids is a different animal from the classic concept of romance as courting/wooing. I know from experience.

Also, in my opinion, the fact that I am willing and able to cook dinner on a weeknight and give my kids a bath so that my wife has some peace and quiet is not a romantic gesture--it's just being realistic and sensible about the needs of my better half. Is showing someone else some consideration enough to qualify as 'romantic?'

Roman

 

[Batch]

Hey, not fair! Romance in the context of married with kids is a different animal from the classic concept of romance as courting/wooing. I know from experience.

Also, in my opinion, the fact that I am willing and able to cook dinner on a weeknight and give my kids a bath so that my wife has some peace and quiet is not a romantic gesture--it's just being realistic and sensible about the needs of my better half. Is showing someone else some consideration enough to qualify as 'romantic?'

Roman

if that is all you get, YES... some men haven't got a clue about how exhausting it is to be at home with small children 24/7 and any break is a romantic gesture, in my book.

And of course when he went to all the florist shops in town and got all the rose petals he could, and sprinlked them on our bed that night, it is also romantic.

Or the time he sent two dozen long stemmed red roses to my work on my birthday, it was huge, looked like a small shrubbery, and all my co-workers found reasons to come to my room to see my flowers, hey that was romanitc too.
Or the time he had a Vermont teddy bear sent to me in a box, which had an airhole, for Valentines day, yep, romantic.

 

[rosylady]

if that is all you get, YES... some men haven't got a clue about how exhausting it is to be at home with small children 24/7 and any break is a romantic gesture, in my book.

Thank you Batch, that was my point. Romantic gestures change when you get married. Its not what your husband hasn't done but what he has that is out of the ordinary for him.

 

[RomanHans]

Thank you Batch, that was my point. Romantic gestures change when you get married. Its not what your husband hasn't done but what he has that is out of the ordinary for him.

I'd probably be among the first to admit that I've let the romance escape from my marriage, at least from time to time...My idea of romance, however, is an act that shows real thoughtfulness and an attempt to appeal to what you know about the inner nature of the one you're romancing. It might be considered romantic for me to cook an intimate dinner of goulash for two for me and my wife, unless she has repeatedly told me before how much she hates beets.

Given that counter-example, I'd better come up with actual ideas of how I'd romance someone, especially since I've often claimed to be a romantic...

Roman

 

[kikmosa]

I'd probably be among the first to admit that I've let the romance escape from my marriage, at least from time to time...My idea of romance, however, is an act that shows real thoughtfulness and an attempt to appeal to what you know about the inner nature of the one you're romancing. It might be considered romantic for me to cook an intimate dinner of goulash for two for me and my wife, unless she has repeatedly told me before how much she hates beets.

Given that counter-example, I'd better come up with actual ideas of how I'd romance someone, especially since I've often claimed to be a romantic...

Roman

Try coming home and just telling her how much she means to you, holding her and telling her how beautiful she is. Order dinner out and after feeding the kids settle them in front of the T.V. Then go and draw her a hot bath with scent, lead her into the bathroom and slowly undress her. Help her into the tub and lay her back with a rolled towel at her neck for comfort. Kneel becide the tub and gently bath her, letting her relax and just feel. Don't try to 'start' snything but if it happens then give her release. When she totally relaxed help her from the tub and place a robe around her and lead her to the bed. Lay her down and cover her and then go out and tend the children. You may be surprized when you do finally make it to bed. She'll be rested and relaxed and probably turned on. If so make slow gentle love to her until both of you are exhausted. Then snuggle with her and hold her as you both drift to sleep.

 

[va_angel2u]

I'd probably be among the first to admit that I've let the romance escape from my marriage, at least from time to time...My idea of romance, however, is an act that shows real thoughtfulness and an attempt to appeal to what you know about the inner nature of the one you're romancing. It might be considered romantic for me to cook an intimate dinner of goulash for two for me and my wife, unless she has repeatedly told me before how much she hates beets.

Given that counter-example, I'd better come up with actual ideas of how I'd romance someone, especially since I've often claimed to be a romantic...

Roman

Roman, you just explained why that was romantic to her. Her husband was doing "an act that shows real thoughtfulness and an attempt to appeal to what you know about the inner nature of the one you're romancing". He was thoughtful enough to realize that she spends her time taking care of kids and fixing meals. He was thoughtful enough to find a way to give her a break from it. Her inner nature may be one of someone who needs to have time to themselves.

VA

 

[rosylady]

Roman, you just explained why that was romantic to her. Her husband was doing "an act that shows real thoughtfulness and an attempt to appeal to what you know about the inner nature of the one you're romancing". He was thoughtful enough to realize that she spends her time taking care of kids and fixing meals. He was thoughtful enough to find a way to give her a break from it. Her inner nature may be one of someone who needs to have time to themselves.

VA

Thank You Va. My point is what is romantic to me, might not be to someone else.

 

[dpod]

Hey!
From a guy's perspective getting a call just to see how I am and getting a card is very romantic.